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It's interesting to hear how bracelets are used in different parts of the country. Each establishment can figure out the definitions they want to follow, but I like Louisville's pink and blue concept. We had wondered why the party we attended never had a nod to bi males and figured it was due to a little homophobia, which is unfortunate.

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TandPG, Louisvillie is a terrific city. I was there once, and stayed in the Galt hotel, and loved it there. Beautiful view of the water.

Thanks for the heads up re: the blue bracelet. Definitely pink then. ;-D

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just a heads up on bracelets...light blue at most parties we have been to mean Bi Male. Pink is Bi female. Black is BDSM, green full swap couples.

I think you need to move to Louisville, seems like over 50% of the couples at the club we go to are into what your seeking girl girl play guys only play with their own girl.

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KD, we never saw long lines around the women with blue and green bracelets, but we certainly got the feeling that people matched up more quickly than they might have without the bracelets.

The first time we attended the parties where these bracelets were used, we chose to wear red. Having been nudists for a few years already, we got naked and joined others in the hot tub for a nice soak. I remember one guy definitely giving me the eye and vibes like he was interested in me, but once he saw the red bracelet he backed off quickly. At subsequent parties, when we started wearing colors that indicated we were soft swap and I was bi, there were full swap couples who didn't want to spend time with us while they went searching for other green bands. Alternately, we spent more time chatting up other people with bands similar to ours, though it wasn't a hard and fast rule, especially once we became known by others and more comfortable with the regulars. The system does work for the most part.

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Scandle, that sounds like it would be perfect. I'm going to mention it to a local group that we attend events with, and see what they think. I think that's a great idea.

kinddraggon, we do take that approach. However, we're probably overly kind, it that we are very polite, and that's not the first thing out of out mouths. On average, I'd say it takes us a good 10-15 minutes to disengage ourselves from full swing or 100% straight couples. multiply that my a dozen or so, and you'll see that a good portion of our evening is taken up already.

It's not bad, we still have fun. I was just wondering if there was an easier way.

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WifeIsN2girls2, we used to belong to a club that would make available glow-in-the-dark bracelets that indicated your interest. Red meant "we're here to look and maybe for a little very soft swap," green meant "we want full swap," yellow was "soft swap only," and blue meant bi woman. They allowed people to wear more than one color if they wished. In your case, it might work for your wife to wear blue and you to wear red, for example. I believe the bracelets are pretty cheap and easy to store.

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While we can dicker over my proper usage of the term "truly bi", let's just say the complaints aired in here would not nearly be so common if "bi" women were more often "truly bi".

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Cool, we appreciate the input and insight.

I understand we're in the minority, hence the dilima and original questions.

One again, I'm not looking for reasons why we are outnumbered, or different than the norm. What I'm asking is how to circumvent some of the unwanted advances full swap folks and spend more time with like minded couples.

Your posts were not exactly what we were asking, but we appreciate your perspective just the same. Thanks for respecting our thread.

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Again - just giving you some insight from someone who's "been there done that"... not criticizing or arguing, mmmk?

"I think there's a significant portion of other couples out there that have truly bi females, and aren't interested in other 'dick' beyond their significant others, just as I know that I wouldn't be interested in having sex with another female."

Significant? Yes. But definitely a minority.

"Also, I would encourage females and wives that are not 'truely bi', as you have stated, to not indicate that they are."

How are they going to do that? "Bi curious" really means more like "well, I guess I like girls I don't know" - implying some kind of lack of experience or uncertainty of interest. This is not the case. Mrs. VA and many others are very much "bi" under the right circumstances.

"My wife is plenty enough for me."

Those are words that usually are a dead giveaway for "issues" with newbie people, and I'd recommend you refrain from using them. The implication (and I don't think you mean it this way) is that people who DO want sex with others feel their wife/husband is NOT enough for them, and that's not the case. It's a hallmark of insecurity in newbie couples, who assure each other they are "enough" to allay their insecurity. I'm not saying this is you -I'm saying it's what we see.

Anyway - I've said my piece here.... unless you specifically ask me something I'll leave you to this thread. All the best.

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My wife wanted me to post that she said that she does want dick, but that she already gets it. What she doesn't get on a regular basis is pussy. :-)

That's sooo hot that she said that I just had to share. Almost 20 years together and she still surprises me.

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