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there is a new form of gonorehea u cant get rid of
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > there is a new form of gonorehea u cant get rid of       07-31-2011 19:22 PM
This is true, though this form of gonorrhoeae has been know of since 2003, and is under surveillance by the CDC. Though it is not treatable by some classes of antibiotics, most notably penicillin and related antibiotics, it is not completely untreatable, as there are other antibiotics that are available, though less commonly used. Also, just because a disease is not treatable with antibiotics, many peoples immune systems can clear the infection, albeit in a longer period than if treated. The current statistics say that this is not likely widespread yet, though it may become more widespread with time. Protect yourself as always, get tested, and as always, seek prompt care for any infections.
WHY FEW STRAIGHT WOMEN ON SLS
FORUMS > The Bi Sexual Swinger > Bi Females > WHY FEW STRAIGHT WOMEN ON SLS       07-31-2011 15:35 PM
There might be a correlation. Speaking only for myself, we started talking about alternative lifestyles because I am bi. While I enjoy sex with other guys, we started this foray because I wanted to continue having sex with women. I think a lot of women also use the freedom the lifestyle provides to explore latent curiosities about women. Keep in mind though, most women do NOT have to play bi to have a good time, and a bicurious or even bi woman might be happy to play with a straight couple with no pressure for girl/girl action. Not sure if I answered the question or not, but best of luck.
single guys always asking for advice, here you go
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinging Single > single guys always asking for advice, here you go       07-30-2011 10:16 AM
Honestly, for me, personality is 50-75% of what turns me on about a guy. It's got little or nothing to do with the equipment in the shed. If someone is genuinely pleasant, civil, well mannered and well educated, it goes a long way to get things going for me. I have met some men who could be on magazines that made me dry up like someone stuffed me with cotton because their attitude was fake, forced, or too aggressive/entitled, and I have met some average guys that I can't WAIT to play with because they are truly gentlemen. When people who aren't genuinely nice or well mannered try to fake it, it comes across, at best, like they are a used car salesman, at worst, like they are hiding something both terrible and creepy. My opinion solely, but I think that if a single guy is having issues, rather than faking a great personality and bragging about the size of his penis, he should take some lessons on chivalry and try and genuinely change to be a nice, friendly, and outgoing person.
I would like to find out how to meet real legit ppl here
FORUMS > Successful Swinging > Finding Playmates > I would like to find out how to meet real legit ppl here       07-30-2011 10:09 AM
I agree with the above poster! While we have met a few people directly from this website, its been an even better tool in alerting us to events, where we have met dozens of fantastic friends!
Free members: Are they worth it
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > Free members: Are they worth it       07-30-2011 10:07 AM
I agree with Jim, Also, factoring in situations like mine, where I am currently a paid member, but due to unemployment issues, I will likely have a 'lapse' in paid coverage for about a month until I start teaching again. Just because a member is free, doesn't mean they are fakes or lookie lou's, it might just mean that budgets are tight. Heck, some people even recommend that, if you're poor, have lots of sex. It keeps you warm, makes you feel good, and relieves the stress of money problems for a short while! I will agree that communicating with free members might be a tad more complicated, which is why hubby and I set up an anonymous email only for 'lifestyle' stuff. If there is a free member that contacts us, or whom we are interested in, we pass along that email quickly, so we can keep in contact.
Testing for HIV and Hepatitis
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > Testing for HIV and Hepatitis       07-29-2011 16:06 PM
Exactly what fun said. For example, while HIV -can- be spread through oral contact, it is MUCH more likely to be spread through intercourse, particularly anal sex. Hep. C is also typically a blood borne infection, and it would be extremely rare to spread it though oral sex, assuming that neither partner is bleeding at the time. Oral sex does come with risks, and it is easy to spread herpes, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, and in rare cases Chlamydia via oral intercourse alone. For some people, these diseases are within their level of acceptable risk (Gonorrhea, Syph, and Chlamydia can be cured with antibiotics, herpes can be controlled with antiviral medication. So~ don't just glove up to protect from pregnancy, condoms remain the best protection against HIV (according to Avert, an International HIV and AIDS charity).
Testing for HIV and Hepatitis
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > Testing for HIV and Hepatitis       07-27-2011 11:26 AM
If we were asked, we wouldn't have an issue getting 'papers' for a playdate. Most major cities offer free HIV testing and reduced or free 'full panel' STD testing, but areas and clinics vary, so check and see what is included and what is not. I know Baltimore has free 'instant' HIV tests and $35 full panel STD testing. I've never been asked, but I test as the CDC recommends, and get full panel every year. Keep in mind that some STDs, like herpes, are not part of a regular screening, so you have to ask for it (and it can cost extra), so just be aware. Hepatitis and HIV are probably the 2 worst STDs because they are incurable, chronic infections that are deadly. You can be vaccinated against Hep A and B (I've had this done), but its often something not covered by insurance. Hep C is 'un-vaccinable" so the only way to avoid it is to practice safe sex and play with 'safer' partners. I do have a tendency to ramble, so I'll sum it up : We've never been asked, but I don't think its 'out of line' as everyone has their own rules and regs, and if we were asked, we would comply!
weird paradox of being a single guy + angry rant
FORUMS > General Discussions > Men Talk > weird paradox of being a single guy + angry rant       07-27-2011 11:10 AM
It's funny~ I had some (what I thought) extremely witty retorts, and then my grandmothers voice echoed in my head "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." Though, this is the same grandmother who told me "Men are like streetcars, honey. There'll be another one along in 5 minutes." So maybe she isn't the best woman to commune with on a thread about frustrated single men.
weird paradox of being a single guy + angry rant
FORUMS > General Discussions > Men Talk > weird paradox of being a single guy + angry rant       07-27-2011 08:03 AM
I'm not sure what to say (so I debated saying anything), but I don't believe a 'clique jumped this guy'. Mostly, when someone says something inflammatory ("girls get a surplus of dick and/or vagina (too much for them to handle)") or 'excessively whiny' people get upset. Believe me, sir. I play alone on occasion, when I have permission and hubby is out of town, and I can handle ALL of the action I am getting. Multitasking for the win! Also, I won't judge anyone for hopping into the 'lifestyle' single or not, but if you want instant sex with no work, get a blow up doll and some lube. It's hard to maintain relationships, plan get togethers, and keep a positive attitude in a sea of potential rejection. If you don't have that positive attitude, it may behoove you to find a new hobby. Just my (not so) humble opinion. My advice to anyone frustrated with this lifestyle, single or not: Keep you chin up, take a deep breath ( and probably a hard look at your profile), and for goodness sake, get out there and MINGLE! Find local meet and greets and get to know some people in the flesh. Most of the strongest chemistry connections we've had with couples (and singles) has been at meet and greets. There are even couples that we marked 'no interest' on SLS, then met them out and about, and thought "Wow, what an opportunity we would have missed! These people are great!" Ok, I'm ranting now. I'll stop!
