Actually the no kissing couple was the other couple and she was the one to put the brakes on. It was apparent she was not prepared for my wife to have relations with her husband. Neither my wife or I believe she was on her period especially since her and I had already been petting. But it is true we tend to avoid couples with rules that tend to indicate they might have issues. I think things do happen and things don't always come off as planned. Especially since most arrangements are often worked out well in advance. But as long as everybody understands the limitations there is no reason for not meeting couples and there is still plenty fun that can be had without intercourse. For us just the dancing and flirting with quality people makes it worthwhile, but kissing is a big part of flirting to us.

fe. . .I'm not sure but I think the point in that second encounter might have been that his wife was getting back at the couple for having that no-kissing policy. . .I don't see how his last sentence about avoiding such couples fits in otherwise.

Wow, I would have been standing there going...huh, on that second situation. I mean if she had said ahead of time that she was on her period and there would have been no sex, that would have been one thing. Waiting til everyone's naked and already done some petting...that's a bit strange. What did she think was going to happen after you got naked...play checkers?

We have only encountered this twice. The first time the couple told us up front and they still wanted to meet. We had a great time with the evening just left out the sex, there still was some kissing and flirting, they were and are a wonderful couple.

The second time was on a no kissing couple, they considered it too personal. Well we were on a date and things started to get going between my wife and her husband. We had been petting before hand, as soon as my wife started to go for his cock she announced she was on her period and the date was over. We tend to shy away from no kissing couples after that.

Assuming the Period isn't a ploy of some sort, I would think the best course is to explain the situation and the alternatives to the other(s), without springing it at the last moment, and ask what the other(s) want to do.

Mrs Catnip, thank you for your response about that. I completely agree with you about that situation being too late to bring that situation up. If it's a situation where Aunt Flo makes her first visit during the date, that's one thing. Most women I know though have somewhat of a general idea when such things are going to happen. If there have been pre-arrangements made and all parties involved know that one of the women is "out of order" but the rest are ok with playing anyway, that's fine and good. However situations like the one you mentioned and the ones I witnessed where play was getting ready to take place then all of a sudden it was stated that the wife wasn't able to play but the husband was already ready to jump someone's bones...is a different story. Me, personallly, I would be like your husband. When I was part of a couple doing this, the situation never came up as we only played with others a few times and it was swap. Unless it had been special circumstances which we had all agreed on before hand, I wouldn't have gone to a meeting or party with my gf on her period and planned to play while she set on the sidelines.

To the main question, Mr.Catnip doesn't really care as long as the woman in question doesn't care. If she would be uncomfortable with it, then he'd rather not play and would be happy to just chat or play in other ways. Mrs.Catnip generally cares, so doesn't play when that time of month is there. feMike to answer your question, if we go to a party during Mrs.Catnip's "lady days" we let people know we're there just to chat that night. Mrs.Catnip would let Mr.Catnip play if he wanted to, but since we really are into doing this together Mr.Catnip has never taken her up on it. Not that it couldn't happen some day, but it would have to be some pretty special circumstances. The only time we've run into an uncool situation with this was when we met a couple at a party we'd met before a couple of times, decided to take things home to our place, started to get groovy and THEN the other woman said she was "out of order". To us that was way late to be bringing it up, especially when her hubby was all ready to jump into intercourse. Bottom line is keep it comfortable for everyone, communicate with whoever you're with about what's up, and everything will work itself out...

I played with my ex a couple times while she had her visitor...but normally it was OTHER activities instead. Not to change the subject, but something the OP said made me think back on a situation I've witnessed a few times in parties atmospheres. Here's my question...for the guys and girls. Say you've made plans to go to a party and the female half starts her period. Do you cancel out, attend and just restrain from participating, or both attend and the guy tries to play even though the wife can not? In atleast two parties situations where this has occurred, I've witnessed the husbands say that the wives were "out of order" but then when play started, the husbands expected to be a part of the play while their wives sat back. This seemed ironic to me considering both of said couples don't allow single males and believe they have no place in the lifestyle.

Awhile back we had Aunt Flo show up the same day we got together with a couple. They were nice enough to let us know what had happened before we started to play. Since we're a soft swap couple and being married for 33 years, it wasn't a problem for us, even doing oral. Once the female relaxed, we had a great time. Good, honest communication is key. Oh, that and knowing the female anatomy doesn't hurt either :-)

Mr. D