To be honest the best approach is to be friendly, and engaging at first. Everyone wants something different. Even we want to try different role-play fantasy. For instance we are wanting to find 2 guys who are friendly and playful but not dominant. It's going to take some really cool guys to handle it. It won't happen unless we can find the right guys and they are almost non-existent for special role play scenarios unless its bbc. If I perceive your opening line to be all about your needs then I'm lost right away. A woman needs a little bit more than a dick pic.