Anyone else get annoyed by this
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Anyone else get annoyed by this       07-25-2011 20:39 PM
Some people get their SLS emails forwarded to a personal email, where you can read the entire email, and they can the delete the email on SLS without it ever being "read" on SLS, even though they read it. It's entirely possible that they read the email on their personal email, and for whatever (probably rude) reason, decided not to reply.
Boob job
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Boob job       07-25-2011 13:09 PM
Y'all are seriously making me smile! Thanks!
Boob job
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Boob job       07-25-2011 11:03 AM
Aw, thanks!:D
Boob job
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Boob job       07-24-2011 20:57 PM
Ha! True, though having lived with huge boobs for years, I would have loved some small, perky boobs! Though, I'm sure I'll be popular with big boobs :)
NOT all about the O
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > NOT all about the O       07-24-2011 16:11 PM
I'm no expert, but for me, I know that aside from the "Big O" there are several "little o" moments all along the way, and sometimes those little moments are better than the big one, because you get more of 'em, and its a different experience. Sometimes you want the big one, and sometimes, those little moments are so much better, and all the sensations across my ass, legs, etc, are fantastic in doggy. Just my experiences. Though, maybe you should ask her? She would likely be able to tell you better.
Boob job
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Boob job       07-24-2011 16:07 PM
It seems different for everyone. I've lost about 80 lbs and my cup size hasn't changed (though the band size has), and I'm a bid scared that I'll be 130 lbs with ginormous boobs! Some women just 'store' fat in their breasts, and those women will lose it there first. Best of luck, though!
no responce at all
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinging Single > no responce at all       07-24-2011 10:35 AM
If it's a respectful email that shows thought and consideration of our profile, I will absolutely email back, even if we are not interested. However, the vast majority of emails we get from singles are rude and short, showing only that they may have looked at our pictures. Here are a few gems... "Want to see your 38DDD" "I'd put my dick in your big ass" "I'd love to lick you all over" Sometimes, I'll send a canned 'no thanks' response. But most of the time, with these types of emails, I won't send anything. Honestly, if you can't be respectful, I don't want to waste any more time on you than I already have. I would hope that guys wouldn't go up to women at an event and say these things, but when they hide behind the semi anonymity of the internet, it seems like many single males turn into someone with the couth of a wildabeast. Maybe ignoring them is like saying "STFU!". Maybe I need to learn a bit more patience. But I don't think all emails deserve a response, just the ones with thought, respect, and a general knowledge of my profile. /endrant
Boob job
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Boob job       07-23-2011 21:05 PM
-Rdy~ Thanks so much once again for your kindness. I'm definitely blessed to be where I am now, and my job (I'm a health educator) helps me with the information a bit! I've come a long way on this journey of mine, and I know I'm lucky to have a wonderful husband to hold my hand as we continue our journey together! -Scandel~ Ouch! I hadn't thought about that at all! I'd already been dreading a mammogram (when the time comes), but that certainly does add a new level to it. Does the implant interfere with your monthly self exams? I would worry that if it did, a small lump might get missed. I'd be willing to take the pain for perfect, perky, natural looking breasts, but I would definitely be worried about the self exam aspect of it.
Boob job
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Boob job       07-23-2011 11:46 AM
Thanks everybody! And yes, I know that a consult with a good surgeon will be the best tell me what I will need. I'm sure that I'll likely need a tummy tuck, too, but boobs are more important to me, lol. I just know that it'll be a little sad once I'm down to my goal, because my big ole boobies will likely be small and droopy. :). I wish I hadn't done this to myself in the first place, but the weight was definitely a safety blanket I started packing on after I was sexually assaulted. I just felt safer because to me at the time, fat didn't equal sexy, or desirable at all. The lifestyle has taught me a lot, and I feel like once the weight is gone, I'll be able to put everything behind me! Anyway, even if I do need an implant, its good to know there are natural looking and feeling options out there. I'd hate to walk away with beach balls glued to my chest!
Hiring a Professional
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > Hiring a Professional       07-23-2011 11:18 AM
Eh, don't crawfish! I don't think its an uncommon thought, just one with potentially serious legal ramifications. Unless of course, you make a trip out to Reno, NV, and find a cathouse that entertains couples. That will likely be the safest route, because legally approved cathouses test their girls very regularly. PS. Had to look up crawfishing, lol.
Boob job
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Boob job       07-23-2011 10:18 AM
I could definitely go with perkier, and as I'm on a big of a weight loss journey, I think I should start saving for a lift now. I was 340, now I'm 260, with quite a ways to go, so I think I should have the money by the time I get to my goal! I am completely ignorant, however, to how it all works. Can I get a lift without getting implants?
Hiring a Professional
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > Hiring a Professional       07-23-2011 10:10 AM
I agree with bdh, as usual, lol. Though, if you are going to invest in a 'professional' it might be more legal to just sweeten the pot in your unicorn search. For example, instead of paying out cash to a 'working girl' (which in most states is pretty illegal) offer a nice dinner, hotel, trip, etc. to lure the elusive unicorn.
Being a switch
FORUMS > General Discussions > BDSM > Being a switch       07-23-2011 10:07 AM
I agree that it isn't that uncommon to be a switch. I tend to be more submissive with men, but take charge with women. Different circumstances call for different approaches.
Compliments
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Compliments       07-21-2011 08:33 AM
Just make sure you put some thought into it, in my opinion. I know I personally don't appreciate a one line email "Nice Tits", for example. Compliments are fantastic if they are actually compliments and not something a construction worker would holler at a woman as she walks past. Just my (not so) humble opinion. :)
shy about my uncut u know
FORUMS > General Discussions > Men Talk > shy about my uncut u know       07-20-2011 22:17 PM
I've actually never seen an 'uncut' in person, believe it or not. I know visually, in pictures and porn, uncut does not turn me on, and I prefer cut from a purely visual standpoint. I wouldn't however, turn down a playmate if he were uncut because that is not a deal breaker for me. Everyone has their deal breakers, and I certainly understand if someone doesn't agree with my sentiment. I would not, however, be embarrassed about your penis, regardless of its circumcision status. Everyone has their preferences. I'm not embarrassed, nor do I hide, the fact that I am a BBW, for example. I know this is a super deal breaker for some couples, and that is TOTALLY ok! I'd rather be up front, and have someone pass me over, than be shy or unintentionally misleading and be turned down later once a potential play mate learned to truth. I suppose the same is true for any 'body quirk' you feel that you have. Be honest, be up front, heck, even list it in your profile with a joke or a passing mention (for example: I am a HWP uncut white male looking for...). Honesty is the sexiest thing about a person!
