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TOPIC: looking for advice
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Created by:
MntnIslandCpl
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HI,
My wife and I have been together for roughly 20 years, happily married for 14 years with 2 children. We talk about everything and I believe have a very good relationship. Given that, we've shared our fantasies and she has told me she always had a fantasy of being with 2 men at the same time (myself and another). Unfortunately, we are both 'over thinkers' and we discussed everything. How would this impact our relationship? How would we find someone we were comfortable with? What about diseases? What if the kids ever found out? etc. After all these questions, we somewhat concluded it wasn't right for us. There was too much risk and perhaps something we should do later on in life. As I thought about this more, I felt we were holding her back and we could perhaps explore this more - and it might be fun. I asked her if I found someone, what would she think. She immediately responded with, maybe later. After more time passed, I asked again and she once again said maybe later. After roughly a year, I asked again and she said she didn't know anyone that I'd be comfortable with and that we were getting too old anyway; our time had passed for this. Given all this, I was thinking of trying to bring her to a local lifestyle event and see what happens. I don't want to force anything, but I also don't want to hold her back and think it could be fun. Adding to the complexity, we don't live anywhere near our families. Our lives are centered around our kids (7 and 10) so we don't have a 'regular' sitter. Being new and extremely nervous, what are others thoughts? Have others had similar concerns or nervousness 'entering' the lifestyle? Thank you for the advice and information.
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TOPIC: looking for advice
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