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TOPIC: How your tell you wife or girlf friend you are bi- Bi Curious
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I had several friends that are bi but are married and there swingers but for the male half of the cpls was difficul to tell their wifes that they are bi or Bi Curious I know a lot swiingers cpls that I know the male is bi but they never tell their wife because there scare of what she will think of them. a lot people think that been bi male make you less that a male or that all bi males are a tractive to all all male ( well in my case only the males I am atrctive to.) How you tell you bi/str8 wife that you are bi

As swinger the most import thing is comunication with your other haft but? How your tell you wife or girlf friend you are bi/ Bi Curious?

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I told my wife I was Bi-Curious before we started the lifestyle. In fact that was the primary reason we started. Wife was also a bi-virgin, but knew all her life she was bi. She encouraged me to explore my bi-side and that's how we got started down this path. It is not easy finding bicouples, but we are always looking :).

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oh and by the way, i agree that honesty is the best policy, but how u approach the question is the trick, there is such a thing as being too honest, i'll bet there isn't a person on here, that doesn't have some secrets they haven't shared with their other halves, maybe get a video with some soft bi in it, afterwards ask her how she felt about the guys thing, if she hated it, well that maybe a clue for you, or if she love it, there ya go, but you know your woman better than anyone, you have to decide the best time, place and way to approach it

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ask her if she would like to see you eat a cream pie, if she says yes, ask her my cream or someone else's. go from there, if she says yes to both, i guess your only a short step away from just the cream and not the pie lol

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Communication and honesty are the key to any successful relationship. I can tell Mr.Wildlife anything at anytime about anything. Honesty is truly the best policy.

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BiOrgy, while I agree that being upfront with your lover is the best policy, I'm not quite so militant about it. While I do insist on getting the respect I deserve from my lover I also give the same respect in return. I swear it looks like you have some kind of anger toward women. If I'm wrong, I apologize, but it sure looks that way.

You said something about not believing women rule the situation and that the porn industry has sold us on the image that girl / girl is okay but not boy / boy. You also said that women can be obnoxious. I mean no disrespect, BiOrgy, but that is one of the most uninformed opinions I have ever heard. I've never seen anyone more obnoxious than an unruly man and women have been subjugated as the lesser race for CENTURIES. Considered little more than playthings for men and producers of male children as far back as the Roman empire and the Egyptians. This is still largely practiced in parts of the middle east. On one occasion, the Roman emperor Caligula ORDERED the wives of the Roman senators to participate in a brothel to raise money for his wars. These women were forced to participate in sexual acts with men and women, including house slaves, and animals.

Men have been using women to feed their sexual appetites since before there was a coherent language. Why do you think girl / girl action is so prevalent in porn? You think that was a woman's idea? I am certainly glad that we can freely see two women together because it is exciting to me and, I think, to most men. But let's not be stupid enough to think they had a choice in the matter.

To you women that are openly bisexual or bi-curious and except those feelings in us, I salute you. There are many good men out there that are crazy about you. We are eager to open your door, pull out your chair, heed your advice, protect you, make you cum til you can't speak, suck a mans cock for you, and make you our personal sex slave if that's what you want. We celebrate you as you celebrate us.

History clearly shows that, without you, we don't even have anything to talk about.

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SharedFantasy, did your ex-wife ever find out you liked to suck a mans cock? I would be curious about her reaction. If I had to guess, I'd say your ex-GF became afraid that putting a mans cock in your mouth made you less of a man and did not like how that reflected on her. Bravo to you for both telling her and leaving her. She was a victim of the same stigma that so many men are, as well. I had the same experience as you with my ex-wife. Although, in retrospect, I don't think she really got the whole thing about sex, anyway. She was a fitness instructor and I think likened it to being on the treadmill.

Your ex-GF reacted in fear. Just as hetero men react in fear to gays and bi-men. Their afraid of what it says about them. Some women are, as well, and you and I got two of them. Clearly, you had some fear of it as well. I know it took me many years to understand that enjoying cocksucking did not make me less of a man. Good women know that and know it before we do. Every other woman I have told got hot at the idea of seeing me suck a mans cock. Sounds like we are both in the right relationships, now.

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This is an interesting question which I am hoping will generate some thoughtful responses since it is a situation that all of us bi males need to face at some point.

My first thought was, if you have to ask this question, you probably . can't tell your partner. I come at this from the perspective of having BOTH a wife and a G/F ( I know, a lot of you froen on this situation, but that is another discussion topic). In the case of my wife, I know I can't tell her about my tendencies without generating an untenable situation at home. In the case of my G/F, who is also bi, she was so open about her feelings in our discussions that it was easy for me to be o pen in return.

So I guess it really comes down to how well do you REALLY know your partner and her feelings? The fact that the earlier writer was so shocked at his partners response suggests that they really didn't talk to each other very much. I do agree that in the case of a G/F, it would really be best if both partners were on the same page of a relationship......the beauty of this lifestyle is the act of sharing each other, if you feel restrained by your partner, then perhaps it would be best to find a more compatible partner. For us married guys, however, the problems are much more complesx and d ifficult to solve.

That's my two cents worth.....I look forward to seeing your thoughts....

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I had several friends that are bi but are married and there swingers but for the male half of the cpls was difficul to tell their wifes that they are bi or Bi Curious I know a lot swiingers cpls that I know the male is bi but they never tell their wife because there scare of what she will think of them. a lot people think that been bi male make you less that a male or that all bi males are a tractive to all all male ( well in my case only the males I am atrctive to.) How you tell you bi/str8 wife that you are bi

As swinger the most import thing is comunication with your other haft but? How your tell you wife or girlf friend you are bi/ Bi Curious?

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