Pictures
FORUMS > Successful Swinging > Better Profiles > Pictures       07-19-2011 10:44 AM
Most peoples nether regions don't photograph well anyway. I think people get inspired by pornography, and don't realize how much makeup, bleaching, and vaginoplasty goes into a lot of those shots. Natural looks fantastic in person, but the photo tends to bring out the worst. I'm no photographer, though, so I suppose I shouldn't throw stones. I might be living in a big glass house.
no responce at all
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinging Single > no responce at all       07-19-2011 10:37 AM
Haha! I understand the one line thing. I got an email from a single once "Want to see your boobs" I sent him the canned response, and he got super pissy "What, not good enough for your time" No. No you're not. LOL
Vs
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Vs       07-18-2011 20:37 PM
Shave Sweet or salty snacks?
Pictures
FORUMS > Successful Swinging > Better Profiles > Pictures       07-18-2011 20:26 PM
Also~ Clean your daggone room! I'm not really attracted to pictures with piles of dirty undies in 'em.
having a good house party
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > having a good house party       07-18-2011 18:18 PM
I'd love to see someone reply to this! My husband and I would love to throw a party for a small group of friends (at most 5 couples) and would be grateful for any pointers!
Boob job
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Boob job       07-18-2011 18:10 PM
As a long time admirer of breasts, I've always been a fan of the 'natural' look and feel of them. I've seen some good implants though, and they are usually the expensive ones (as the above mentioned) and are not abnormally large. Again, this is TOTALLY my opinion, and I understand that it is not necessarily shared by all. I haven't had one, so I can't comment from that perspective. Let us know what you decide to do!
Bruising
FORUMS > General Discussions > Men Talk > Bruising       07-17-2011 09:41 AM
Drats, I hit submit before I was finished! Your home care sounds good so far, though I would avoid a tourniquet, because there is something called "penile tourniquet syndrome" that usually comes from using an over-tight cock ring. It could exacerbate the bluing/purpling. Also, try some Epsom salts in warm water. Soak that bad boy for 15 minutes or so. Does wonders for bruises. If its still swollen or puffy, try some ibuprofen. Avoid aspirin at all costs, as it will increase bleeding and bruising.
Bruising
FORUMS > General Discussions > Men Talk > Bruising       07-17-2011 09:37 AM
I agree with acpl. Check with your doc for sure. It could be a minor penile fracture, but those usually hurt terribly. It could also be a bruise, or a varicose vein that burst. Either way, if you have insurance, I'd pop on over to the doc and ask. If it is penile fracture or failure of a varicose vein, you might need outpatient surgery. If its a bruise, or a complication of an STD, you obviously will just need either rest or antibiotics. Best of luck and let us know how it turns out! K
Describe the person above you in one word
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Describe the person above you in one word       07-16-2011 22:44 PM
Salacious.
no responce at all
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinging Single > no responce at all       07-16-2011 13:49 PM
It happens sometimes, and as I understand, it happens more often to single guys than anyone else. We always get back to people, even if it is the canned "No, thanks". Keep your chin up, and know that you are not the only one experiencing this. There are a couple threads spread out over several forums about this, so maybe look to those for advice/commiseration, too.
Rimming
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Rimming       07-15-2011 21:11 PM
I actually quite enjoy being on the giving end of this, but typically only with my husband. I think it definitely is an 'intimacy' thing for me. Hubby enjoys this quite a bit, as well as prostate stimulation. I'm not a fan of being on the receiving end, and to be honest, I can't put my finger on why, I just know that its a very 'neutral' experience for me, and that time and tongue could be put to use somewhere that would drive me wild.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-13-2011 21:34 PM
Eh. I think I'm going to just stop feeding the trolls. Only so many times I can say 'its your choice' to exclude high risk groups before I start sounding like a broken record.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-13-2011 07:49 AM
I agree that people lie, but not just about whether or not they've had sex with a man. I am sure there are plenty of people that know they have a risky STD status and still engage in the lifestyle without informing their partners. Or at least, it's safe to assume they do. Hence, my husband and I protect ourselves to a level of reasonable risk we have both decided on. This is everyone's right, as I posted previously. I just think that there is quite a bit of undeserved stigma for men that are straight, but may want to explore a bit, or who are comfortable with male-male contact, should it occur (for example, in a DP). I suppose this post got my ire up because the OP suggested that people who might be bi curious, then sleep with couples who say no bi men, should be charged with assault. Its a bit like a newer DC law that says any woman carrying more than 2 condoms and who loiters can be arrested for prostitution. Not only is this grossly unfair (I happen to have 4 condoms in my wallet, and there are likely quite a few women who, for whatever reason, carry more than 2, and I'm not exchanging sex for money), but also seems to be increasing the pressure on prostitutes to NOT carry condoms. If there was less stigma on bi and bi curious men, they would report it more often, and those who wish to avoid what they consider a risky group could do so with more accuracy. I also was irked that, in the midst of what I thought was a fairly balanced debate (both sides were quoting statistics, making points) people on 'my' side were told they were terminally ill with a chronic case of idiocy (i.e. the Darwin Award comment). And then the implication that people who do consider the bi and bi curious community to be within an acceptable level of risk for them do not care about their health or families. As I said before, is it your RIGHT to exclude groups you think are risky? Of course, we all do it. I was just disturbed by the 'assault charge' comment, and was also trying to make the point that it was anal sex that caused risk, not the bi or bi curious men themselves, and that 'hetero' couples are at just as much risk if they engage in anal, it is just that anal between hetero couples occurs less frequently.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-12-2011 16:51 PM
Like I said, thanks for the digging. I will be willing to concede the point that the MSM group may contain men that engage in oral sex with other men, however, this doesn't negate my point about anal sex being the most risky, despite the demographic, and that someone listed as bi or bi curious does not necessarily mean they have engaged in the aforementioned activities. Some bi men and particularly bi curious men engage in mutual masturbation, frot, kissing, etc, which are EXTREMELY low on the risk scale. The original point that all bi or bi curious men should be blocked because they are part of the MSM demographic is a bit faulty, for the reasons I've listed. Again, I think for those who want to block these groups for safety sake might be safer just blocking anyone who engages in anal sex, as it is the most risky.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-12-2011 16:40 PM
I hadn't seen that posting, and if that's the case, I'll amend my statements. However, everything that I have seen has either stated or implied that MSM is men who have anal/penetrative sex with men. I thank you for your posting, and I'll definitely look into it. At any rate, I think was can all agree that the CDC lists anal sex as the MOST risky behaviour. "the person receiving the semen is at greater risk of getting HIV because the lining of the rectum is thin and may allow the virus to enter the body during anal sex. However, a person who inserts his penis into an infected partner also is at risk because HIV can enter through the urethra (the opening at the tip of the penis) or through small cuts, abrasions, or open sores on the penis." "condoms are more likely to break during anal sex than during vaginal sex. Thus, even with a condom, anal sex is very risky." I also encourage everyone to read the notes of a college psych professor and hearlded sexual psychologist Warren Throckmorten. Even though he is generally considered 'conservative' he does have sound information about the risks of anal sex. wthrockmorton dot com/2006/12/03/cdc-anal-sex-and-risk/ I suppose this was my point all along. Its not being gay or bi that is the risky behaviour. It is just that gay and bi men may be traditionally more likely to have anal sex, though that is changing, and recent studies indicate that a rising number of heterosexual couples engage in anal sex.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-12-2011 16:09 PM
The CDC does state it, but I'll reference some sites that cite the CDC as a source that are less 'governmenty' to dig through. From avert dot org, an organization meant to decrease the incidents of HIV and AIDS, "In the context of the global AIDS epidemic, MSM is a significant because it is exclusive to anal sex – a practice that, when no protection is used, carries a higher risk of HIV transmission than unprotected vaginal sex." Also, from a informational pamphlet from Seattle and King County, the bisexual or gay community is only a part of the higher risk MSM group if they have had "Unprotected anal sex with an HIV positive man or man of unknown HIV status" As I said, these both cite the CDC in their sources, but I'm working on my syllabus right now, and don't have the CDC sources handy.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-12-2011 15:25 PM
Hm, odd. I don't recall having any hateful remarks. Though you did nominate me for the Darwin award, so...
