What does it mean to be Bi and married: Swingers Discussion 1032071021

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User Details are only visible to members.	I have been married 24 years-this time. I have a female partner of almost 8 years. I have been "bi" since I was 20. I look at being bi this way. I really prefer the term sexual to bisexual. I am sexual with people not genitals. It's the person I'm interested in. I understand where you are and here's what happened to me. Sure I can do without sex entirely and live to a ripe old age. I can also do without one or the other sex also. These are not needs but wants. However, I determined not to deny myself the love of a woman or a man. Life is too short. Men provide things women don't. Women provide things men don't. They are not the same. Ask your hubby if a man could replace you? Of course not. It's just different. Tell him it's the same with you. Heterosexual guys understand why women are sooooo compelling. There's a lot of learning to do when you realize that bisexuality is something that you might identify with. Suddenly all the things society teaches about sex is kind of twisted. It's not that simple anymore. BTW, it's perfectly natural to desire to be accepted for who you are by your friends, parents, and other special people in your life. The only problem with coming "out"? Folks will ask you a ton of questions you may not be prepared to answer currently. There are several books on bisexuality. There are some very good websites on bisexuality. Look up Fritz Klein's website. Bisexuality is not a 50/50 thing. There's a gradient of sexual preferences. It goes from zero to six. I'm a 5. Here's the take home.. There is NO rush to figure things out. Things will change over time. There is no right/wrong way to be bisexual or anything else. Just be yourself and relax. It will come to you in time...about where you fit in all of this. One of the questions I really love? When did you decide you are bisexual? I usually reply with a question. When did you decide you were heterosexual? Keep us posted... smiles. Mischief been this way a long, long time.
Glen Burnie MD			Username hidden (2785 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I agree with femmeB. There are many of my favorite things I could live without, but just prefer not too. My only real issue is finding those that fulfill my needs and desires. I just namely have found it hard to find that which fit my criteria and comfort level. I am pretty open about my sexuality, so it would be nice to have a regular girlfriend. But if I weren't ever to have another such encounter, I am perfectly happy and content living out my days with my hubby. We all have things/likes we desire and want, but we always should remember what good things we have and not take them for granted. The way I/we handle it, is we go after what we would like to have, but we aren't going to let it rule our life. L
Niles MI			Username hidden (23 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	A few days ago I told a male friend of mine that I was bi. He is the first friend/family other then my husband that I've "come out" to. I don't even feel comfortable using that phrase. I felt good about being able to tell someone we know about this. I then told my husband about what I did and how I felt about it. We have had some playtime with some people we've met. However I never told my husband that I had the need to talk to someone else about being bi other then him. I guess what's puzzling me now are the questions that my husband asked about which are do I "need" to have a female in my life even if it's every once in awhile to feel like my "needs" are taken care of? Or can I go the rest of my life not being with another woman again? How can I be Bi and be married to a man? If I were to be with just my husband for the rest of my life, I would be very happy. I told him that I would still miss being with a woman. How do everyone else who may be in this situation deal with this issue?
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