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There are several problems with public places. First is that they are public, it limits the conversation. Second they often are quite noisy. Even a little noisy means softer conversation can be missed and who wants to speak loudly about your fantasies or experiences in a public place? Living in the country as we do, a bar or restaurant or coffee shop is not always a ten minute drive. And those local places in a small town are local. Meet several different couples or singles there and people remember, especially when you know the owner.

For these reasons we like to meet at our house or theirs. In order to meet we at least have to pretty sure they'll be interesting to talk to. We've done this enough that we know whether we want to invite them to the bedroom or not. We've never had a scary situation. Weird, yes, but we're pretty tolerant of weird. They make for wonderful stories. Our house is very comfortable and those we've met enjoy the ability to talk freely and often jump into the hot tub.

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We also prefer to have first meets in a "vanilla" public location such as wine bars, restaurants, cafes, bookstores, museums etc.

While we find swinger specific clubs lots of fun, the general atmosphere is very distracting and we find it somewhat difficult to just casually chat and get to know a couple at them.

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We prefer meeting in a non-lifestyle establishment such as a vanilla bar, restaurant, etc. The reason for this is simple. When people are in a swingers club they are in a certain mindset, and in our experiences have expectations. It has reached the point where we will not tell couples that we will meet them there, but say something to the effect of "we'll be at the club on Sat. night, if you are there sit with us and we'll have a great time!" I hate feeling like I am letting someone down or dissapointing them, so that is easier for me. Meett and greets are GREAT as well...if you like them you party after. If not you go to Sonic, get a milkshake and go home LOL. Shells

San Marcos TX
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always meet for drinks or in a public place. Never meet for dinner. Had a very long dinner one time. lol Patrick Pattie

Highland Springs VA
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Rebels - Welcome to the forums.

Btw - typing with all caps is the same as yelling.

Rochester NY
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WE PREFER TO MEET IN OUR HOME OR A MORE SECLUDED PLACE BECAUSE IT IS HARD TO TALK ABOUT LIKES AND DISLIKES, SWINGING ETC. IN A PUBLIC PLACE. IT IS OK TO MEET IN A PUBLIC AREA BUT TO REALLY BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT SWINGING, YOU NEED TO BE IN A MORE PRIVATE AREA OR A MEET N GREET.

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We prefer first meeta and swing clubs and or meet and greets...

This way if its a no go both couple may be able to salvage the night and find someone they are attracted to.

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We eat out often, don't have kids, so we do enjoy meeting over dinner. Rarely have we met a couple that we didn't enjoy being with them for a meal. And, like many of you, it doesn't take us long to decide if we wish to play. But, even if we're not going to play, finding out what makes other people tick is a fascinating evening in and of itself.

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So Echo, where is a good central meeting place for us four? LOL Agree with you about piblic amd drinks. You can always move on to dinner if you like, or punt and scramble if need be. Not first date people here...

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Just our point of view, and based on experience:

We insist on a public meeting place and only for drinks to begin with. We have had the unfortunate experience of feeling so uncomfortable from the initial introductions onward (if this sounds unreasonable, let's just say that we expect that you should at least look like you have showered sometime today before coming to meet us), that having to spend several more hours just to finish a meal would have been such a poor use of our time. We don't get that many nights out without the kids in the first place, so we want to have the option to claim that time for ourselves if it is clear we are not going to click with a new couple.

We also make it clear that they should not expect to play on a first date. Not that we won't if the sparks fly and everyone is ready and says so, but they have to understand that it cannot be expected.

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