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"its not really lying...I see my willingness to explore bi side as a fetish...not a lifestyle or a badge to define who I am..I can do bi or not, I can take it or leave it...no different than many other fetishes...Does everyone here list ALL of the their kinks and fetishes? If you dont are you lying or hiding something?"

I see a huge difference between not including every minute detail of my every interest and misrepresenting my sexual orientation. Yes, I do consider someone who lists himself as straight and then contacts me and Mr.DE for bisexual play as lying. If he is inconsistent in that, which is not as minor as you want to make it seem, then in what other important aspects is he inconsistent?

Why is it important? It refers to a major part of the expected play! If a man is listed as straight, then we assume that he wants to play only with the woman. If he tells us that he is bi-curious/bisexual, then that changes the potential playing field entirely. That is not the same as failing to mention that he also sometimes likes having his feet tickled during sex... something that probably is not going to come up on a one-time or first-time play date, anyway.

Also, as noted by the original poster and some others, it does severely limit our search results. We look for bi/bi couples and find relatively few. That means we have to sit and wait for the couples with "truly bi but listed as straight" men to find and contact us. But, since we cannot trust this big contradiction in our very first impression of them, we reject them.

I know that this topic has already been discussed to death and that yet another post is not going to convince secretly bi men to switch their profile listings, but I certainly do not understand the "It shouldn't be a big deal argument" against IDing as bi. If it is not a big deal and you want to enjoy bi play, then let others know by listing yourself as bi.

Mrs.DE

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Lol, when you post in the forums your a bi male in hiding, you just did divulge.. esp if ppl put notes on profiles.. A good day to your sir..and a good nite :)

Houston TX
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We do have an even playing field, because we are a full swap couple. I don't sit and watch, and neither does he.

Quakertown PA
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I think the same way as j7. My guy works with his hands, yet his nails are very clean. He sometimes does that in front of me but so what?

Quakertown PA
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""I only want YOUR cock honey"...lol...tell me you dont have second thoughts on that one as hes ripping farts while tweezing his nose hairs...good day to all! :-)"

And you actually believe that ? because everyone farts and tweezes, that would mean women think about the next cock no matter who they are with. i never thought of that in my life, when John is tweezing i think of him keeping up with hygiene, and that's a turn on, and the same goes for when he is shaving.

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Its hard to have everything lined up when u have kids. I find that when ur wife let's u know that she wants u to go cuz she is turned on bi it. Go as she desires u too cuz when her mood changes or lfe happens the brakes go on

Bridgewater NJ
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A couple cancelled on us for this frieday. It figures. Again we feel it was a guy not a couple we have been emailing with.

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As long as ur true to ur spouse and enjoy as u experience ur fantasiies and expand ur limits everyone should enjoy meet new people as they cum together. You like what turns you just go with it.

Bridgewater NJ
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We do not care what someone writes on their profile . Just be honest with us. Some people have to do it for work or certain social reasons. So what?

Rockaway NJ
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Both bi here and proud of it. From our experience the ones that won't list themselves as bi are afraid of straight couples turning them down for play, which for single guys is a very real concern. It is hard enough (pun intended) for single guys to meet couples anyway - can't blame them for trying their best.

As for guys who already have a bi-female and are bi themselves, they should list themselves as bi. My opinion (male) is that it is just insecurity with their sexuality that keeps them from being upfront about their desires.

We had the same discussion about listing me as bi and it probably limiting our partners, but we are so busy we rarely get to play anyway, so that is far from our biggest concern! I don't care who knows. If you are OK with girl/girl but cringe at the fact that there are guy/guy pairings going on, then you have the problem, not us.

Now if we could just find a bi single guy to SHOW UP we would be ecstatic!

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