Attended our first event last night, have a few questions: Swingers Discussion 2166421012

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TOPIC: Attended our first event last night, have a few questions

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User Details are only visible to members.	WifeIsN2girls2, we used to belong to a club that would make available glow-in-the-dark bracelets that indicated your interest. Red meant "we're here to look and maybe for a little very soft swap," green meant "we want full swap," yellow was "soft swap only," and blue meant bi woman. They allowed people to wear more than one color if they wished. In your case, it might work for your wife to wear blue and you to wear red, for example. I believe the bracelets are pretty cheap and easy to store.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (6985 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm sorry VA, I didn't mean to ...'dicker'. I think a lot of people say that about bi women who don't have sex with every woman they see. When I saw you say it, I was not complaining, I was genuinely trying to understand why you also saw it that way. It had nothing to do with proper usage of the term. I am aware of the many reasons women say they are bi and they really aren't at all.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	While we can dicker over my proper usage of the term "truly bi", let's just say the complaints aired in here would not nearly be so common if "bi" women were more often "truly bi".
Chesapeake VA			Username hidden (11837 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	To the OP, ...why not just be honest and direct -very early on, with people you may be interested in or who are showing interest in you that you may like???? Something like ... "Hey, you both seem great but we want to be upfront, we are only seeking FF play, so not sure if you're interested in that?" They can say no, or they can say they'll think about it, or they can say it sounds like fun. ....whatever, just say it sooner than later, and then no one wastes anyone's time. VA, you have me curious... ...when you said, "Most women (Mrs. VA is one of them) are not truly bi, even those listed as "bi". Most are bi either for exactly the right woman, or just like girls for foreplay." -and- "Mrs. VA and many others are very much "bi" under the right circumstances" ------- I'm wondering why don't you think a woman who may be very 'selective' with their female partners is not 'truly bi'? Why is she not just a 'truly bi woman' who is selective? Maybe it's because she is more selective with women than men?? I don't know? But if ~she fully enjoys being with females, of her choice, that to me is the definition of the word, and your lovely wife is truly bi. no? ...just wondering.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2981 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Cool, we appreciate the input and insight. I understand we're in the minority, hence the dilima and original questions. One again, I'm not looking for reasons why we are outnumbered, or different than the norm. What I'm asking is how to circumvent some of the unwanted advances full swap folks and spend more time with like minded couples. Your posts were not exactly what we were asking, but we appreciate your perspective just the same. Thanks for respecting our thread.
Chesterfield VA			Username hidden (43 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Again - just giving you some insight from someone who's "been there done that"... not criticizing or arguing, mmmk? "I think there's a significant portion of other couples out there that have truly bi females, and aren't interested in other 'dick' beyond their significant others, just as I know that I wouldn't be interested in having sex with another female." Significant? Yes. But definitely a minority. "Also, I would encourage females and wives that are not 'truely bi', as you have stated, to not indicate that they are." How are they going to do that? "Bi curious" really means more like "well, I guess I like girls I don't know" - implying some kind of lack of experience or uncertainty of interest. This is not the case. Mrs. VA and many others are very much "bi" under the right circumstances. "My wife is plenty enough for me." Those are words that usually are a dead giveaway for "issues" with newbie people, and I'd recommend you refrain from using them. The implication (and I don't think you mean it this way) is that people who DO want sex with others feel their wife/husband is NOT enough for them, and that's not the case. It's a hallmark of insecurity in newbie couples, who assure each other they are "enough" to allay their insecurity. I'm not saying this is you -I'm saying it's what we see. Anyway - I've said my piece here.... unless you specifically ask me something I'll leave you to this thread. All the best.
Chesapeake VA			Username hidden (11837 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My wife wanted me to post that she said that she does want dick, but that she already gets it. What she doesn't get on a regular basis is pussy. :-) That's sooo hot that she said that I just had to share. Almost 20 years together and she still surprises me.
Chesterfield VA			Username hidden (43 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Also, I would encourage females and wives that are not 'truely bi', as you have stated, to not indicate that they are. I understand why they would, but at the same time, I would think you would be able to avoid unwanted advances from those that are looking for a couple with a truely bi wife. Just my opinion.
Chesterfield VA			Username hidden (43 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Thanks again for your honesty. It is appreciated. You may very well be right about about how most couples progress. I know that our limited experience with other lifestyle friends has shown us that most couples feel that way. However, I don't think they all do. I think there's a significant portion of other couples out there that have truly bi females, and aren't interested in other 'dick' beyond their significant others, just as I know that I wouldn't be interested in having sex with another female. My wife is plenty enough for me. We understand there are many other swap couples out there that are looking for more than we are. We're ok with that. I prefer to be around open minded people of all types. The point of the thread, however, was the find out the best way to politely and quickly disengage from those that are interested in more, so that we can spend more time with, and focus on those that are looking for similar types of fun.
Chesterfield VA			Username hidden (43 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well, allow me to expand... and please don't let what I'm saying be misinterpreted.... A couple things that are "facts", as near as I can tell. 1. Most women (Mrs. VA is one of them) are not truly bi, even those listed as "bi". Most are bi either for exactly the right woman, or just like girls for foreplay. In the end, most "bi" women are really looking at the guy half as the end game, with the female half as the pre-game and perhaps half-time show. 2. While many couples begin as you have (or "girls only for threesomes"), once the curiosity has been satisfied, most end up relaxing their rules and become more "standard" swingers (provided jealousy wasn't the reason they were "girls only"). While this may not be the case for you, people do generalize, and if we meet a "watch the girls" club, the thought that runs through our heads (from either of us) is "yeah yeah OK see you in a year when you want dick". We certainly wouldn't be that brutal about it, and not everyone "changes", but more often than not, this is the case. As I said - good luck.
Chesapeake VA			Username hidden (11837 post)

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