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TOPIC: Necessities Versus Wants Concerning Bisexuality
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Of course it's not a fair question and there are lots of people, into this lifestyle or not, who feel that if they can do it, then they should. They ask themselves, "Why should I give up what I want to do just because he/she doesn't want to swing?" They'll generally answer their own question with, "Shit, I don't have to! I'm grown and what he/she don't know won't hurt 'em!"
Fidelity in the relationship is now out the window, unless the relationship was an open one to begin with (a subject for another topic). But it does beg the question who's more likely to decide to quit swinging - men or women if the bi necessity goes unfulfilled? |
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Well, fidelity in such a relationship, under the conditions mentioned, is a valid question; if I promised my woman I wouldn't go off on my own and deal with my bisexual needs after we stop swinging, then I won't. But that doesn't mean they aren't there, no more than it means that I stopped being bisexual. I like to say that just because you can do a thing doesn't mean you have to. You have to ask yourself which is more important; being faithful to your partner if you give up swinging or scratching the itch.
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My fiancee and I talked about this and we both decided that we could both give it up, based on the premise that just because you can do a thing doesn't mean you have to. You can stop having bi sex and, maybe if you're of a mind to, stop being bisexual but, to us, that's like cutting off your nose to spite your face. Having said this, if being bisexual adds that extra something to your life - and sharing that experience with people here adds even more - then why stop doing something that makes you happy?
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knowing my husband is bi, has its ups and downs..i know it is much easier for him to get laid by a man...so many do it behide their wifes back...daytime meetings ..i sometimes wonder if he indulges while im working..he could and i would have no clue...i like to think i would know...but i know better...i trust that he wont...has know reason too...why would he ruin a good thing...he tells me he wants it ..and we do it...same for me....we have gone sometime without playing...when either of us get the itch..we do it together...
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"But I know there are those who do choose differently. Is there anyone out there who doesn't know of someone who's swinging behind their spouse's back?"
None that we play with, but there is a bunch out there. Mike |
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"If you're looking for a comparable magnitude (or as close as we can get here), it would be like a straight person giving up anal sex because their spouse doesn't want to do it anymore."
Or oral. My first wife would not do oral. Is it one of the reasons we split? Possibly, never looked at it that way. There were too many bigger reasons for the split, like we despised each other, but lack of fullfillin sex could've contributed to that. Mike |
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"You say you are a bisexual 1 on a scale of 6 .. but what of someone who's a 3 or a 4? Would they tell their spouse to fuck off and do it anyway? Or would they honor their spouse's decision and live happily ever after with them (or as "happily" as having a piece missing of themselves would allow ... )?"
Doode, this seems to be the same as askin a straight person if they'd give up sex entirely for their spouse. I would if I had to, medical reason for instance. If it was jus because she was tired of sex and didn't want to do it anymore I'd have to say, "Who are you? And what have you done with my wife?". Mike |
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"What about you? If you were in a relationship where your spouse said, "I'm tired of swinging. Let's go back to being vanilla."
Could you?" Nope. Neither of us could. Enterin this lifestyle brought about a lot of openin of our minds and neither of us could imagine closin 'em again. Life without jealousy is jus far too grand to give up. This has been such a step forward for each of us that neither of us will ever go back. Mike |
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