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WTF
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > WTF       09-15-2014 10:59 AM
I just read the same article, VA. He isn't worth the 4 minutes of time it took to read about it and watch the video someone took. When will people stop glorifying blatant stupidity. Oh wait. I forgot for a second that I'm writing that question in the forums. um Nevermind.
Being On Display
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Being On Display       09-12-2014 12:52 PM
well said. And see? Your age is not a factor in the wisdom you've accrued, nor in how well you express it. Sensible, sexy and sane. G.
Younger Men
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Younger Men       09-12-2014 12:50 PM
when I just want to be fucked hard, with stamina and enthusiasm, sometimes a younger guy can fit that bill. Age is not an issue. Throughout our swinging history, there have been all ages of people. The people matter. Their birthdate doesn't always have much to do with anything. there are always exceptions. I do not want to be a teacher either. But there are little boys of all ages who fumble with sex. I prefer a confident man. Whether he is 28 or 58 is beside the point. Gina
Remember
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Remember       09-12-2014 12:40 PM
thank you for that. I write out of myself, how it comes out is how it comes out, I do not edit or pause to think how something might sound. So thank you.
Whatcha reading
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Whatcha reading       09-12-2014 12:36 PM
The Rabbit Factory by my favorite Mississippi author, Larry Brown. His sense of people and place is masterful.
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       09-12-2014 12:36 PM
That's a haunting movie. The images really stick with you.
Fucking Bitchfest 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Fucking Bitchfest 2014       09-12-2014 12:33 PM
I love my dog, really I do. Got up this morning, naked of course, to let him out, and he comes back with 4 paws caked with mud. I couldn't step outside to wipe off his paws, so I made him stay, grabbed one of his little towels, made him come in and sit on the too-small throw rug, and wiped down all paws. Then I had to clean the floor (yes I was still naked), and also make sure he didn't go hop in the bed. Throw rugs all in the wash. Agh. Did I say already that I love my dog? I really do.
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       09-12-2014 12:27 PM
omg, good luck VA! And after October 1st, I would imagine you'll have a whole new barrage of people looking. Hope so! HT: Hubby in the air on his way home. Nice weekend/fun weekend sort of semi-planned. Everyone have a great one! HT: been planning out and drawing new tattoo addition. I need to get going on that.
are most females in the ls more about the emotional connections or the physical part?
FORUMS > General Discussions > Men Talk > are most females in the ls more about the emotional connections or the physical part?       09-12-2014 12:20 PM
Sincerely, it truly depends on the people involved. Both of us have had both experiences. We're not going to "fall in love" with someone else. But sometimes there's just a feeling of true affection for the other person. Sometimes it's merely fucking for fucking's sake. At parties, at clubs, I would say that is more the "norm." In our home, etc., with friends who we also fuck, then the affectionate intimacy can occur. True intimacy though? That's just between us. I only really fully and totally let my guard down with my husband and he with me. And sometimes the two of us just fuck too. Haha. It's not a big deal. "Emotionalism" is way more than just the two emotions of jealousy and possessiveness. Ugh. No one wants to be around THOSE. Emotions can be any number of things, fleeting, lasting, etc. We are secure in ourselves and in each other enough to feel friendship, affection, and even a certain kind of love/lust with some people. There is so much room in our lives for all sorts of connections. We are each other's. That's not changing. And it's because we are confident and secure in that, that yes, I can kiss or look into someone else's eyes with a bit of passion. It's not threatening. However, I've been the object of another female's obsession early on and that was freaky. She took it WAY too far and scared the hell out of me. Fell in love, wanted me exclusive, I was her "angel," and so on. NO. We had to cut off that friendship. Yikes. So, that is something to be aware of in another person and I now know what to look for. Avoid. Gina
SLS Behind the Picture
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > SLS Behind the Picture       09-12-2014 12:06 PM
I have no idea how SLS got this upside down, but it is! I did not upload it that way. Haha. Maybe they thought I was too gravity impaired right side up. At any rate, the fingers are of a sweet friend. We both bought the shirts at a sex toy store (her first time in one!)
Thursday night football 2014 your home team is hosting
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Thursday night football 2014 your home team is hosting       09-11-2014 16:54 PM
You're so right. I bow to your knowledge.
Just Wondering
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Just Wondering       09-11-2014 16:50 PM
Just wondering why Winnie the Pooh and Eeyore are the only animals who have names rather than name-identities: Rabbit, Owl, Piglet, Kanga and Roo, and even Tigger is Tiger with an extra G.
