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User Details are only visible to members.	"She is listed as bi-curious because she is very selective when it comes to women. Also she lists as bi curious because she is still exploring this side of her sexuality." “I'm listed as bi-curious for the simple fact that I do not like being pushed into anything I’m not comfortable with. I find a lot of women very attractive, and would love to play with them....but, not every woman is attractive to me.” I'm not selecting these people out. I am merely using these statements to illustrate my point. What's wrong with being honest? I'm not interested in you (female/male) sexually. The standard NO means NO. Maybe I should be heterocurious because I'm not interested in all men...I'm very selective. Actually, I should list as sexually curious...because I'm not interested in most folks regardless of sex. I'm very picky. This makes no sense except for the one lady who wasn’t interested in playing with females, at all, unless in a group activity. That’s not bicurious either. She’s a het who plays with women. She knows exactly where she stands on this issue. Why play games? Either you are interested in a person or not. This lifestyle (for me) is about freedom. That’s freedom to choose who I want to play with regardless of what I label myself. Mischief Heterocurious, Homocurious, and just plain picky.
Glen Burnie MD			Username hidden (2785 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	THANX and from PA tooooooo... whohoo :-)
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (5330 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	thanx :-)
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (5330 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	tort hit it right on the head.. That's the problem with these titles. I take the "titles" as this: straight means you will be with the opposite sex, gay means you will be with the same sex, bi means you will be with either sex... and i would add this but whenever the hell u want.. i never understand why these debates generate such debate. it is almost as bad as the poor bi guys..
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (5330 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Why not just use words in your profile, exactly as so many have done here???
Enosburg Falls VT			Username hidden (969 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Once again I think there is terrible confusion about labels. So why not stop judging other people's use of a label by what you think it SHOULD mean and accept that we all have different meanings for it? It seems that many here feel bi-curious women are not bi enough. Tort here has described clearly why she uses the bi-curious label for truly bi activity. Using one word label to make a judgment on whether to email or respond to an email seems to me a lack of a spirit of communication. Communication means using many words to get a sense of the person or persons across. One word will never cut it. One word is limiting. And one word can have many different meanings for different people as so well demonstrated here. So at least be aware that your meaning for that one word will not be the meaning used by all here.
Enosburg Falls VT			Username hidden (969 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	That is where the problem lies because I also view bi-curious as mostly a one way situation, and normally not interested in those type encounters. Maybe everyone should push for SLS to add a bi-friendly for those who love to give as much as receive, yet don't feel comfy with being bi. I'd still be looking for bi-fems personally, but it would be nice to have a term other than bi-curious for others to use.
Fort Worth TX			Username hidden (8590 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I tend to think similarly. Frankly, I'm leaning towards just staying with women who are very openly bi (or at least "bi-curious" with a number of experiences). We've had so much fun with couples where the other woman also has experiences as opposed to yet again being some nervous woman's first time. I've had situations where I'm kissing a woman on a dance floor at a party and she seems to know what she's doing, then we all go back to a room and I find out it's her first time. I guess we all have a first time, but personally I'd just like a break from popping other women's "bi-girl cherry".
Manchester CT			Username hidden (9 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Never thought of using the bi-curious designation (rather than bi) to mean she enjoys full-on sex with women, but wouldn't want a woman as a life partner. Ironic, since so very few are here to find a life partner. (The vast majority of swingers avoid emotional strings & commitments.) After all, "bi" doesn't mean "lesbian". When I see "bi-curious" on a profile (if it's been around for any length of time) I usually take it to mean she will let me go down on her, but she likely won't reciprocate. It usually also means she is unsure and tentative about having sex with women. (Especially if there is nothing in the narrative to suggest otherwise.)
Pismo Beach CA			Username hidden (303 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Yes, Raven, understand that completely. My point and that of others here is about labels not being easy because they don't flesh out the story, as you just did in your post. For someone who is not 50/50, but still enjoys playing with women, as Tort has described, the label bi might not seem as right for them as it is for you. They may feel they are doing the bi label a disservice by claiming it for themselves when they don't feel 50/50 and feel they only could have a partner relationship with men. Say they feel 25% for women and 75% for men, what label would fit them best? I can understand their reasoning for choosing bi-curious. Personally I feel using the bi label is fine if you enjoy playing with women no matter the level of bi you feel. Bi is inclusive and includes not just those who feel 50/50 toward women and men, but those who feel far more toward men than women yet enjoy playing with women. And using the bi-curious label is fine too for those who feel less than 50/50. It's not the label that counts, it's the communication you use in playing.
Enosburg Falls VT			Username hidden (969 post)

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