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-12-2011 15:21 PM
Nope. The CDC has clear definitions of what the MSM group entails. MSM means that they engage in penetrative anal intercourse with another man. Oral or other sex acts are not part of the MSM group. This is because the anus is easily torn, which exposes the pentratee to the bacteria or viruses carried by the penetrator, and the penetrator is exposed to the blood products of the penetratee. The mouth is less apt to take up HIV than the vagina, and the anus is more apt to be susceptible than the vagina. The CDC recognizes this distinction, and that is why the MSM group is exclusive to men who have anal sex with other men.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-12-2011 12:15 PM
In class, when teaching my kids about condoms etc, I always say "safer sex". A lot of the kids (up to 20 years old, so I guess they're not kids at that point...) have some of the strangest ideas about safe sex. While a lot of them are using condoms, they don't recognize there are still risks outside of the "broken condom" scenario. Every year, I'm still shocked that students don't know about things like herpes, and hpv. They typically don't know that oral herpes can be spread to the genitals, and vice versa. Or that hpv and herpes can be contracted when there is no visible breakout. The list goes on and on. Then again, I was flabbergasted when a student asked if it was true if he didn't look his girlfriend in the eye during sex, he wouldn't get her pregnant. He was 19. The statistics are clear however. In most cases, those who test with a FULL PANEL std test (not the standard test, which does not include herpes, hepatitis, etc) based on the cdc's recommendations, and use condoms are among the safest of the 'promiscuous sex' bunch.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-11-2011 21:00 PM
You are more than entitled to your beliefs. Be aware, though, you put them out in a public forum, just as I did. If you didn't want negative scrutiny, you oughtn't have posted. I'm sorry that you think a lively debate is intolerance or bigotry. Though you shouldn't have wished anyone death in a stupid or ironic manner.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-11-2011 17:57 PM
Thanks Leeza!
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-11-2011 16:54 PM
Wow. Just wow. Because I'm literate in CDC studies and a health educator that is just trying to get the point across that ALL sexual activity is risky, you think I should die an agonizing viral death and get the Darwin award. Nice. You never addressed the fact that someone who is mildly bi curious and has never had anal sex is NOT part of the CDC's MSM demographic. Hence my recommendation that couples who wish to decrease their risk from this type of activity should not say "no bi men", rather, "noone who in engages in anal sex" I take your last point well though. I'm not trying to make you have sex with someone in "that demographic". Nor would I want to have sex with someone who was so blanket discriminatory based on one study they read, despite that fact that I cited more staggering statistics than the demographic you listed. We're all here for fun. If you are not willing to take the risk that the guy who said he was straight on an online profile might dream about Matthew Mcconaughey before going to bed, or if you think that said people should be charged with assault, perhaps you should find a different hobby. It is your RIGHT to exclude those that engage in risky behavior, such as male-male anal sex? ABSOLUTELY! Is it morally 'ok' for you to make the assumption that anyone who might have bisexual leanings engages in any type of male-male anal sex, without asking, and then to go so far as saying that anyone who turns out to be mildly bi after saying they are straight should be charged with assault? No, I dont think so.
A Democratic Party Plan for American Jobs and the Economy
FORUMS > General Discussions > Politics > A Democratic Party Plan for American Jobs and the Economy       07-11-2011 16:40 PM
At this point, with my own essential unemployment taking chomps out of any assets I have, I don't care who comes up with a comprehensive jobs plan as long as they do it soon. The unemployed can't wait any longer!
Big and sexy - and you know THIS!
FORUMS > General Discussions > B.B.W. > Big and sexy - and you know THIS!       07-11-2011 14:50 PM
/highfive
Cumming Inside
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Cumming Inside       07-11-2011 14:40 PM
Agreed! Also, condoms...taste...disgusting. Ick.
Cumming Inside
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Cumming Inside       07-11-2011 14:36 PM
lol she, I had my "wtf" face on the whole time i was reading your post.
HIV-AIDS-STD's
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > HIV-AIDS-STD's       07-11-2011 14:16 PM
Also, be sure not to sleep with any African people either. Particularly South Africans, where more than 15% of the population has HIV/AIDS. Also, the CDC states that "African Americans were disproportionately affected by HIV infection, accounting for 55% of all HIV infections reported among persons aged 13–24", so by the logic of blocking bi men, don't sleep with young black people either. Or heck, any men. "During 2001–2004, in the 33 states with long-term, confidential name-based HIV reporting, 62% of the 17,824 persons 13–24 years of age given a diagnoses of HIV/AIDS were males, and 38% were females." And for the record the MSM group (men who have sex with men) that you stated is at higher risk is only those men that engage in anal/penetrative sex with other men. This does not include the bi curious guy who sucked a dick once. On a serious note~ It would make more sense if a couple said "noone who engages in anal sex", since its not the 'gayness' as much as it is the 'anuses bleed more' that is the issue. ANYONE in the lifestyle takes a risk. Also~ Ive said it before and Ill say it again - Just because someone is bisexual does NOT mean they engage in anal sex, which is the risky behaviour associated with the CDC's high number of HIV/AIDS in the male-male sexual community. If a bi or bi curous male has only engaged in sex acts up to and including oral, he is NOT part of the CDC's reported demographic. Odds are, if someone is bi curious and listing themselves as straight, they have only fantasized about being with the same sex. Again, that's the odds. By all means, do what you have to in order to be safe. Just realize that, simply by swinging, you are putting yourself in a higher risk category. Blanket blocking a demographic is likely not the best course of action. Condoms are not 100% safe. Soft swinging only is not 100% safe. Working in a hospital is not 100% safe.
