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My two cents worth:

I (hubby) understand your aggravation, sabrinasslave1, to what most of us recognize as the “players”. Men (generally) who will say/do nearly anything in their attempt to get sexual opportunities. They rarely achieve success (I think) but can really frustrate us a bit with their attempts.

That being said…

I have found no two people to be identical, or even close. There are variations to every general label that seem to be unending. I believe that most of us would agree on that. I believe, as some do in this thread, that the very limited number of choices (labels) provided only serve as a starting point to describe ourselves “in a phrase”…what we prefer, what we will tolerate, and what we will not accept.

I would only submit that to exclude a couple or individual from any discussion or consideration based solely on their use of these labels might unnecessarily limit your opportunities for great friendships and/or fun.

Nevertheless, I agree with you in your choice not to even respond to someone whom you feel confident is being dishonest or misleading. However, I just don’t believe that my wife or I would come to that conclusion based only on a given label.

Just my humble opinion….


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We post that were both BI. Its about honesty and we get a lot of replies. She likes watching me with another guy and it turns her on and joins sometimes.

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Pleasure is pleasure for some.. for others it is not pleasurable for someone they do not want to touch them to do so. Make sure your playing with those who don't mind.

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Why do we have to put a label on our sexuality. Why Cant we just go with the flow and enjoy what happens, whether we consider ourselves bi or straight, or I am fondling another man or woman? Pleasure is pleasure.


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@openminds, very well said. I thoroughly agree!

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I am not sure which is worse those that cast dispersions on men labeled as bi or those that are bi that equally cast dispersions based on a sensitive issue and a lable. We tried a bi label because that occasion play was fun. But being more conservative in couples and sm selection already and very rarely playing it just didn't help making contacts. Because we had an experience two years ago where there was play beyond straight, we are not changing our status. The wife 99% of the time has no bi desires. Given alcohol and the right person she might. We wouldn't want the label police chasing us down over it. We concider ourselves tolerant to everyone and make choices on how we play based on the people we play with. We prefer not to play with judgmental types that critique every dotted I and crossed T on a profile. We found trying to experiment with bi guys even when our profile had bi only led to married guys looking to cheat and guys way outside our age range and no way in hell we want smokers breath breathing on us during play time. We therefore, made such a small niche bi is not practical to fit based on an every couple of years event. So we for all effective purposes play straight and make that our orientation. If we make friends with a bi sm or bi couple then we may adjust our play to fit the situation.

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The major issue is being forced to accept a label that doesn't fit, the assumptions that if one is at all bi, then anything bi goes. That's jus not the case. My bi play is limited to touching & oral, I don't swallow & I don't eat cream pies. So you can't assume a guy who lists bi will satisfy your wifes fantasy. If SLS would adopt an orientation listing system that allows for the gray area, it would solve 90% of this problem.

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You know I don't even know why this has to be such a major issue. When you are 20 maybe. At the age most of us are you should be covering a lot of preferences up front anyway.

Everyone doesn't even like to do all the same things on the hetero menu. Some women don't like doggie at all, for example. I wouldn't exclude a profile because the guy is bi If we hooked up I would just make sure the limits were covered. My wife wants someone to eat her creampie and I just can't make myself do that so maybe it would work well lol.


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Toomuch, the problem with being "honest" is guys like me. I am oral only, I do not kiss guys, I am not attracted to guys romanticly or sexually, I would not date or be in a romantic relationship with a guy, but during group play I do enjoy sharing pleasure with everyone in the group. Most straights say any MM contact makes you bi. Most true bi guys say my limits mean I'm not bi. And there's the problem, I am being dishonest regardless of how I list. Sexual orientation is like all things human, there is no absolute black & white, only various shades of gray. Unfortunately, SLS listing options do not reflect that, and until they do, this argument will continue. I wrestled with this for quite some time, and decided to list as bi, mainly because we don't like bigots of any kind, and listing bi weeds out 99% of them.

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LOL Right.

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