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TOPIC: Is honesty really the best policy

Created by: navybiguy Original Starting post for this thread:
For me it is. I posted my self as a bi male on my profile and it seems I have really limited my prospect value. I have been contacted my many "straight" guys trying to hook up behind their wifes back etc. But when I try to contact someone they see the "bi" and a huge red flag goes up. People dont seem to realize that Just because I am bi doesn't mean that Bi actions have to happen. I try to explain that I am willing to do what is agreed upon by all. I am not going to try to jump on a husband because I am bi. IF he wants that then he can let me know. I dont understand why couples looking for guys alienate me for being bi. Dave

Created by: navybiguy
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For me it is. I posted my self as a bi male on my profile and it seems I have really limited my prospect value. I have been contacted my many "straight" guys trying to hook up behind their wifes back etc. But when I try to contact someone they see the "bi" and a huge red flag goes up. People dont seem to realize that Just because I am bi doesn't mean that Bi actions have to happen. I try to explain that I am willing to do what is agreed upon by all. I am not going to try to jump on a husband because I am bi. IF he wants that then he can let me know. I dont understand why couples looking for guys alienate me for being bi.
Dave

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User Details are only visible to members.	We totally understand the str8 post, but when you contact a bi-couple let them know up front you are bi and your preferences...
Webster NY			Username hidden (12 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I hear you dude. Yea, just because some is bi does not necessary means he/she is not picky! Am I right? Mike!
San Diego CA			Username hidden (2 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I agree completely. I post myself as bi and I really am. I like being with both sexes, especially as couples. My biggest turn on, although I can enjoy them one on one, is with a m/f couple. I get many responses from "couples" or "straight man w/bicurious woman" and mostly it is really posts and responses from men who can't admit to themselves that it is he who is bi or curious. My thoughts to these men is, you only live once so accept yourself and enjoy it all. Please just don't misrepresent yourself to others.
New Smyrna Beach FL			Username hidden (13 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mark and DebbiHsv - You really hit the nail on the head!
Bryan TX			Username hidden (29 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Patogether sorry for the misinterpretation. We just like to meet people and have met more that we didn't sleep with then ones we ended up sleeping with. Some of that is due to the fact that we are not a meet and sleep couple and most just want to meet have dinner and jump in the sack. We even met one couple that we chatted with on here for a number of emails and made that point very clear. After dinner the guy says to us so are we going back to your place or getting a motel room. We said neither and excused ourselves. Randy n Sherry
Boyertown PA			Username hidden (108 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	bi_guy, I don't think patogether meant to be rude. You notice they indicated they avoid those profiles that say straight but bi-fem okay, as well. Sounds like their just looking for couples whose preference is straight MF or FM (FMF, MFM, etc.). They may feel they're second choice to a couple that lists as bi or curious. Personally, we list as curious because we find that curious people are more relaxed and less inhibited. But straight play is perfectly fine with us and what we're mostly interested in. Primarily, we're interested in fun. If its fun, do it. If its not, don't. And always respect each other's limits.
Shingle Springs CA			Username hidden (28 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Patogether what do you mean by saying you don't like being second choice? I said nothing along those lines. Randy
Boyertown PA			Username hidden (108 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Patogether what do you mean by saying you don't like being second choice? I said nothing along those lines. Randy
Boyertown PA			Username hidden (108 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	If you guys think it's hard to find a bi couple you should try to find another couple with a bi male and a str8 female. But that is what we our so that is how we list ourselves. We even state in our profile our male is bi but yours doesn't have to return it if hi's not comfortable with that. Honesty is still the best policy. We have had two single bi males but when it comes to giong out for dinner or drinks or camping, things like that, we perfer to do it with another couple then with a single male. Randy n Sherry
Boyertown PA			Username hidden (108 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Snoopy, are you a fundamentally honest person? Honest with yourself about your strengths, weaknesses, desires, insecurities? If so, you can feel other honest people. They just FEEL comfortable. By contrast, people that are not fundamentally honest feel uncomfortable. I was on IM with a man from a couple on SLS and he was IMing his wife. Suddenly his wife IM'd me and asked to see my webcam. But she immediately turned hers on. It was G-rated, she said, because kids were in the house. But from the moment she started talking to me, I knew they were real and honest people. We'll be in bed with them sometime next week, I think. On another occasion, someone IM'd me on here and asked to see our private pictures. Now, we have G-rated, full-face pictures on our profile but they had no public pictures, at all. I was already suspicious, them having asked for pictures basically before saying hello, so I said "you first". They refused. Clearly they were looking for pictures and that was all. If you are an honest person and open yourself to the communication with a small dose of healthy scepticism, you can feel when they're being honest with you. As far as the profiles being BS, there's an old saying: Believe about half of what you see and a quarter of what you hear and you just might not get taken. When it comes to websites or personals or anything in which people can say anything without being held to it, as they would in person, my experience has been that 90% of what they say is BS. So, by my numbers, about 1 in 10 of the people you talk to online are people you might be interested in. Not the greatest ratio, I know, but it could be worse.
Shingle Springs CA			Username hidden (28 post)

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