Sexual orientation
FORUMS > General Discussions > Fantasies > Sexual orientation       07-11-2011 14:03 PM
I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. I think sexuality and orientation are more complicated. /shrug I totally agree with the bi-pussy thing!
Sexual orientation
FORUMS > General Discussions > Fantasies > Sexual orientation       07-11-2011 12:44 PM
I think people get defensive any time someone tries to 'impose' a label onto them. If someone fantasizes about same sex relations, but wants to identify as straight, so be it. I list myself as Bi, and while I love having sex with women, I would never pursue one romantically. There are some that might think that makes me just a bit of a slut, not bi, but I identify as bisexual, and it works for me. Some people only label their sexuality based on whom they would want to be romantically involved with, not on whom they would have sex with. By that definition, I'd be straight. Bottom line~people mistrust labels, and its their right to call themselves what they choose without someone imposing their opinion.
Sexual orientation
FORUMS > General Discussions > Fantasies > Sexual orientation       07-11-2011 08:42 AM
I have to disagree with the post stating that if you at all fantasize about being with someone of the same sex, you are at least bi-curious. Fantasy and action are two different things. Just because someone might fantasize about strangling their boss, it doesn't make them a murderer. I often fantasize about being able to play the cello. I'll be damned if I would even know how to hold one properly, nor do I care. In the 'real world' I have no interest. Sexuality and sexual orientation are gradients, not black or white. Finally, I've said it before, and I'll say it again. Just because someone happens to be bi-curious, that doesnt mean that they will jump on a same sex playmate and force intimacy. Bisexual an bicurious people do have restraint, just like anyone else. It's frustrating to see some people who have in their profile "no bi or bi curious men or women", like someone with a fantasy might break rules and play with the same sex playmate. Sheesh. /endrant
breeding have u heard about this
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > breeding have u heard about this       07-11-2011 08:31 AM
From my understanding, its very rare, and would likely not occur at a party. Those who I have seen doing this are looking for a private affair with potential mates. It would be irresponsible and inconsiderate (among other things) to have sex with a partner if only one partner had any intention of 'breeding'. I understand 'trying to have a baby', as my husband and I have been trying for quite a while, but its my opinion that 'breeding' amongst swingers is potentially dangerous, because you do not know the genetics in play. Some genetic tests for pregnant women only occur if one of the parents is of a certain background. If you don't know your mates background, there is an increased risk for your unborn baby. Again, just my opinion.
what is the beneifit of going bare
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > what is the beneifit of going bare       07-11-2011 08:27 AM
She~ After reading your post, and looking into it, I am definitely switching my brand of condoms. I currently use the Durex Bare polyisoprene, and it says on the label that people with severe latex allergies can not use them. Its not an issue for me, I just have a mild sensitivity from working with latex gloves in research all the time, but there are -potential- playmates of ours that have a more acute allergy. Thanks for the info!
Theoretically speaking, of course
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Theoretically speaking, of course       07-11-2011 08:22 AM
My own personal pleasure preferences: Rougher and harder. While there is a place for slow sensual sex, it is, to me, more of a romantic thing. If I'm with a playmate, I'm looking for a good ole fashioned fucking, and I get the most out of that with rough play.
what is the beneifit of going bare
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > what is the beneifit of going bare       07-10-2011 21:45 PM
Hm. I didn't know that. You learn something new every day?
Cumming Inside
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Cumming Inside       07-10-2011 19:32 PM
Agreed!
Cumming Inside
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Cumming Inside       07-10-2011 18:11 PM
"Its still considered normal to cum during penetration while wearing a condom isn't it? " As far as I know, its still normal. As long as their gloved, I don't mind where a playmate cums.
cougar hunt
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > cougar hunt       07-10-2011 12:18 PM
As a personal preference (not as a rule) I prefer someone older, but that may be because I am fairly young right now, so that may change as I get older, who knows!
Meet Greet, Fuck or pass the poster above you
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Meet Greet, Fuck or pass the poster above you       07-09-2011 19:50 PM
Would definitely like to get to know him better!
I there a place for thick girls
FORUMS > General Discussions > B.B.W. > I there a place for thick girls       07-09-2011 18:41 PM
Hear Hear!
I there a place for thick girls
FORUMS > General Discussions > B.B.W. > I there a place for thick girls       07-09-2011 12:54 PM
Touche.
what is the beneifit of going bare
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > what is the beneifit of going bare       07-09-2011 12:13 PM
Welcome to the forums! From a safe sex standpoint, there is no benefit. However, there are some 'pleasure' related benefits to barebacking that make some people consider it acceptable risk. Some men experience significant decreases in sensitivity if they 'glove up', and there are men that can even lose an erection with a condom. Barebacking gives the 'full' sensation as opposed to the blunted sensation from the condom. Some men and women are also very VERY allergic to latex. This crowd has no choice but to bareback, because even alternative condoms, like the polyisoprene ones, are processed on the same equipment as the latex condoms, and that alone is enough to trigger an allergic response. There is a 'fringe' group of swingers and promiscuous people that also desire the fulfillment of a 'breeding' fantasy, and a condom would obviously preclude that. For women, a condomed male might be slightly less hard, due to the desenitizers often included in condom, or too 'slick' because of the latex or plastic, decreasing the friction and thereby decreasing the pleasure. Im sure other people will pick up the torch if I missed any other 'benefits'. I will conclude again by saying bareback as no 'safe-sex' benefits. Though it is my opinion that safer sex overrides the potential benefits of barebacking, I understand that opinion is not shared by everyone.
I there a place for thick girls
FORUMS > General Discussions > B.B.W. > I there a place for thick girls       07-09-2011 12:05 PM
I agree with lost. However, 'BBW' is in the eye of the beholder. Some people consider any woman over HWP to be BBW, and others just go with labels like 'thick' or 'juicy' or 'plump' for the area after HWP and before what they consider to be BBW. Most 'thick' girls I know of find a happy home in the BBW crowd, though I did have a friend who was rejected from a BBW group on a website because she wasn't big enough...which I thought was odd. Obviously, I fall into the BBW crowd, not the 'thick' one, but I have friends in the 'juicy' position that go both ways; either they just say they are BBW, or come up with another label. So, I guess a summary of my rant is ~ Usually, BBW is an umbrella term that covers 'juicy' ladies, but at the end of the day, label yourself how you are most comfortable and give a nice one finger salute to those who give you hell about it.