WTF
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > WTF       09-11-2014 16:47 PM
Author said, "The women will be participating in sex with the concept of their husbands" I know my hubby would love to be a hologram, or conceptual art work. If he isn't that already....cue Twilight Zone music.
Simple Pleasures
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Simple Pleasures       09-11-2014 16:38 PM
PG, what an amazing dress and you wear it well. Not having to be anywhere or do anything I don't want to today. Was going to write, but I'd rather read. So there it is.
Horoscope thread
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Horoscope thread       09-11-2014 16:36 PM
Oh dear...can you guess I'm a Gemini? We're kind of schizo. In a good way. Bahahaha. G.
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       09-11-2014 16:33 PM
I've never watched that one either. I guess I prefer more hardcore stuff. Same as I like my porn. LOL
A Song to Suit your current Mood
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > A Song to Suit your current Mood       09-11-2014 16:29 PM
Where were you When the World Stopped Turning, Alan Jackson
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       09-11-2014 16:28 PM
One more: I have the best dog in the world. He has barely left my side all week while Mr. Sexus is leading meetings out of state. He's so so sweet! And very ferocious sounding when anything approaches the door, even if it's only a leaf...grrrr! Woof! Woof!
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       09-11-2014 16:26 PM
I agree with others celebrating fitness successes. It's worth it to feel better. Still plugging away. Finished now with PT on arm/shoulder/neck and getting back into the swing (cough cough, haha) of things again. Eating less and more healthy choices again. And moving more and with purpose. Happy Thought is that I learned yesterday what was mentally holding me back from being my authentic self, and now that I know, I can change it. I'm really happy about that! Happy Thought: Mr, who is coming home tomorrow, will greatly benefit from me getting "myself" back. Bought a white lace top yesterday, and have some surprises that have been waiting around in my lingerie drawer for a good opportunity!
Remember
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Remember       09-11-2014 16:16 PM
I understand the OP. When it's happening and in the aftermath, people are in shock and go into a kind of dazed autopilot. It's only after the dust settles, and life seemingly has to go back to "normal," that people realize what was actually lost: the people, the feeling of security, the nonchalance of ordinary life. The thing is, for people who have intelligence and compassion and integrity, nothing ever "goes back to normal." Normal has been done away with. I live in gratitude every single day of my life. I am so proud of our members in the military, so proud of people like my husband (and my husband himself) who work daily to ensure that this won't happen again. And yes, it could. And it could from within. So we wrap our arms around those we love, and hold dear in our hearts and memories those we've lost. And we live on...and sometimes have that overwhelming sense of survivor's "guilt," why not us? Why them? While we can joke, and argue, and fuck, and love and be silly, and be petty, and friend and unfriend those who no longer "fit" in our lives, and work and play, and walk the dog, and take out the trash and pay the bills...life never really is that mundane anymore. Life becomes precious. And no, not every waking moment is spent remembering or contemplating, and not every dream is a nightmare, but life is forever changed. Should be forever changed. And I, like a lot here, don't just remember on the anniversary of this date. It's far more important to me than that. Honor those who've gone, who died, by living a life worthy of their death. For me, that means being compassionate, helping people, being an empathy (something I can't change) and giving recognition and thanks to those who continue to work to protect us. And living beyond the pettiness. And thinking beyond the stupidity. And loving with abandon, even my friends, in addition to my loved ones like my husband, my sons and my dog. And remembering. Always.
What's for lunch?
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > What's for lunch?       09-11-2014 16:05 PM
chicken noodle soup and some quinoa cheddar chips
Thursday night football 2014 your home team is hosting
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Thursday night football 2014 your home team is hosting       09-11-2014 16:03 PM
Wouldn't Sunday night football have the same considerations? And Monday Night? Or am I missing something? And pretty much all they show around here are Cowboys games, so we'll pass on the local watering hole deal.
Who Should Pay For The Room?
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Who Should Pay For The Room?       09-11-2014 16:01 PM
Why all the rules? Never go in with the attitude that you will have someone else pay. If you aren't equipped to pay for a hotel room, then this is too expensive for you to participate. And we like to have our own room if we plan to sleep afterwards. So we pay. We have not had that, "wanna get a room?" experience in several years, so it's not an issue for us, but for those with kids, wouldn't you pay for a night away anyway? No matter who shows up or does what? I guess I'm kind of befuddled by this thread. Maybe others are too, that's why I'm posting here.
what to expect at clubs for first timers
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > what to expect at clubs for first timers       09-11-2014 15:57 PM
Good advice, Hunter. To add to Uriah's post, if you check a guest list on a site, and find someone you might like to meet, it's perfectly acceptable to email them and just say, "hi, we're going to the club event but it's our first time there. Do you have any advice?" Open ended questions usually help in any situation.
