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TOPIC: To approach or not to approach
Created by: Lloydalli
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When you are at a swinging event, when do you know if you should introduce yourself? Do you wait for the more "seasoned" couple to approach you? How can you tell if they are interested? Thoughts...
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We are not new to the lifestyle but we are new going to clubs. We learned very quickly that you don't wait for people that you are interested in to approach you. They may just as shy as you are, or even worse, someone else swoops them away before you even get to talk to them. Our philosophy is that even if we don't have the chemistry for sex, everyone is a potential friend, so why not walk right up and introduce yourselves?

Another really important thing for newbies is to make sure that you set up a code system with your partner to let each other know if you are interested or not. Our 1st night out there were 3 couples my wife would have played with but because she didn't say anything I didn't think she had any interest. I found out after we already left the club.

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We tend to wait to be approached, but we'd like to be a little more assertive. So Kudos to the Alpha couples that are polite and direct in introductions.

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Lloyd and Alli,

I think people fret too much about whether there are special protocols in a swinger setting. Why not just take the same social skills you've developed over the years, and apply them at swinger events? Don't overthink. Do what comes naturally.

Good luck to you, and welcome to the forums.

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OH, and PLEASE unlock those pics, dayum those things deserve to be ogled!

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My thoughts are that if you are interested unless they are directly engaged and obviously to busy to be bothered, then by all means approach them. Worse case scenario, they will tell you they are not interested or are busy and really who the hell cares, lots of fish in the sea. You will never meet anyone waiting for someone. You are the hottest thing in the room, so no need to fear rejection, and at the risk of sounding like Racer, if there is no risk, there is no reward. No need to be rude or pushy, but it is a swing party, people came there to meet other people EXACTLY like you! So go up and say Hi, introduce yourself!

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When you are at a swinging event, when do you know if you should introduce yourself? Do you wait for the more "seasoned" couple to approach you? How can you tell if they are interested?

Thoughts...

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