Yes this is a sex site. Yes we're here b/c we have bigger and freakier appetites than the normal couple. Yes we go to some effort to be explicit about our play expectations in our own profile. Yes we're EVENTUALLY going to want to know about your experience level, sexual interests, play style, STI history, etc.

BUT none of that means we want you to come at us in the very first message or two telling us about this or that cock you sucked or wanted to suck or (creepiest of all) got forced to suck (we get that one a couple times per year), or how you stuck a dildo up your ass last Tuesday and are contacting us b/c you now want to try a real dick (we seriously get a variant of that a few times per month) or the bi couple you were a regular with for X years til they "had to move away to Y state" (as if there are no cars, planes or trains…that latter one, btw, s the SLS SM equivalent to the Vanilla joke about "my girlfriend lives in Canada").

Until you know the vibe and have some rapport going with us JUST BE NORMAL. Introduce yourself, express your interest, say something that indicates you actually took the time to read our profile. If you must talk sex talk in the first message, just tell us something NON GRAPHIC about whether you have any actual bi experience (again, nothing elaborate or graphic). Those simple things all but guarantee you a conversation. Be reasonably fit and decent looking on top of that and you're gonna get a meet-greet date at a minimum. Show up to the meet greet looking reasonably like your pics, be able to hold a non sexual conversation and you're very likely gonna get a play date. Be able to demonstrate you know how to interact with a non-cuck bi couple and actually perform with a full erection for a couple of hours (the whisky limp dick and never quite fully erect stage fright dick struggles are all too real boys) and you'll become a regular. This really truly is not difficult yet so so so many cannot figure it out.

Put it this way, would you go on Match, see a Vanilla girl you found attractive and have your opening message be "hi I'm 6.5 cut, shaved bare and I'd love to finger my own ass while I eat your pussy" (another one we've actually gotten a variant of many times). No. No you wouldn't. You'd pretty much never use those words with someone you just met IRL. Instead you'd chat her up a bit, get the vibe going and read her cues about if/ when to start the sexy talk.

Well, here to tell ya, the only diff b/n the LS and Vanilla in that regard is how fast the process goes. If you're interested in us and we're interested in you we'll be down to checking play compatibility within about 5 messages. We may not be a DTF super fast hook up but we are a REAL hook up which stands in stark contrast to most of the bi listed guys and cpls on here who are really just dudes living out a bi fantasy behind a computer.

But if your first contact is graphically telling us what you have done with others, do to yourself or would like to do with or to us, we're going to pass no matter what you look like.

The end.