I started talking to someone who’s pretty big in the lifestyle. After few days of talking, we started sharing stories and pictures. Then we decided to meet. It was supposed to be at a public event in the area where I needed to be sponsored to get in. She offered to sponsor I accepted. The day before she messaged me and told me she needed to tell me something before meeting. Yes sure, I responded hesitantly. She replied: “well I have been with HSV2 for a long time now. It’s not active and I take precautions to keep it as such and not pass it to others.” Although, right there and then i decided not pursue this encounter. I replied: “ yes, sure. I understand. That’s no biggie.” I could not tell her no and hurt her feelings. But I knew wile I have the option to choose I would not put myself in such predicament, even if there was no chance of contracting it. And yes I know it’s 2019 and HSV2 isn’t a big deal anymore. Then it hit me, she told me a story of a challenge she did when she was a fluffer for someone who wanted swallow 33 cum load one night. I then started to wonder, did all those men knew about her status that night. I am fortunate that she told me and I am forever grateful for that. But how many people don’t get to know because their partner keep that a secret even though there’s no chance of passing it down. Lesson to this story, group play doesn’t always mean safe play if you don’t know and trust everyone you’re playing with. Also be straightforward about your status and don’t put other people health at risk. It’s not worth it