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Bi-playful. Yeah, that's a good one. We may have to steal that. lol

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I like the term "bi-playful". Meaning that primary preference is with opposite sex play but open to same sex play with the right person / people.

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That's a good point. If there were more options besides gay, bi-curious and bi, then we'd probably get a lot more hits in our searches.

I even say as much in my profile that I'm "hetero-flexible" because I think it's the perfect way to describe my interests. Like everything else in this world, there is a lot of variety and options when it comes to sex. The fact that most swing sites only give you a choice of 4 (can't forget gay) when filling out your profile is actually rather insulting. I guarantee that the majority of women who list themselves as bi-sexual really aren't. They are hetero-flexible as well and enjoy playing with women just like some of us guys enjoy playing with men. But the "attraction" starts and stops in the bedroom.

So yeah, it would be great if there was an option available for our profiles that more accurately described our sexual tastes and preferences.

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cplo & 16667,

I believe that your observations are spot on. Many if not most guys in the LS share your preferences. People who take the militant position that if you participate in any degree of bi play that it means your bisexual may by strict definition be correct in the "on -off" or "black - white" sense. Something akin to calling yourself a vegetarian when you as a matter of daily choice eat plants as a general preference but on occasion eat an egg or some kind of flesh. In the strict sense your not a vegetarian. That is why there are other descriptors in defining what kind of "vegetation" you are. Just as other descriptors are needed to describe what kind of bisexual one is. Taken to the extreme one could argue that in the strictest sense, if you participate in same sex play you are actually a "homosexual" and that's the end of it. I don't see "bi" people clamoring for a "gay" label. Furthermore, if I were a betting man would bet they would not be so quick to label themselves as such. NO, the fault lies with the limited choices in labeling and not with the option one is forced to choose when completing a questionnaire. Plain and simple there needs to be an expansion of the LS options for ones orientation.

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Ok, so I was thinking about this today and something else occurred to me that I didn't include in my previous response and might even be a better response than the last one.

I list myself as bi on our profile. But in reality, I don't consider myself to be a true bi-sexual male. A person who is bi-sexual is attracted to persons of both sexes and most would be willing to engage in ltr's with someone of either gender, sometimes flip flopping back and forth. That's definitely not me. I'm attracted to women and that's it. If I see a good looking woman, I stop and look. But I probably pass dozens of good looking guys on the street and don't pay any attention to them at all. I've never considered having a relationship with another guy outside of the bedroom and can't envision myself ever doing so. I'm not too concerned with how guys look or their personalities and I don't want "intimate" contact with them. The thought of kissing another dude is actually a bit of a turn off....but I'll let him put his dick in my mouth. Go figure. As long as they aren't fat, hairy or complete morons then I'd probably let them do me. I just want to suck and fuck and then high 5 when we're done. It's just sex.

Wow....I sound kind of whorish. lol.

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We've only been members here for a day and this is already our biggest complaint. Was hoping that it would be different here than it is on other sites, but unfortunately it's still the same old, same old when it comes to bi couples not listing themselves as such.

The only reason I (the guy) have been able to come up with as to why people do this is because men can be completely insecure about their sexuality when it comes to being bi. My g/f did a little anal play with me one night and I enjoyed it. So we moved onto some toys and I enjoyed them. Then came the strap on and I really enjoyed that. Soon after we started "fantasizing" about bringing a guy into the mix and we stuck with that fantasy for about a year, going no further than just dirty pillow talk. During that time we "looked" for other guys on various sites but had no luck. Why? Because I didn't want to label myself as bi or even bi-curious. Who knows why that is...maybe I watched too many John Wayne movies as a kid or something.

So maybe some of these guys are still in the beginning stages of exploring their bi-sexuality and aren't quite ready to remove the straight label from their profile because they think it will somehow make them less manly. It seems silly, but that's how a lot of guys think. Of course, now that I've not only satisfied my curiosities, but come to fully embrace my bi-sexuality I can say without a shadow of a doubt that the ultimate test of "manhood" is to not only take it in the ass, but take it with a smile!

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always, not a problem. I understand your point, just didn't agree and certainly didn't like the way it was delivered. I can tell that there will be several subjects that we won't agree on (like this one) but hopefully we can disagree civilly.

now, may this thread continue....

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FL07

Now that you are aware I'm sure you won't make that mistake ever again....lol J K

Rogg is a paid and certified member of nearly a year, I'm guessing he's probably aware of his options, but not my place to butt in on what he may or may not know. By all means feel free to share your wisdom with whomever you choose. I don't want to hijack this thread with off point dialogue. So keep the faith!

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always, since I'm not able to know all, see all and tell all like you, I offered roggster a tidbit of information that he MAY NOT HAVE BEEN AWARE OF. I foolishly forgot to ask you what YOU felt like the issue was.

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FL07 I don't think that was the issue.

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