Lifestyle RULES:
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Lifestyle RULES:       09-11-2014 15:55 PM
Thanks for the movie reviews, haven't seen it, and will take your word for it. Tapping Out? Does that mean fucking until you're so exhausted you just fall over in a heap of bliss? Down for the count so to speak?
Post one random fact about yourselves
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Post one random fact about yourselves       09-11-2014 15:52 PM
Have met some great positive people through this site. I like the witty banter but not sure that constitutes flirting on my part. I love innuendo and intelligence.
Submit the best lines from your favorite emails on sls
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Submit the best lines from your favorite emails on sls       09-11-2014 15:47 PM
You gotta love it that you're impressing, Leeza.
NFL FOOTBALL 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > NFL FOOTBALL 2014       09-11-2014 15:44 PM
Seduction, Mr. Sexus' Packers play your Jets on Sunday...wanna wager? Just an idea: loser buys first round of drinks in NOLA? (or whatever you come up with that's better?)
Younger Men
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Younger Men       09-09-2014 19:30 PM
That's why. B/c you know what you like. Beyond the game playing or being dramatic, etc. I think that's a lot of the attraction for the younger guys.
Your Authentic Self
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Your Authentic Self       09-09-2014 19:29 PM
Been told that too, and nothing wrong with that. Also about movies and such. And my sense of humor. Love being a girl but also sometimes "one of the guys" when it warrants.
A Song to Suit your current Mood
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > A Song to Suit your current Mood       09-09-2014 19:26 PM
Welcome Back, John Sebastian
What A Great Name For A Rockband!
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > What A Great Name For A Rockband!       09-09-2014 19:22 PM
Watching The TV Shows, by Elvis Cos-we-want-to :P
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       09-09-2014 19:20 PM
Our TV is probably on from about 6:30-9:30 every weeknight. Sometimes it's just background, sometimes we actively watch something we have on DVR, and sometimes there's something we actually watch "live." Mr Sexus has a high focus "brainiac" job, so he likes mindless TV when he's home. It helps him leave work at work. And he's good about not turning it on right when he walks in the door (as he did in his single days), so we have time to talk and reconnect, walk the dog, do an errand or chore, etc. before our relaxing evenings. I'm home most of the time in the daytime but I rarely turn the TV on at all. He watches a little bit of world news in the mornings before he goes to work, while drinking his coffee and checking emails. So what if people like TV? My ex boasted all the time that he never watched TV, or read a book, and he was the most stressed, wound up, type A assholes ever. It's okay to relax and chill out. It's okay what you chose to do that with. And it's okay to feel that you can't do those things either, that you need to be productive. At the risk of repeating myself or sounding like a hippie, "it's all okay." Gina
Truthful Tuesday
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Truthful Tuesday       09-09-2014 19:10 PM
Just read today what the term "edging" meant and I've ALWAYS loved that. I didn't know there was a word for it...I always just thought it was Mr. (and others) knowing how to tease expertly.
Post one random fact about yourselves
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Post one random fact about yourselves       09-09-2014 19:04 PM
even if it's an Eeyore t shirt? Mr.Sexus likes that too, t-shirts and panties
A Song to Suit your current Mood
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > A Song to Suit your current Mood       09-08-2014 16:31 PM
Fine Again, Seether
WTF
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > WTF       09-08-2014 16:27 PM
there's a country song by Brad Paisley about that....Riverbank. My younger son worked overnights in a gas station once, and he said it was amazing how many people were actually relying on the lottery to solve their money issues.
How to swing outside of a club .
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > How to swing outside of a club .       09-08-2014 16:26 PM
In our experience, instead of going to someone's home, it tends to get going rather quickly if we get a hotel room. You get comfy in someone's home, and after a certain amount of time, start thinking, okay, we should begin something, and if sex isn't happening after a bit, then that changes the dynamic. In a hotel room, it happens pretty quickly. Gina
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       09-08-2014 16:21 PM
Gotham looks promising for this "all things Batman" freak. I know I know...it doesn't have Batman in it. That's okay, it has his area, and that might be enough.
