When I think about dealing with all the fakes, flakes and phonies I have met over the years I sometimes joke that I am gonna write a book called "Did I Shave My Balls For This?" LOL.... But newcomers definitely can use advice from seasoned folks. God knows I wish it was available bck when I started. I still am surprised to find out new things. For one thing, a LOT of singles new to the scene need to realize that there is a problem for some couples with concerns about play partners getting obsessed with the spouse. You can be trying to be friendly and might spook them becuase they just dealt with somebody who got fixated on their mate. So sometimes you might want to be a bit reserved after playing with a new married friend out of that concern.

Check out aitch tee tee p colon 2 slashes home dot earthlink dot net/~tekctrl/ and see if there's anything there that might be useful/beneficial. :-)

JnD