How often
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > How often       07-09-2011 11:58 AM
lol lost! Definitely brought a smile to my face with that last post. To the OP~ I have sex with my husband quite a bit more than play partners, mostly because we are so selective with whom we play, so it takes a bit of time to find the right couple, go out for a vertical date, then bed them. Add in hubby's crazy schedule, and our play time is extremely limited, but in the end, we're ok with that. We have a lot of friends that are swingers with whom we don't play for one reason or another, and we enjoy hanging out with them quite a bit. We don't have any hard or fast rule about the ratio, but after a play date, hubby and I like to 'reconnect' with one another alone. Post playdate sex is SUPER hot!!
Oral that tickles
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Oral that tickles       07-08-2011 08:29 AM
Also~ It definitely pays to share, I have learned SO much from play partners and talking with others at meet 'n greets. Before we started swinging, I'd only ever 'been with' Zach. I look back now and pity our first play partners, because I know I was super awkward at sex in general! Not saying that I'm a sex goddess now or anything, just that I can tell I've made some much needed improvements.
Oral that tickles
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Oral that tickles       07-08-2011 08:26 AM
There is a featured member section? LOL where is it? And we're on it?
Double Vaginal Penetration
FORUMS > General Discussions > Fantasies > Double Vaginal Penetration       07-08-2011 08:19 AM
It seems, from my extremely limited experience, that a slightly reclined position for bottom man (i.e. on a couch) works well. When we attempted it, the 'larger' guy was on the bottom, I hopped on cowgirl style and leaned forward, and the smaller guy took the back door. Seemed to work fairly well. DEFINITELY want to try this again!
Oral that tickles
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Oral that tickles       07-08-2011 08:12 AM
It could be that she is a bit 'tickle-sensitive', as others have suggested, or it could be your technique. When I (Mrs.) go down on another woman , the biggest thing I focus on it using my -entire- tongue (the flat part) not just the tip. If you use the tip, it can be a bit of a 'tickling' sensation, because the touch is so light. Also, from my own experience, I need some warming up before someone starts working on my clit, or else it can be uncomfortable in a way that I might describe as 'tickling after its gone too far'. Kiss and suck on her lips, caress and lick her thighs. Enjoy every inch -but- the clit first. Not only will this make the clit a little less sensitive to that odd 'tickle pressure', but it will be a wonderful ride for her, too. Not saying that your technique is lacking, and these might not be the issue at all, but just some food for thought.
Guys dressing sexy
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > Guys dressing sexy       07-06-2011 23:16 PM
I agree that a polo or or nice button down is a huge turn on. I also LOVE bootcut jeans, particularly, on my husband. He was reluctant at first, but they do something amazing to his butt, and I've since started calling them his 'Hugh Jackman' jeans. As far as smell, a very very subtle, masculine cologne (I prefer something like Ralph Lauren) is fantastic. It's nice when it mingles with the guy's natural smell, so I don't like it when it's overdone. I am NOT a fan of huge quantities of body spray. A little cologne, a little natural musk, and a clean shaven man dressed simply in a polo and great jeans...whoo.
questions questions
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > questions questions       07-06-2011 20:38 PM
You would be surprised :-/
Nipple Piercing
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Nipple Piercing       07-06-2011 20:37 PM
Thanks for the replies. I'm still on the fence, more so after talking with hubby again... Me: "Once I get a new job, I think I really am going to have my nipple pierced" Him: "O.K. Though, it may make your nipples weird to bite like you like" Me: /facepalm I hadn't thought about that before, lol.
questions questions
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > questions questions       07-06-2011 11:31 AM
'Where do you like it?' I love swallowing, though have only done that with my husband. I only like it on my skin at certain times of the day, lol. If I'm having a 'nightcap' just before bed, I don't want to have to deal with the clean up before we drift off. Otherwise, its ok, but not my favorite. I can't imagine having it in my eye, ear or hair. Eye would hurt, I'm sure, ear would be obnoxious, and getting semen out of hair is, well, nightmarish. As for 'inside', play partners do this covered, and its fine by me. My husband is the one that gets to 'release' bareback, and when he does, I particularly like it as a finish to anal play. 'Why do you like it?' This one is actually a tougher one to answer. I don't particularly care for the taste, though it has grown on me. Maybe it goes back to innate tribal superstitions, but swallowing, for me, is super intimate. You are actually taking a part of you partner and 'eating' it, for all intents and purposes... Wow, that sounded WAY creepier than I intended... I'm not a cannibal... Anyway! It does have a nice, creamy, warm feel to it at first, and that is good too. Also, the smell is just so indicative of 'sex', and sex is a sexy perfume!
Ask Amy Column Shocked Couple Stop Seeing New Friends After Learning They 'Swing'
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > Ask Amy Column Shocked Couple Stop Seeing New Friends After Learning They 'Swing'       07-06-2011 11:21 AM
I recently told a vanilla best friend of mine, and it was sort of funny. She shrugged, said "I'm sure that spices things up!" then laughed and asked for the popcorn. I was really glad for the 'whatever blows your skirt up' response, and things are the same as they have always been with her. I think this goes back to "true friends that are vanilla" will not necessarily 'get it' but will accept it. I realize I took a risk telling her, but we've been friends since kindergarten, and I couldn't see hiding anything from her.
mfm positions
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > mfm positions       07-05-2011 07:00 AM
Ooh, I second the above post.
No Kissing Rule
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > No Kissing Rule       07-04-2011 21:51 PM
I agree with most of the posters here. Rules are preferences, and either respect them or pass. However, for us, kissing is a huge part of play, so we would pass on a couple that has a 'no-kissing' rule, but again its all about preferences. I wouldn't get upset with someone who passed on my husband because he is a smoker, or passed on me because I'm a BBW. We're all in it for fun, and fun comes in all flavors!
Ask Amy Column Shocked Couple Stop Seeing New Friends After Learning They 'Swing'
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > Ask Amy Column Shocked Couple Stop Seeing New Friends After Learning They 'Swing'       07-01-2011 08:43 AM
Mmmmm...forbidden fruit! You are probably very right, bdh!
Meet Greet, Fuck or pass the poster above you
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Meet Greet, Fuck or pass the poster above you       06-30-2011 14:35 PM
M&G, then who knows.