Post one random fact about yourselves
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Post one random fact about yourselves       09-08-2014 16:19 PM
sometimes I wish I was allergic to potato chips. I'm trying to simply not buy them. RF: I have more orgasms at the hands of other people than I do on my own. Possibly b/c I think too much? Who knows.
what to expect at clubs for first timers
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > what to expect at clubs for first timers       09-08-2014 16:17 PM
Mybest advice is to go with "no expectations." Know that there will be all sorts of people there. And HAVE FUN. Flirt with your own spouse, dance, etc. Don't look desperate. Talk, ask a question, tell someone it's your first time there and ask them something. You will be fine. Gina
How's the Weather Out There
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > How's the Weather Out There       09-07-2014 23:53 PM
Such a nice day today here in TX! A bit of a breeze, some clouds, big beautiful sky, and a nice cooler night (for us anyway)
Sweating during sex
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Sweating during sex       09-07-2014 13:39 PM
not offended, but I find it nice that you're concerned. We get a bit self conscious about sweating as well. And you can always shower together. It's when someone has an odor that's offensive, then no, not a turn on.
Simple Pleasures
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Simple Pleasures       09-07-2014 13:36 PM
Holding hands and sharing popcorn at the movies.
Explaining today
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Explaining today       09-07-2014 13:35 PM
That everyone views life from said little handheld, instead of actually experiencing things.
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       09-07-2014 13:32 PM
jnc, no, never got into West Wing, but no matter, the people who've recommended House of Cards are ones I respect and trust their opinion. So far, they "know" me pretty well, so after we finally catch up with Breaking Bad, we'll check that one out too. It's really kind of a fun "water cooler" kind of thing when you find people who sit and discuss the History Channel, or another TV show, before or after you've gotten naked with them. This is a crazy and fun life.
Fucking Bitchfest 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Fucking Bitchfest 2014       09-07-2014 13:28 PM
FB Mr leaves for Boston early tomorrow morning, for the week.
Fucking Bitchfest 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Fucking Bitchfest 2014       09-07-2014 13:27 PM
Boy am I glad Mr has not left for his trip yet...I think we have Gremlins in our house! Power went out in the kitchen for no reason whatsoever. Yesterday I had my ipod in the dock, where I ALWAYS leave it, and turned it off after listening. I was eating breakfast this morning, and all of a sudden Billy Joel's New York State of Mind started playing. Glad it wasn't in the middle of the night with Mr gone and the house all quiet. Not really a FB, just a weirdness.
A Song to Suit your current Mood
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > A Song to Suit your current Mood       09-07-2014 13:21 PM
Mad World...the Adam Lambert version Nj, that would be a good story in the "behind the music" thread
Body Part of the Week
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Body Part of the Week       09-07-2014 13:18 PM
Eyes Closed week
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       09-07-2014 13:17 PM
Had such a nice evening and night last night Went to see Forrest Gump, yes, Forrest Gump at IMAX last night then drinks (the guys, us girls were drinking water) and laughs and great conversation. Then after they left, Mr completely wore me out. You know how you always think you know your mate and that you can't really be surprised anymore? Well, that's not true. Nice slow morning, he's out mowing the lawn, and here I am with all of you "fine folks." heheh
Songs that make you want to kill yourself
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Songs that make you want to kill yourself       09-05-2014 15:10 PM
I'll Never Fall in Love Again, Dionne Warwick. Talk about elevator music. No idea why that one has annoyingly popped in my head. Agh. GET IT OUT.
Sports: Football, UFC, Boxing, Wrestling, Golf, BasketBall, Baseball, soccer,etc Or any other Sport u would like to Discuss
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Sports: Football, UFC, Boxing, Wrestling, Golf, BasketBall, Baseball, soccer,etc Or any other Sport u would like to Discuss       09-05-2014 15:04 PM
well darn. I lost a bet last night to a Seahawks fan.
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       09-05-2014 15:03 PM
Wonder if we're ever going to break down and get Netflix. Both my sons keep telling me we would love House of Cards. We still need to catch up w/ Breaking Bad. Been traveling all summer and like someone said, as the seasons change, it'll be time to push the button on the gas fireplace and watch. Haha. (And I liked the shows all run together into one...kind of like a montage)
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       09-05-2014 15:01 PM
I have a renewed crush on Liev Schribner. Yum. As Ray Donovan, love those quiet dominant guys. Sexy as hell. "Abbie" is an idiot. BLT, I agree, you need to watch from season one if you're going to get the proper enjoyment of it. And the show itself is good. Mickey is a total son of a bitch, great job by Voight.
Pet Peeve 2013
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Pet Peeve 2013       09-05-2014 14:53 PM
PP: singing runs and embellishing The National Anthem. It's not a solo piece. It's the. national. anthem. Stop it.
