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Aarron, Give me a shout in private, we can talk about these things, and I can share some support options for you, and for her. Depression for men in denial, or suppressing feelings is typical. There are ways to lessen it, and make the situation a better one, where you can be happy.

Please contact me,

Al

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I understand cheating full well, but I also understand depression very well and what that can lead too. A few years ago I had a very close friend who was bi-sexual, At the time I fully identified as straight or I might have been able to help my friend. He like myself was a married man, two kids, house, nice job, ect... He had confided in me that he had played with boys as a kid and wanted to try it again as an adult. He said he wanted to try it but his wife insisted he choose her or being gay. He stayed with his wife and pretended to be happy for a few more years. We lost contact for a few years and through social media his wife contacted me to let me know his depression had gotten so bad he desired to end his life.

So to all the amazing happily well adjusted people in the lifestyle who have had the amazing opportunity to find themselves with open minded partner who let's them play or even pays with them consider yourselves very fucking lucky.

I'm currently in the same situation that took my friends life and I'm trying my best to bring my wife over the fence without me cheating.

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Talk to her and discuss your urges. If she understands she will help out and be present. My wife understands, but is not interested in being there. She says it is guy time. Go figure, my man cave is not finished, but she already plans on a futon for it for friends to come over and play. Wow, did I mention my wife loves me?

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You don't understand cheating?????? Okay, your wife is getting banged by several guys that know you, but you don't know about them. She does this because you just don't scratch her itch. She'd tell you but, she is sure you would not like knowing she is getting more pipe layed then a union plumber. How do you feel about that? Now that cheating. Now, Your with several guys and taking turns banging your wife. Now THAT is fun sex!!!!! Help you to understand?

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I just do not understand why "cheating is cheating" but having sex with your spouse present is not??? Let's be honest and admit that we swingers are in it for the fun sex. I'm married bi and have a good sex life at home but the wife would never go for a bi experience.

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mr You need to have a real talk with your wife. If you can't, your already in trouble. Leave the bi-curious stuff in your head, get a nice bottle of lube and have at it. As others have stated here. Cheating is cheating if the other does not know. Glad I had that chat with Cin!!!!! C

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"what are the prevalent opinions for bi-curious married men about trying a bi-experience without discussing it with your wife."

Very very bad idea. Good way to end up really being single. My advice is get off the fence. If the lifestyle is that important to you, divorce the prude wife & hook up with someone in the lifestyle. If your wife is more important to you, go home & love her.

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My opinion obviously isn't in the majority so far but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. I have only made the leap once because I only found one couple I trusted enough to play with but I can't say I regret it. If your situation is like mine, my wife is very conservative and there is no way that would fly, even watching porn or toys won't fly. I love a mmf bisex threesome so I understand where you are coming from. Finding a decent but discrete couple that understands and you feel you can trust is often the hard part.

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just curious, dose your wife know you are advertising on a swingers site with a single profile? Your question only mentions "bi" and I can understand and even relate to being frustrated about having same sex desires that you are afraid to confess to. If that were the only case here I might suggest you give it a try quietly and see how strong the attraction is before spilling the beans to your wife. Unfortunately, That dose not seem to be the case. In your profile, you are looking for males, females and couples. It would seem you are more of a horn dog than a frustrated bisexual. Tell us something, How do you feel about your wife getting a little on the side while you are traveling?

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As you can see, the swinging community doesn't look favorably on cheating. It is one thing to be single, another to be playing single with the knowledge of your primary partner(s). Swinging, and playing with others has risk, and that risk is something that should be a decision your partner has the ability to weigh and decide with an equal voice in what happens that will affect the well being of all parties.

Cheating aside, have you considered an open and frank discussion with your wife? Have you even thought about discussing either the bisexual or swinging lifestyles with her? You should really start there. It's not easy, it's possibly uncomfortable, but if you are willing to be open and frank now, it will make a difference in the long run of what ever happens later.

There are a number bi-specific sites available with some good advice (and some bad), as well as swing specific advice (this is a good site, and with a mix of open honest opinions, with the required handful of web trolls that usually disappear after they realize they will make no progress)... I suggest you start looking at more information and have that open discussion. Lots of ways to start that discussion, but start!

- feel free to contact me privately as well, Al

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