Ask Amy Column Shocked Couple Stop Seeing New Friends After Learning They 'Swing'
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinger Advice > Ask Amy Column Shocked Couple Stop Seeing New Friends After Learning They 'Swing'       06-30-2011 13:03 PM
And this is why swingers keep their activities private. Not out of shame of the activity, but because others react with shock, horror, and disgust, instead of trying to take even 5 minutes to talk and understand why, or what it is. Seriously, what did that couple think their friends would do to them; jump them, strip them, and force them into 'the lifestyle'? How odd! If I had friends that were, for example, furries (which is a predilection I do not understand), I would still happily be friends with them, and hope that they would share the logic behind their kink. People need to open their minds.
Fake Bi Couples
FORUMS > The Bi Sexual Swinger > Bi Couples > Fake Bi Couples       06-28-2011 15:43 PM
I don't think its a phenomenon exclusive to Bi couples. There are 'straight couples' that also just end up being single males. Part of the hazards of this website, I suppose. Keep your chin up, and keep looking! You'll find that perfect bi couple!
TATOO
FORUMS > Toys Sexy Clothes and more > Other > TATOO       06-26-2011 13:58 PM
I think there was another post on this in 'swinger advice' maybe. Everyone came to a consensus that there is no universal 'swinger ID' symbol. A lot of it comes down to the fact that, as was stated before, people want to keep their private life private. Imagine this scenario - You are out at an Applebees with your parents and children celebrating a birthday, sporting your 'symbol' tattoo on your shoulder, just as you were told to do. Someone you don't know, potentially drunk, taps on you the back. "HEY! You're a swinger TOO!? Thats awesome! Can I have your number for later? Damn, you're hot, and you have sex with other people, too!" It only takes one idiot to ruin an 'identification' symbol for everyone, which is likely why there isnt one.
Twisted Titty
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Twisted Titty       06-24-2011 19:49 PM
LOL bdh. Me too, Lady. But I've only had this happen with VERY firm play, which I suppose is why I prefer harder to softer.
Hair removal on the face
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Hair removal on the face       06-24-2011 19:46 PM
I have the same thing, and usually I just leave it alone. Actually, having a bit of 'peach fuzz' can give you an 'airbrushed' look in photos. However, I have removed facial hair with some home made sugaring wax. There are no parabins or harsh chemicals. Here is what I do. Take 2 cups of sugar , 1/2 cup lemon juice, and 1/2 cup water, and pour it all into a sauce pan. Turn your stove on high and, stirring constantly, wait until the mixture boils, then dial it back to just a simmer. Continue to simmer until you get a deep honey colored mixture. Remove from heat and let cool until its only warm and easy to handle on your skin. From here, I use a chopstick to apply the sugaring wax, then use a small slip of cloth to use as a waxing strip. Pull against the grain of hair growth. IMMEDIATELY after, I apply cocoa butter or vitamin E to the area I waxed, just because I have very sensitive skin. They do sell products that are meant to be soothing, but my skin doesn't tolerate harsh chemicals well, so I stick to the 'natural' stuff. This wax is fantastic for pretty much any hair, and I've waxed hair only 1/8 to 1/16 of an inch long, AND I have used it on peach fuzz at the corners of my mouth. Its also an amazing eyebrow wax, or body wax, though I've found, as a bikini wax, it isn't so good at picking up short coarse hair, so the pubic hair needs to be about 1/4 of an inch long for optimum waxing. If you have coarse leg hair, I'm sure it would be the same. I just have peach fuzz on my legs, so I haven't been able to experiment. I hope that helps
is there any completely safe swinging
FORUMS > General Discussions > Safe Sex > is there any completely safe swinging       06-24-2011 19:38 PM
I think its about 'acceptable risk'. If you parachute, you don't just go jump out of a plane with a poorly packed chute, or without a secondary chute. Sure, you have a primary chute that will -probably- work, but you still take precautions to limit the risk as much as possible. The same is true for swinging, or any sex. Bottom line, have fun, but understand your level of 'acceptable risk' and prepare accordingly. "Acceptable Risk" is different for everyone, and is a personal choice. People who bareback are not 'wrong' compared to completely soft swinging, nor vice versa. Both groups have their own level of acceptable risk.
Twisted Titty
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Twisted Titty       06-24-2011 17:52 PM
I'm a bit of a masochist, so I like twisting, biting, and clamping. Sucking is o.k., gentleness is neutral for me - I don't hate it, but it doesn't do a whole lot for me. I much prefer a firm touch.
Woman that Can't-Won't have Orgasm from Intercourse
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Woman that Can't-Won't have Orgasm from Intercourse       06-24-2011 11:48 AM
Touche'!
Delete Button
FORUMS > Suggestions > Website > Delete Button       06-24-2011 10:26 AM
Ah the eloquence. BDH, you said in a few lines what I had to rant through 2 paragraphs to get to. Thanks!
Woman that Can't-Won't have Orgasm from Intercourse
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Woman that Can't-Won't have Orgasm from Intercourse       06-24-2011 10:25 AM
I agree, since its about a woman's orgasm, but at least it got a lot of publicity in the 3some forum.
Delete Button
FORUMS > Suggestions > Website > Delete Button       06-24-2011 09:32 AM
Aw...If we had to pay extra for forums, I'd be very sad, since I'm broke! I understand both points, actually. While I know that reading through a post, particularly one that I'm interested in, gets frustrating when I read - "I dont know about XYZ, what does everyone else think" --- "Great point! Thanks for all the help!" With no dialog in between the 2 statements. Maybe a user could opt to block their own post from view, but the site still allow other readers to toggle the post on or off. That way, if it looks like a rant, you can skip it because the box would read "this post is hidden from view", but if you want to read it, you could toggle that specific post back on. Not sure if I'm making sense or not, but there has to be a middle ground between removing the delete button and leaving the frustration in tact. Maybe an 'edit post' button?
Woman that Can't-Won't have Orgasm from Intercourse
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Woman that Can't-Won't have Orgasm from Intercourse       06-24-2011 09:14 AM
**Jumps into the fray** My advice? COMMUNICATE! **looks around** Damn! I came too late! There, a silly morning poem for y'all. I guess it sorta rhymed! Thanks for saying what I always say, Rdy2! /end insanity
Woman that Can't-Won't have Orgasm from Intercourse
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Woman that Can't-Won't have Orgasm from Intercourse       06-23-2011 16:30 PM
If there are not physical reasons, like a sexual dysfunction, it can often be emotional. I know for me, a history of sexual assault made it difficult to orgasm at all with intercourse at first. It took me some therapy and a patient boyfriend (now husband) to work through it, and it still can cause some issues if I'm feeling particularly vulnerable. On a side note, the 'lifestyle' has actually helped me in this department, because it's helped me become more comfortable with being 'sexy' and 'attractive' in a safe environment with my husband, who I consider a 'safe' person. However, orgasm with intercourse has always been much harder for me than a clitoral orgasm. Statistically, 1 in 3 to 1 in 5 women have been sexually assaulted, and that can cause an emotional/psychological sexual dysfunction that isn't linked to a physical cause. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help, but part of what exacerbates this issue is therapists frequently prescribe SSRI's which are known to decrease libido and potentially interfere with orgasm. Just my thoughts. Not saying that every woman that has issues with penetration orgasms has been abused, just that it may be an emotional or psychological contributing factor.