Your Type
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Your Type       09-05-2014 14:47 PM
comic sans is one of my favorites too... As far as "types" go, I've been told enough times that I don't have a "type" I go for, as sometimes the very guy I think may not be for me does or says something incredibly attractive and then becomes "my type" for that time. I "tend" to go for guys who are a bit on the quieter side, confident, intelligent, sexy and sexual and have a dominance about them. As for looks, that can range from the nerdy preppy type to the shaved bald biker type, to a cowboy, to a hot businessman in a suit to a long haired cool musician to anyone in the military. Or anything in between. The only guys I don't like are the stupid ones who are all about themselves with something to prove, and who have no sense of humor. Bleh. Gina
How's the Weather Out There
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > How's the Weather Out There       09-05-2014 14:38 PM
actually muggy here in Texas. Rained, so that means the dog and I will suffer mold allergies. Can't complain and won't. I love it here.
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       09-05-2014 14:36 PM
HT: laid back weekend unplanned. Might go shooting, might go to a movie, might simply do nothing but each other My last PT for my neck/shoulder/arm was yesterday. Good group of therapists, compassionate as well as competent. Now to keep up with those exercises... Feeling better mentally, physically and emotionally than I have in a while. My sons are okay in talk to me all the time, my dad is being well-cared for, I have birth family that I connect with on so many levels it's freaky, no worries about anything financial ever, feel loved by a good man and a really sweet dog, good friends who can converse on really deep levels, or be silly with, and everything I need in a place I feel most content. Plus very soon to have a porch swing! Ahhh. Peaceful easy feeling.
A Song to Suit your current Mood
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > A Song to Suit your current Mood       09-05-2014 14:22 PM
The first rock song I liked (besides Ina Gadda Da Vida), when I was around 12: Rock On--David Essex (playing now, love the bass)
Fucking Bitchfest 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Fucking Bitchfest 2014       09-05-2014 14:14 PM
Me too, hardbacks are my favorite (snicker), then paper, then Kindle, but I do have one. Bibliophile. And I agree with Uriah, that most of the time if guys don't have condoms with them, they're hoping to go bareback. Uh uh. nope. not happening. FB: Now that I'm all done being angry at my mom for suddenly dying a couple years ago, I miss her! Today would've been hers and dad's 61st anniversary. But I am happy she did not have to try to take care of my dad, who has advanced Alzheimers. I am also glad he's getting awesome care. So, maybe I'm posting in the wrong thread... FB: too lazy to go repost.
Failed Erections
FORUMS > General Discussions > Men Talk > Failed Erections       09-05-2014 14:05 PM
Tiredness does play a role, so does alcohol. I'm still in favor of starting house parties around 3 in the afternoon...b/c by the time people get to an 8:00 party, it's usually more like 9:30, then hemhaw around a bit, usually "nothing" gets started until around midnight, then it's 4:00 AM. Which is FINE for people like me who are night owls, but not so fine sometimes for the guys who've gotten up at 5:00 AM that morning, worked, then are expected to get it up and keep it going. I've also noticed that in large groups, some guys have more of a problem maintaining an erection b/c simply, there is just too much going on all around them. Get them alone and they're usually great.
Post one random fact about yourselves
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Post one random fact about yourselves       09-05-2014 13:58 PM
That's pretty fascinating, Yon. And I'd probably rather have alligator again, or a muffaletta than a beignet. Looking forward to NOLA soon. RF: Mr. WILL be getting condolence sex tonight, or maybe when he walks in the door after work, for that sad football game last night. Anything he wants.
