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Created by: nemscpl4fun68 Original Starting post for this thread:
we are new to this and have talked with people on here and they say they wanna meet us and we set up a day and time and place to meet but then they send mail saying cant meet on the same day we suppose to meet,,we understand things come up but everytime? been like 6 or 7 couples that has done this we dont understand we are nice to everyone when we talk to them and couldnt be any more polite just dont know what we are doing wrong?? getting bout ready to hang this up and delete account do any of you out there have any suggestions? or opinions? we gonna give it about one more month if nothing happens or might even prolly wait till our paid subscription is up then delete HELP!!

Created by: nemscpl4fun68
Original Starting post for this thread:

we are new to this and have talked with people on here and they say they wanna meet us and we set up a day and time and place to meet but then they send mail saying cant meet on the same day we suppose to meet,,we understand things come up but everytime? been like 6 or 7 couples that has done this we dont understand we are nice to everyone when we talk to them and couldnt be any more polite just dont know what we are doing wrong?? getting bout ready to hang this up and delete account do any of you out there have any suggestions? or opinions? we gonna give it about one more month if nothing happens or might even prolly wait till our paid subscription is up then delete HELP!!

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User Details are only visible to members.	BTW, nems, have you ever heard of Beauregard Rippy? ;)
Redford MI			Username hidden (303 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	First of all, I don't see anything wrong with you. How we like to meet people is by inviting them to grab an appetizer and maybe a drink on our way to an event. We get to actually socialize, in 2 on 2 setting. Then if all is cool, we can hang out at the event. If not, then we go separate ways, but still have a fun night ahead.
Redford MI			Username hidden (303 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I d guess about 4 hours lol . Although we have local friends that have a condo in Panama City and hope to escape with them there in the not too distance future. We re suppose go NYE but they had a family emergency :( Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4091 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Likewise Mrs Sav... How far are we from each other?
Panama City Beach FL			Username hidden (1934 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Total, Smart and sexy ....a dangerous combination lol I LOVE danger ;) Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4091 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mrs Sav, I agree on that as well. My vanilla friends are people I would not play with. I know them on different levels than my lifestyle friends. One of my vanillas is actually behaving like a swinger now, only she is not on SLS lol. Still, even though I think she might be open enough to try it, I will make no remarks to her about my proclivities and even if she got into the lifestyle at some point, I would not play with her. Mixing the two worlds just does not seem like a good idea to me.
Panama City Beach FL			Username hidden (1934 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Total, I agree completely , our vanilla friends are completely off limits ....even if they got into swinging on their own at some point. I will NEVER jeopardize a good friendship for sex it is that simple. The dynamics of of sex are very complicated and you never know when an encounter might go wrong. A true "friendhhsip" is a very rare and precious thing which I do not take lightly and means far more to me than an evening of potential sexual bliss. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4091 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mrs Sav, I have come to the same conclusion! In the beginning I thought I wanted friends first, but that changed very quickly. Now when I go out to meet someone I look at them as a potential playmate. If I don't feel the connection to play, this will be pretty much the only meeting with them. Sure we might have great time chatting but yes, I am here to meet people for bedroom pleasures first. If friendship comes after that, great! And actually folks I play with are my friends! But friendship started in the bedroom, not the other way around.
Panama City Beach FL			Username hidden (1934 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I spent some time on a vanilla dating site (where I did in fact meet Mr Sav) I would never EVER agree to anything but a drink or coffee and would generally allot about 30 minutes . I would arrive early and pay for my own drink. My theory was (and still is) this wasn't a "date" this was an interview to see if we'd like to proceed to a "date" I was happy to meet a wide variety of men, all very nice some some I spend hours with , others I actually dated and many more it was a pleasure to meet but one or the other of us didn't feel a connection. The lifestyle isn't any different on many levels, meeting someone doesn't mean the sparks are going to fly every time and that's good but on the flip side I don't need to spend HOURS with those people to determine that and since our primary reason to be here is sex we see no point in investing time into something we know is NEVER going beyond that. That being said we've made a lot of friends in the lifestyle but MOST of them were sexual partners first . Some people are looking for friends and people to do "normal" things with , the sexual aspect is of little consequence to them and that's fine . To each their own. We prefer to not mix our normal life with our play life and see no reason to purposely seek to incorporate the two. The same was true on a dating site, my goal was to find men to actually "date" not to make some new pals so why waste their time and mine? Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4091 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	When we meet others we always make it for a quick drink so if we don't click then an entire evening has not been wasted. If possible, we prefer to meet at parties where we can meet many others in one evening.
Ottawa IL			Username hidden (63 post)

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TOPIC: whats wrong with us