Keeping Motivated
FORUMS > General Discussions > Fitness > Keeping Motivated       06-22-2011 16:10 PM
Sed~ Duh! I didn't even think about it! My husband has always been the dog walker in the family. I can absolutely take over that responsibility. And I'm sure Chowder would love the extra time with his Mommy! At this point, I don't have any spare cash for DVD's but we still have Cable TV for at least a little while longer (its one of those things we're trying to keep so that I can still have internet for the 'job search'), so I'll check out what's On Demand. Super thanks for the 'dog walking' idea. Apparently, I've been in a fog and didn't see the obvious answer!
so what do you do for a living
FORUMS > General Discussions > Business > so what do you do for a living       06-22-2011 13:33 PM
He: Orchestral Percussionist and Music Student She: Research Biologist and College Professor
Keeping Motivated
FORUMS > General Discussions > Fitness > Keeping Motivated       06-22-2011 12:03 PM
I have recently been working on losing weight, and have lost about 40 lbs, but obviously have quite a ways to go. One of my biggest motivators has been the gym. I guess its kinda sad, but on days where I didn't feel like going, I would guilt myself into it saying, "I'm paying for this membership, I have to use it!" However, I recently became unemployed, and had to drop my gym membership, among other things. Even though I have a bit more free time, I find it hard to get my sad, sorry, unemployed butt off of the couch and moving around. Any tips on how to keep motivated despite this setback? I don't want to backslide and ruin the (albeit marginal) progress I've made, and appreciate any help I can get!
HOW OFTEN WOMAN THINK ABOUT SEX
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HOW OFTEN WOMAN THINK ABOUT SEX       06-20-2011 21:27 PM
Hello and welcome to the forums! I'll try and answer your questions as best as I can. 1. How often would you like to have sex? Quite often, actually. My husband and I have sex about 4 or 5 times a week, and that seems right for me, but I would always love more. 2. Can you "reach the big O" every time ? No. Not 'every time'. For me, that's not what its about. It's the entire sensory experience that makes sex worth it to me. 3. Do you like the idea of swinging? I love the idea of swinging. It gives me a safe and sexy way to explore a new sex life with my husband. As a biologist, I've never thought that monogamy made much sense, anyway. 4. How many men have you been with sexually? So far ~ 3 Men, 1 Woman. 5. do you consider oral sex--sex? Absolutely. 6 Have you ever had a 3-way if so mostly WWM or MMW? Our experiences have been 4 way or 1 on one thus far, though we would love to have a threesome. 7. are you married? Yes. I've been married for a little over a year and with my husband for over 9 years. 8. If you married would you like se see your hubby with another lady? I have seen him with another woman and it's an incredible experience. I love watching him in such an ecstatic state. 9. had you rather have oral stimulation to completion then take care of your partners needs. No. I love external stimulation, but there is nothing like a penetration orgasm, and the closeness of another person inside you. 10 lastly..Does size matter to you.. Not particularly. I assume you are referring to penis size. Each size 'bracket' has good uses. Smaller penises are spectacular for oral or anal, and can be great in the right position for vaginal. Larger always gives a fuller feeling vaginally, but can be a bit much anally, and can be fun orally, if you partner doesnt mind a little gagging.
HOW OFTEN WOMAN THINK ABOUT SEX
FORUMS > Toys Sexy Clothes and more > Other > HOW OFTEN WOMAN THINK ABOUT SEX       06-20-2011 21:22 PM
Hello and welcome to the forums! I'll try and answer your questions as best as I can. 1. How often would you like to have sex? Quite often, actually. My husband and I have sex about 4 or 5 times a week, and that seems right for me, but I would always love more. 2. Can you "reach the big O" every time ? No. Not 'every time'. For me, that's not what its about. It's the entire sensory experience that makes sex worth it to me. 3. Do you like the idea of swinging? I love the idea of swinging. It gives me a safe and sexy way to explore a new sex life with my husband. As a biologist, I've never thought that monogamy made much sense, anyway. 4. How many men have you been with sexually? So far ~ 3 Men, 1 Woman. 5. do you consider oral sex--sex? Absolutely. 6 Have you ever had a 3-way if so mostly WWM or MMW? Our experiences have been 4 way or 1 on one thus far, though we would love to have a threesome. 7. are you married? Yes. I've been married for a little over a year and with my husband for over 9 years. 8. If you married would you like se see your hubby with another lady? I have seen him with another woman and it's an incredible experience. I love watching him in such an ecstatic state. 9. had you rather have oral stimulation to completion then take care of your partners needs. No. I love external stimulation, but there is nothing like a penetration orgasm, and the closeness of another person inside you. 10 lastly..Does size matter to you.. Not particularly. I assume you are referring to penis size. Each size 'bracket' has good uses. Smaller penises are spectacular for oral or anal, and can be great in the right position for vaginal. Larger always gives a fuller feeling vaginally, but can be a bit much anally, and can be fun orally, if you partner doesnt mind a little gagging.
one nut here
FORUMS > The Bi Sexual Swinger > Bi Males > one nut here       06-20-2011 11:22 AM
As a worry wart, I might like to know ahead of time, because I'd be worried that I'd lost it somewhere, but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, and I'm a bit of a 'ball-lover'! In all seriousness, even if I wasn't informed ahead of time (because I'm sure you want to avoid the "so, before we go any further, I have something to tell you..." awkwardness) I wouldn't have any issue. People have 1 testicle for all sorts of reasons, and none of them concern your sex partner.
Is Being a young single male automatically get you ex out of swing as a whole
FORUMS > General Discussions > Swinging Single > Is Being a young single male automatically get you ex out of swing as a whole       06-20-2011 11:17 AM
Wow, I just realized. I was complaining about grammatical errors and I completely skipped a word in my sentence in the last post. That weird little 'i' It was supposed to be 'with'. Also, it's been my experience that you want to be as broad as possible with your age criteria but still stay within the range -you- think is acceptable. For example, if you are hot for a cougar, make sure you put your age range up to the 50's, if you are cool with a MILF but cougars don't do it for you, put your desired age range in the 30's and 40's. Ultimately, however, this whole experience should be about you finding something/someone that makes you feel good. Set your 'desired age range' where ever you want it, and don't worry if people might 'pass' on you because you are young. As a fairly young member myself, I don't think all older members will pass on you because you are too young. Some people like 'em young!