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TOPIC: Attended our first event last night, have a few questions

Created by: WifeIsN2girls2 Original Starting post for this thread:
First a little background. My wife and I have been together for many years. She's smoking hot, and I'm totally and completly into her. Whether she's dancing, or playing pool or whatever, I always have trouble taking my eyes off her. She's also totally bi. We both enjoy checking out other hot girls. I am absolutely ok with her exploring her Bi-ness, as long as I get to watch. :-) I know that many guys say this, and what they really want is a fmf threesome, but that's not us. I'm not interested in doing anything beyond flirting and maybe light petting with any other girl.... ever. Watching my wife have fun with another girl, and then my wife having fun with me is really the extent of my fantasy. We are also not full, or even moderate swap. We're ok with a little flirting and light petting, but we really just want her to meet other girls that she likes. The problem is that she really attracts alot of attention from full swap couples. I'm sure all hot girls are used to this attention problem, but it was frustrating that we were unable to disengage from aggressive lifestyle couples that want different (more) things than we do. So the question is, are we barking up the wrong tree here? Is there some secret password that we can use to quickly disengage ourselves from couples that are looking to swap? Should she be wearing a rainbow bracelet or something to let people know her preferences outside the marriage? We thought that aybe a gay bar would be a more appropriate place to meet like minded people, but we didn't want to limit her to only single girls, or FF couples. We'd love to hear your thoughts.

Created by: WifeIsN2girls2
Original Starting post for this thread:

First a little background. My wife and I have been together for many years. She's smoking hot, and I'm totally and completly into her. Whether she's dancing, or playing pool or whatever, I always have trouble taking my eyes off her. 

She's also totally bi. We both enjoy checking out other hot girls. I am absolutely ok with her exploring her Bi-ness, as long as I get to watch. :-) I know that many guys say this, and what they really want is a fmf threesome, but that's not us. I'm not interested in doing anything beyond flirting and maybe light petting with any other girl.... ever. Watching my wife have fun with another girl, and then my wife having fun with me is really the extent of my fantasy. 

We are also not full, or even moderate swap. We're ok with a little flirting and light petting, but we really just want her to meet other girls that she likes.

The problem is that she really attracts alot of attention from full swap couples. I'm sure all hot girls are used to this attention problem, but it was frustrating that we were unable to disengage from aggressive lifestyle couples that want different (more) things than we do.

So the question is, are we barking up the wrong tree here? Is there some secret password that we can use to quickly disengage ourselves from couples that are looking to swap? Should she be wearing a rainbow bracelet or something to let people know her preferences outside the marriage? We thought that aybe a gay bar would be a more appropriate place to meet like minded people, but we didn't want to limit her to only single girls, or FF couples. 

We'd love to hear your thoughts.

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User Details are only visible to members.	The event we went to that used them was in Florida, but they are manufactured for swing events.
Louisville KY			Username hidden (14171 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm just being a smartass :)
Chesapeake VA			Username hidden (12177 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It's not a hard system to learn, VA, and if you see someone with a bracelet but you can't remember what it designates, you can always ask. Think of it as a new kind of ice breaker. We never felt pressured to wear a bracelet and sometimes went without, as did others.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (7072 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Shit that sounds complicated. How about a name tag that says "We are looking for...." Unless you plan on handing out cards explaining it all at the beginning.
Chesapeake VA			Username hidden (12177 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It's interesting to hear how bracelets are used in different parts of the country. Each establishment can figure out the definitions they want to follow, but I like Louisville's pink and blue concept. We had wondered why the party we attended never had a nod to bi males and figured it was due to a little homophobia, which is unfortunate.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (7072 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	TandPG, Louisvillie is a terrific city. I was there once, and stayed in the Galt hotel, and loved it there. Beautiful view of the water. Thanks for the heads up re: the blue bracelet. Definitely pink then. ;-D
Chesterfield VA			Username hidden (50 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	just a heads up on bracelets...light blue at most parties we have been to mean Bi Male. Pink is Bi female. Black is BDSM, green full swap couples. I think you need to move to Louisville, seems like over 50% of the couples at the club we go to are into what your seeking girl girl play guys only play with their own girl. PG
Louisville KY			Username hidden (14171 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It's definitely a great idea! :)
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	KD, we never saw long lines around the women with blue and green bracelets, but we certainly got the feeling that people matched up more quickly than they might have without the bracelets. The first time we attended the parties where these bracelets were used, we chose to wear red. Having been nudists for a few years already, we got naked and joined others in the hot tub for a nice soak. I remember one guy definitely giving me the eye and vibes like he was interested in me, but once he saw the red bracelet he backed off quickly. At subsequent parties, when we started wearing colors that indicated we were soft swap and I was bi, there were full swap couples who didn't want to spend time with us while they went searching for other green bands. Alternately, we spent more time chatting up other people with bands similar to ours, though it wasn't a hard and fast rule, especially once we became known by others and more comfortable with the regulars. The system does work for the most part.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (7072 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I understand. I think all clubs and big M&G's should have those bracelets! I'm sure most people would like to know these things quickly. I'm picturing a long line around the green and blue gals though, lol.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

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