What are the good swinger club recommendations? (As of August 2020)

My spouse and I are exploring this new part of our lives and we’re looking to visit a swingers club together for the first time to get a feel for the environment as we are very curious and interested.

As I search online I see the options are limited due to pandemic reasons.

I really only see Checkmates - seems most positively mentioned In Manhattan but almost no other details

Caligula - Seems best choice outside Manhattan but I’m told it’s mostly black/Latino and it’s in the late 30s-late40s age group? I’m told it’s nice and classy.

Labyrinth - I’m told it’s a terrible experience now due to too many single guys just following the females around and stroking like hyenas

Pendulum - I’m told this is more for BDSM, tying up, spanking, flogging, more on play less on sex type club?

Chemistry/OneLegUp/BoweryBliss and more - I’m told these are either permanently closed or temporarily due to covid?

My spouse and I mainly wanted to attend an event where we could sit and talk with other swingers to discuss life, as well as with consent to watch other people at the event play with each other.

Please give me any suggestions or advice for NY or Long Island, thank you so much!