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User Details are only visible to members.	Seems to us that many of you are just as judgmental as those we wish to avoid, we have what we feel are valid reasons for no longer listing him as bi. We don't wish him to be "out" due to those same reasons but if asked we won't lie. We're really disappointed in the lack of understanding, unfortunately like we mentioned we have found the lifestyle to be a reflection of vanilla life instead of the open minded place we had hoped it would be. Your view/attitude sure does seem limiting but that is your choice. To those of you that wouldn't contact us because we don't list him as bi...we're a nice, loving, passionate couple...and we're secure enough in our self image to not be insulted by your views so it's your loss. Like you all pointed out...we probably wouldn't be a good match anyway... We hope you all find the fun/people you're looking for!!!
Fairfield PA			Username hidden (336 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It truely is a bit funny looking at all the excuses that some put forward for not listing as bi. If they really thought through what they say, one would think that they would realize the fool that they really are. Here's some lines we here all the time and our thoughts of these (disclamier: these are our thoughts!): "If I list as bi, no str people will play with me" 1) Why we we want to play with someone who would stoop so low as to deceive others just to play. 2) If you lie to other folks about your sexuality what else would you hold out from us? Maybe like you are really married (if you say you are single) or you have some disease or? If you show a willingness to lie to others then why would we think you would not lie to us? "I can't tell my wife because she won't accept this" 1) Don't even get us started. That one i so lame and the person who delivers it is so lame that it doesn't even deserve a comment. 2) Then maybe you shouldn't be playing at all. "I'm afraid of what others think" 1) So you respect their (misguided) opinions above ours? And you wish to sleep with us? I don't think so .... 2) Really, who are these people and why do you really care what they think? "I'm keeping my options open" 1) See the first comments above 2) Why do you think that bi people who list as bi don't keep their options open? Afterall is that not the very definition of bi? Having and enjoying sexual contact with both? I guess its just that you think "your options" are that you can play str with str folks and those lowly bi folks will just accept you and play bi with you ... afterall they are lower than str people anyway and I need to make sure that those str people will play with me. And the list can go on. There are many more we have heard over the many years. And as we said before, for 99% of all cases it boils down to either (caution: our opinion): (1) You personally cannot accept yourself for whom you are and to us that is simply unattractive. We want people who are confident in their sexuality (2) You are deceptive. WE have enough respect to say no to someone listed as str who is bi for the sake of the str folks who you deceive with your profile. The simple fact is that you deceive them with your listing. Why would you think we should trust you enough to have a close, sexual relationship? P&K
Guerneville CA			Username hidden (76 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Reading over this thread from page one lots of great posts but also notice many that posted and said something like we show us as both bi have changed their status back to str8 for the guys....some both say str8 now. I guess I expected more people to be honest in thier profiles on a lifestyle site, why I have no idea ROFL,, I understand it can be judgemental as any site can lifestyle or not, it just made me think isnt it a form of lying and so many here will be the firsts to jump on the cheating threads and how liars like that should not be in the lifestyle because they are not being honest, so those that are bi and list as str8 to get more responses, do you feel your being honest with others? I am not judging but questioning things no offense meant.
Spring TX			Username hidden (1844 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	B&S, yous would be one of the "gained" friends. It's just a shame we had to miss the last party, but I (M) was sick and didn't want anyone else to get it.. M&J threatened to do things to us and we were looking forward to it :) As everyone keeps saying, Damned if you do, Damned if you don't. The simple truth is we will never please everyone with the way we list our preferences, so we don't bother trying. We are who we are. If some choose to list as straight, then so be it. They are the ones who will have to pay any "costs" if they get found out, but by the same token for those of us who list as bi, if family or co-workers find out we will have to pay the "costs". But those are the choices we have to make. M&C
Mount Wolf PA			Username hidden (135 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	People who are bi or bi curious and list as straight are playing with fire. It is a known fact that people in this lifestyle "talk" and someone who lies about their sexuality will eventually found out and once that happens they might as well just get out of the lifestyle all together as there Will be problems. Honesty is best policy but use a bit of common sense too if you want to still be contacted by straight cpls don't go and plaster male to male photos on your profile if you don't care to meet with straight cpls then be open with bisexuality. There are some things we would like to say in our profile as to what we are seeking when it comes to bi sex but so as not to run off our "straight bi-friendly" friends we limit our discussion of bi-sex to private messages or face to face chat.
Navarre FL			Username hidden (1416 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	" So in the end it is their loss, not ours" so very true! We have lost contact with a few since I listed as bi but like M&C said, we have met some great folks too. I have read some of the other related forums and it seems that a lot of straight listed couples have a even bigger problem with being fooled into playing with bi guys than they do with thoses who are honest about it. As someone already has said, dammed if you do, dammed if you don't
Hagerstown MD			Username hidden (219 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	As ampussy said we know we have lost a few "friends" used loosely, since if they were truly friends we wouldn't have lost them. But in the same breath we have gained friends also. So in the end it is their loss, not ours.
Mount Wolf PA			Username hidden (135 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	SWM The way we look at it is if someone wants to cast us aside because the male 1/2 of this cpl is BI that is their problem not ours and if they have that kind of attitude we would not want to meet them in the first place. When we do find that special cpl that is bi or at least not going to judge us for the male being bi then we know we will have a great time. We are tired of trying to meet with someones picture perfect cpl. We have lost some friends and have gained some friends to us it has balanced out. If you hide your sexuality someone somewhere will rat you out then you are labeld a liar you are damn if you do and damn if you don't.
Navarre FL			Username hidden (1416 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have the same issues finding what we are seeking as the rest of you...mostly for the reasons we stated, several couples have contacted us since we posted and thanked us for our post...they apparently were afraid to voice an opinion for those very same reasons too! Good point ampussy...but you also find out who you enemies are...unsolicited too! We wish also to play with str8 couples too though we have probably thrown that possibility out the window now since many use these forums to keep a list of who not to touch! Homophobia abounds here though few would admit to it (probably about the same number that would never admit to racial discrimination)...most str8 folks view bisexual men as complete sluts hanging out in bathrooms and truck stops looking for the next diseased cock to suck and we in their view are unable to restrain ourselves from attacking any man wandering around alone!!! Their very masculinity is in question and are often viewed as feminine and gay. Yet bi females are the ideal of most couples!!!
Fairfield PA			Username hidden (336 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	SWM What we have found is once you list male as bi then you find out who your REAL friends are. As for the number of cpls who contacted us after we listed the male half as bi yes it did slow down some but what we also found was a few bi curious that were hiding as straight.
Navarre FL			Username hidden (1416 post)

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