Submit the best lines from your favorite emails on sls
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Submit the best lines from your favorite emails on sls       09-05-2014 13:52 PM
the two posts below are my smile for the day... Maybe I need "something" rubbed on my chest (ala Amy Farrah Fowler perhaps)
BBW and Self-Image
FORUMS > General Discussions > B.B.W. > BBW and Self-Image       09-05-2014 13:47 PM
Today, someone told me to stop losing weight, that I look hot with a little weight on me. Agh. That's the second time in my life that I've heard that from a male. When I was a teen and weighed about 125-130, my parents were always making deals with me to lose weight. When I got married to my ex, and had my first son, I gained 50 pounds, lost a bit of it, but was about 145. As our marriage deteriorated, I gained and gained. My top weight (that I know of...might have been a bit more b/c after this I didn't weigh myself) was 203. And he would tell me that fat people didn't deserve to live, that he hated me b/c I was fat, that my weight was the cause of all his anger. Hear enough of those messages, and your head gets a bit mixed up, right? So, compliments now are weird. My husband tells me I'm beautiful, and he is one of those men who does like women with some weight. He's a big Carrie Underwood fan, and when she was on American Idol, he thought she was so cute. Now that she's thin, he misses her hips and thighs and curves. Ok. What's my point? I think my point is that you really have to be happy with yourself at any weight. While I still want to lose more (I was at 173 this morning), and have been fluctuating all summer between 169-173, I want to do it because I need the weight off my knees and also for my Type II Diabetes, which I've neglected since probably about April. BUT, I'm still wearing clothes I feel attractive in and that fit my body as it is NOW, not as I hope to be, or as I was 20 pounds heavier (last year at this time). Where does attraction come from? Eyes of the beholder? Or inside your own head about your own self. It's a lot to do with believing things you hear, good or bad, or believing what you choose to tell yourself. Today I am okay. Not perfect, not where I want to be, but further along that I was, and for now, for today, I'm okay with being me just as I am. Gina
Your Authentic Self
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Your Authentic Self       09-02-2014 17:37 PM
I'd love to hear what makes you "you." This can be a sentence of things you like, things that others find quirky or interesting about you, etc. Have fun with this. I spent so many years being and doing what someone else wanted, that it's been a blast rediscovering myself these past several years (being married to someone who encourages that is refreshing too!). Sometimes I know what does NOT make me "me," or what I DON'T like, but find it harder to express the opposite. Thanks! My name very much makes me "me" Gina
Truthful Tuesday
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Truthful Tuesday       09-02-2014 17:26 PM
Peghey, I see we're the same age, just sayin' (so no. You're not too old)
Fucking Bitchfest 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Fucking Bitchfest 2014       09-02-2014 16:57 PM
Broke my glasses on Friday at the airport in Dallas, mid trip. Just by cleaning them! Innovative creative very temporary "fix," (just call Mr "McGuyver"). Then the next morning, he super-glued them so I could wear them. Was staying in a smoker's house, so I didn't bother to take my contacts with me. well, now I know better. Always will carry a spare from now on. Just a minor thing for most people, but I am very blind, so this was "traumatic." ha. No one could fix them. In fact, when Mr. called around, he talked to a woman who could not understand that he was saying the word "repair." (this was in Mississippi) Finally he said the word "fix" and she said, "Ohhhh" as if he spoke a foreign language. Nope. Can't fix that. Anyway... Now I need to either go see if I can get them repaired, call about Lasix (is this a SIGN???), and/or wear my contacts until I decide. So far, they're "ok." I felt like such a nerd. Meanwhile, my dad is in advanced stages of Alzheimer's and it was hard to see him like that, so maybe, like someone said, this glasses thing was a diversion to take my mind of the bigger concern. I handle big crises well. I don't know why. I slip into auto drive or something and just take care of all around me. But when a little thing like breaking my glasses happens, I burst into tears!
A Song to Suit your current Mood
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > A Song to Suit your current Mood       09-02-2014 16:49 PM
Tuesday's Gone, Lynard Skynard
One word that describes you
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > One word that describes you       09-02-2014 16:47 PM
creative
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       09-02-2014 16:46 PM
We are back home (Gotta love our own bed...sigh...and our dog too). House is clean, laundry is going, dog is lying by my feet, husband is picking up a few needed grocery items on his way home from work, we can stay home tonight and most of the week, my sons seem okay, I did some writing, created a team for a cause I believe in, got to enjoy talking to my cute pest control guy, and so far, ate healthy today. Little things, yes. But as Brandon Lee says in The Crow, quoting his murdered angel gf, "Nothing is trivial." Husband even came out ahead at a Tunica casino Sunday night.
Submit the best lines from your favorite emails on sls
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Submit the best lines from your favorite emails on sls       09-02-2014 16:37 PM
Got a one liner email from a new "free" couple. They were cute, so I wrote an encouraging one back and then said we'd be out of town this (last) weekend but we'd see after we got back. here is what they wrote while we were away: "definitely hit us up when she gets better." Um...was I sick and didn't know it? Or am I supposed to get better at blow jobs? Driving? Mentally?
Songs that make you want to kill yourself
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Songs that make you want to kill yourself       08-29-2014 09:41 AM
Not "exactly" a song, but there's a Target back to school ad that drives me crazy b/c it's so cacophonous. (cool...I spelled that correctly the first time) It sounds like the first day of 6th grade band practice, and I hate it.
