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TOPIC: Newbies and Feelings
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michdom12
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SO, my gf and I are looking to get into this. We are a bit unique in that we have a large age gap. I am 43, she is 23. The realist in me feels that humans aren't inherently monogamous (see my marriage!) and that some sort of sexual arrangement other than monogamy is a way to more effective relationships. I am not a "poly" guy (at least not right now). I am not a multiple bf/gf kind of guy and I am not a "we get side action from time to time kind of guy." But I think I could become these things with a slow introduction and we think swinging is a way to start. We are already kinky and exploratory; this feels like it makes sense as a logical first step. I am excited about having "permission" to have sex with another woman, but I am completely unsure of how I would feel seeing/hearing her with another man. The Gen X-er in me is having trouble letting go of the monogamous lessons we were taught. SO, what if we do this and I am really hurt? What if I never look at her the same way again? What if it ruin's our relationship? If jealousy does appear, how did you all address it and overcome it? I'm not convinced I will be upset, I just want to be ready to deal with any untoward emotions that may crop up.
I am sure this is exactly why experienced couples eschew newbies (but, I don't care - I'll do what make US comfortable). But - advice about feelings should they pop up from you experienced folks?
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TOPIC: Newbies and Feelings
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