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The converse is also true.

Keep in mind there is a better than even chance that when a "st8" guy contacts you, he knows what he is after and so do you! So..if it's a match when you talk or meet forget the label and go with the flow...

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draggon, while I respect your right to express your opinion, I find it (in my opinion) rather judgmental and narrow. I would suggest that in most cases nothing is being "concealed". As with most thing in our lives it is rarely absolutely black or white but actually some shade on a scale between but including the 2 absolute points. I will elaborate by analogy: (bear with me as I go through this) Most people live their lives "intending" to obey the law. Most everyone "prefers" to be law abiding. They consider themselves and society considers them "law abiding". We all know that nearly everyone breaks some law everyday and often many laws everyday. Following your definition they are "concealing" the fact that they are in fact law breakers when they label themselves law abiding. By strict definition we are ALL law breakers and there are no law abiding people. Well, human nature being what it is, if asked most everyone would reply that they are law abiding and in doing so would not (except by strict definition) be concealing anything. We all are for all intents and purposes right and honest in saying we are law abiding. (that is our intent and our preference). That is "truth" at a societal level which is mandatory if we're to all function in collaboration.

That said, many who list as str8 "prefer" hetero play and their "intent" is to play hetero. That is, they do not desire to play only same sex. Perhaps at some time or another in their life they had some same sex play. Many of those may still prefer hetero play and would not desire to play same sex. To my way of thinking they are not homosexual. They would by strict definition be "bisexual". (after all they had the experience). Which brings us back to the to the point. I would suggest that while a person may prefer opposite sex partners, if they were playing in a hetero play session but would under some "personal set of criteria" allow some degree of same sex contact they would not be concealing anything. They are still "law abiding" or "st8" to a societal standard.

As to the point with regard to STD's

Playing in this life style is risky. All should assume personal responsibility for our actions. If not don't play!

IMHO everyone should be considered and treated as though they had std's unless they have 3 consecutive months of clean health cards and then it's still a crap shoot and one should play only at the level of risk they're willing to accept. ( be that bareback or full dental dam and double condoms marinated in anti-viral & antibacterial goop!) Just sayin' !!

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I have never found it to be much of an issue for me, people have many reasons for doing what they do. It makes it harder for me to find them, but if they are interested I assume they will find me.

Knightdale NC
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I always thought bi meant flexibility in sexuality.

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Looks like JOEY has captured the essence of the most plausible rationale for this issue. (and he isn't even a rocket scientist). WELL DONE!!

I say again Houston... WELL DONE!!

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I used to speak out against this. But now I understand why guys list as straight.

From chatting there are A LOT of men that enjoy bi play in a couples situation. And its usually light play....Oral...etc. Very rare do these guys have any interest in anal or anything hardcore.

These guys are perfectly capable and interested in playing straight but can be flexible if they are in the right situation.

If these guys list as bi, even though thats a tiny part of their interest and not required.....That will eliminate the chances with a lot of couples.

So to appeal to the majority they list as straight, and for couples looking for some bi play, they explain that in a private message.

I used to have a huge problem with that. But now I understand it and it makes sense to me.

I should probably be one of those guys as well. I get into a little light bi play sharing with my wife. But I have no interest in buttsex and no interest in playing with a man one on one. My wife finds it a huge turn on to share and I enjoy it.

Since I list as bi. It does cut out a lot of potential playmates even though Im perfectly interested in 100% straight play.

I choose to list this way, because as a couple we want to come up in searches to attract guys who are bi friendly.

We're not looking to get with 100 people anyway so we would rather get a perfect match ideal situation.

Mount Juliet TN
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Y hide.it especially if the women dictate what th ey want to see

Bridgewater NJ
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If your a bi male and you post that, you get shunned. its difficult enough finding a female swing partner without waving a sign around that you like men too........

Most people here are hypocrites, its fine for the ladies but not for the men....

Reno NV
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we're a bi cpl and our profile name says that

Grayson GA
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we're a bi cpl and our profile name says that

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