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       08-29-2014 09:39 AM
Ray Donovan is back! Love it (and him)
A Song to Suit your current Mood
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > A Song to Suit your current Mood       08-29-2014 09:34 AM
Woodstock, CSN (and no I wasn't there...I was ONLY 9 years old then)
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       08-29-2014 09:30 AM
Everyone have a wonderful Labor Day weekend! Heading to the airport this afternoon and flying to Memphis, one of my favorite cities, although won't get to explore so much this trip. Going to go visit my dad in the VA home in a nearby city in MS. Advanced stages of Alzheimer's. What a debilitating disease. But it's still going to be a "happy thought" b/c HE will be happy to have us visit, even if he won't know who we are anymore. Plus I'll get to hang out in another favorite town for a little bit. HT: only one more session of PT left! Have had some really great therapists and techs and yesterday we were laughing so much I snorted! (and then laughed more, of course!)
I have a weakness (soft-spot) for
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > I have a weakness (soft-spot) for       08-29-2014 09:17 AM
subtlety
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       08-19-2014 15:35 PM
FedEx arrived today with our tickets to see THE EAGLES! (music, not NFL!! There's always one in every crowd who says it) Three tickets: me, hubby, and my younger son who loves them as much as I do
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       08-19-2014 13:11 PM
^Spartacus?^ Yes.
Considering a threesome ?
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > Considering a threesome ?       08-19-2014 13:00 PM
collettecouple, welcome. Hop on over to the 3-some thread and post there...I would imagine you'll get better and more extensive advice there.
Naturally Busty Women
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Naturally Busty Women       08-15-2014 11:45 AM
well said, TooMuch. And ladies, never apologize for what you assume are someone's "preferences" in comparison to someone else's body (real or imagined). If the guy (or gal) is into you, he/she is into you. YOU. Not a new improved you, but YOU. Scars, extra weight, discolorations, wrinkles, "imperfections" etc. Those are just surface matters. If you are sexy, you are sexy. And you are sexy to someone. It just is. The other "things" don't really matter much. Almost always, those things we see as flaws are seen so by ourselves.
Taking one for the team reconsidered
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Taking one for the team reconsidered       08-15-2014 11:35 AM
I think it fair to point out here, that even with couples you are actually friends with, and have repeated sex with, every once in a while, there still may be a ho-hum experience or a "meh" experience, and that's with people you already are attracted to, on both sides. Can I honestly say that every single time Mr and I start to have sex, that we both are so intensely into it? Sometimes I might not "feel like it" at first even with my husband, but then after we get going, I am very into it. And sometimes I'm the one who initiates and wants it more at first. And that's with our own mate. (it's not the norm, however, b/c we both love and are attracted to each other, of course, but it's just an example). So, to "take one for the team" in that manner, wouldn't you agree we've pretty much all done it at some point, with someone. Sex with anyone is usually "selfish," in that we all want to be satiated and desired, and the center of the attraction/attention. But to instead consider your partner's needs and desires first and foremost, at any given situation, I think, is admirable sometimes and considerate. We were at a big party in VA, actually I think it was our first hotel party, and a couple came up and introduced themselves, started talking. I could tell that she really was into my husband, yet her partner was the so-called "meh," but attractive and in shape. I just didn't feel any "chemistry" there. He did. I didn't. So I was honest, but in a nice way. She and my husband had a good time, and he and I talked, flirted a bit, and found other people to play around with. And that was okay. In another scenario, the female took my husband by the hand and led him into the bedroom, no questions, no need to "get the hint," etc. He loved that. And I stayed in their living room with the husband, and while I liked him, he was so new to swinging, and had only ever been with his wife before that, that he was what I would call "fumbly" and awkward. So, I guess that would be taking one for the team, as I like men who are more confident and know what they are doing, enough that they will order me around, or take control. I don't like being the "teacher" in the bedroom. Both situations were fine. It's so temporary. And I knew my husband would "make up for it" when he got me alone. So to me, those situations are all foreplay. It's also worked in reverse, as I've enjoyed having sex with the husbands (and okay, the wives too) of couples where Mr. is playing host, or overseer so to speak, and I get to "have all the fun." We're mature enough to not "keep score." There is no score to keep. There is no "that's not fair," there is no "well if she gets to play then so do I" mentality, and its reverse, "if I can't play tonight then neither can he." We don't take it that seriously. It's just sex. Gina
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       08-15-2014 11:13 AM
Welcome back, Sacpit! Was a happy surprise to see your posts. Opening night tonight for the play I'm in, and it's been a blast. Love the little pseudo family we become. Gina
Name game with a TWist
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Name game with a TWist       08-15-2014 11:03 AM
Robin Mead (who was born in the same town I was!)
Are any men interested
FORUMS > General Discussions > B.B.W. > Are any men interested       08-15-2014 11:00 AM
I saw a quote on FB that said: The only competition you should have is in the mirror.
