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User Details are only visible to members.	BiCple - the point is that the first communication has not been honest since when the meet comes it is obvious the guy lied to get to the female of the couple. I am not the only one to complain about this. As far as privacy, anyone who doesn't post personal information or face pics on their profile and tell everyone they meet who they are and where they live really has little to fear from being on a LS website. It isn't that the profiles exist, but the "user error" that people make when they decide what to share.
Waterloo IA			Username hidden (73 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sabrina. I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. Its even in our profile about that. I myself enjoy watching and probably watch more than participate. Ill usually watch, then join in for the last few minutes. But as the husband, nobody is going to come here and tell me what Im allowed to do. Some do try to just have me watch, or pull the bi, bait and switch. That wont fly. Bi, used to me more of a requirement than a preference earlier on. We wouldnt even consider a straight guy. And thats when we encountered the bait and switch liars since they knew that was their only way in. After a couple times of being lied to. We changed our tactic to my wife saying "you boys get started, ill join ya's in a few" The "OH SHIT" look on some faces was priceless. With that said, we find no shortage of bi friendly guys and the fact that we state that as a "preference" and not a requirement, we find guys that are more honest.
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Lol, it may one day be that people actually list themselves correctly on a profile I bet I will be dead and turned to dust by then though. Maybe in 2100.
Spring TX			Username hidden (1844 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I don't care what a person puts on their profile for the sake of discretion, as long as they are honest in the first private communication. This site & our profiles are nowhere near as private as many of you seem to think. Anybody can create a free profile, as groups like the god hates fags church etc have done to out people in their local communities, not to mention those with personal grudges doing the same. It happened to us several years back, a member here cuirculated our profile to our employers & family, so I don't blame anybody for being discreet on their profile.
Osterburg PA			Username hidden (295 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Allow me to clarify- We are talking about the males who list as straight but say they are bi, THEN want little to do with me. I am actually like you in that this is not about me humping every guy who comes in the door. It is she who does.not like the idea of playing without me being involved. Since I also like bi play the requirement is more for her than it is for me. I am content to watch. She only likes that if I get to join in later. Even if I don't actually play, the possibility must exist. So the listing is only half of it. The behavior is the other half. The dishonesty. In short, we are tired of the "I/we are going to fuck your wife/gf and you might or might not get to play" meetups.
Waterloo IA			Username hidden (73 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Since I can never resist this topic no matter how hard i try...lol We used to have the same policy. If they were listed as straight we wouldnt even open the email. Automatic delete. Then we had a couple of times that the guy lied about being bi and we found that out in the bedroom. So then, we would make it clear that when we got together the guys would start playing first, then my wife would join. But it finally came down to after reading the forums, I kind of agree with them. Since bi has such a broad range, everyone is lumped into the same category. And that category is avoided by a lot of people. As ive said many times. The extent of my bi play is so mild its silly. I could take it or leave it. Its not a major desire for me. It only means that im flexible should the situation call for it. So since 99% of my play is straight. And I couldnt care less if I played bi, I am still looked at like im going to try to chase their man around the room and butt screw him. The only reason I list as bi is because we get a ton of incoming email, our primary interest is single guys, and my wife prefers guys who are bi comfortable. If our primary interest was couple swapping. I would change it to straight myself. Even though thats the complete opposite of my past arguments. If i felt strongly that i wanted bi play. And I wanted to push for it, then certainly the right thing to do would be list as bi. But again. If we were to enter a domain where its not accepted, add the fact that i dont need it or care about it.....Then there is no reason whatsoever that i need to disclose that I could be flexible if they wanted me to. But thats me. Others who are on here craving and seriously looking for bi action, then they should list accordingly. I dont blame the men in my position anymore. Why should they lose out on a large group simply because they are a little flexible?
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	The other threads have almost as many tangents as they do messages- the discussion becoming about the definition of bi vs. gay, and the use birth control and any number of other diversions... We are saying if the behavior is bothersome (also made clear in several posts in other threads) that people have an alternative. The question is whether people will actually do it.
Waterloo IA			Username hidden (73 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	All your new points are well argued in the old thread(s).
Osterburg PA			Username hidden (295 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I should add that this is not just about single males. Couples with bi males should be listed that way too. Otherwise you are perpetuating the myths that surround bi males.
Waterloo IA			Username hidden (73 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I know there is a thread close to this but we wanted to separate this part. I am sure we are in the minority here, but we will not meet with any male who says they are bi in emails, yet when we check their profile it says they are straight. The excuse is always that "it cuts down on their action." Well, I have to ask if they are lying about their orientation, what else are they lying about? (Insert the argument here about "everyone lies about something" - well, we don't lie on our profile). I also have to wonder why they would play with people who don't respect them, but hey that is their choice. If couples collectively began rejecting this behavior (this means stop meeting with them) we might have a chance at correcting it. There are rules/etiquette for the lifestyle and this should be part of it. The homophobia will not go away if we condone this behavior. This is not about orientation. It is about honesty in dealing with potential playmates. We know we will never get everyone to do this, but just a thought for those of us who aren't bedpost notchers.
Waterloo IA			Username hidden (73 post)

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