Feeling Left Out By Partner Do You Sometimes
FORUMS > General Discussions > Women Talk > Feeling Left Out By Partner Do You Sometimes       08-08-2014 13:15 PM
Agree with Sav also. Trust. Respect. We are an open book to each other, but, and like Sav says, we don't go "snooping." No need to. No inclination to. When we "play" we also are okay with separate rooms. Actually, we go with the moods and preferences of the other couple, usually. There has to be trust and mutual respect for swinging to work well. And there is. And it does.
Over50 and fine
FORUMS > General Discussions > Senior Swingers > Over50 and fine       08-08-2014 13:09 PM
What a nice little group of sexy people!
TV Shows
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > TV Shows       08-08-2014 13:06 PM
Halt and Catch Fire has been very good. I'm not a computer geek, so it's held my attention despite that. Hubby loves it.
A Song to Suit your current Mood
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > A Song to Suit your current Mood       08-08-2014 13:02 PM
She, "Walking in Memphis" is one of my favorite songs. We will be there end of August (Labor Day weekend). Today, though, it has to be "Portland Oregon," Loretta Lynn and Jack White, b/c it's in my head.
Fucking Friday
FORUMS > General Discussions > 3-Some > Fucking Friday       08-08-2014 12:56 PM
Am fucking being sort of lazy today, catching up on stuff I've been too busy to do this week. Then, fucking tonight, we are going to a Loretta Lynn concert, yes I said Loretta Lynn! She's fucking 82, gotta admire that. Tomorrow, a LONG play rehearsal, then a fucking party at a fucking swing club and hopefully a lot of fucking going on. If not, then there's always fucking my fucking husband. I feel like the lady in Plains Trains and Automobiles. The only time I say "fuck" in real life is when I'm asking to be. (or ok, sometimes in traffic)
HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > HAPPY THOUGHTS 2014       08-07-2014 11:33 AM
HT: busy August, and I'm enjoying being back doing some small time theater again! From acting to creating props to painting sets, it's a nice fit. On the back to school subject, I love September...it's always been a renewal time. I never liked my sons going back to school (I loved having them home), but just something about this upcoming time of year means new plans, a renewed energy to get things done, start new projects, etc. Plus school supplies. My kids are grown, but I will always like school supplies...
Name game with a TWist
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Name game with a TWist       08-07-2014 11:24 AM
Roseanne Roseannadanna
Happy Birthday Mr VA!
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Happy Birthday Mr VA!       08-01-2014 16:32 PM
I'll make sure you take some of your cat's dementia med so you don't forget. Not like you'll forget... Have a safe and happy trip.
Condom recommendations
FORUMS > General Discussions > Men Talk > Condom recommendations       08-01-2014 16:22 PM
Trojan Double Ecstasy : tried these out with Mr (if you're a guy who has issues w/ condoms, we recommend trying them out with your partner first, and that in itself can be erotic...felt like we were in High School using a condom), and they are innovative. A little different type of fit. It's not "tight" on the part of the shaft closest to the tip and on the tip itself. It's for movement. It's lubed inside for him, and outside for her, and also just slightly ridged. Fits snug nearer his body where it's most needed. Anyway, he got to try it out with a swing partner, and it was "quite a success." First condoms that he's really "liked."
chemistry importance
FORUMS > General Discussions > Getting Started > chemistry importance       08-01-2014 16:13 PM
I guess I don't understand how a guy would be able to get and maintain an erection if he wasn't at least attracted somewhat.
Name game with a TWist
FORUMS > General Discussions > Games > Name game with a TWist       08-01-2014 16:11 PM
Hank Moody
Happy Birthday Mr VA!
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Happy Birthday Mr VA!       07-30-2014 12:07 PM
Sorry I missed it, VA. I owe ya.
Fucking Bitchfest 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Fucking Bitchfest 2014       07-30-2014 12:06 PM
So sorry to hear that news, Jaycee.
Food and a trip down Memory Lane
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Food and a trip down Memory Lane       07-30-2014 12:05 PM
Over the weekend made Mr. a batch of Chocolate Shots cookies. No, not alcoholic;) His mom used to make them at Christmas, and the "shots" are what most of us call "sprinkles" or "jimmies." Blast from the past for him. Dum Dum suckers aren't as exciting as they used to be when I was, say, five years old. All the "mystery flavors" are blue.
Fucking Bitchfest 2014
FORUMS > General Discussions > Open Forum > Fucking Bitchfest 2014       07-22-2014 13:06 PM
Minor one: AC is not working properly, so getting it looked at today. Not really a major bitch, BUT it is hot here and we'd like it to remain consistent.