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TOPIC: So you see a hot couple at a club, now what
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If you're kinda shy around new people, like us, this can be difficult.

We usually find it hard to go up and say hi, so we don't :-( but may have no trouble at all.

What you SHOULD do is go over and say hi, introduce yourself, then give them some space so they can discuss you amongst themselves. If they like you, they'll come talk to you later, if they don't, you haven't pressured them and can say hi again next time, at least you may have a new friend rather than someone that avoids you, thinking you're pushy.

We were at a club one time and a couple came over and said "Are you Paul?" I said no and they excused themselves saying, "hmmm, we're supposed to meet a hot couple named Paul and Sue. We'll let us know if you're interested in getting together some time." Then they left. I'm not sure if it was a pickup line or not, but it worked pretty well. Made a reason to come say hi, then left so we didn't feel pressured. It was then easy to go say hi to them later on.

So, tell us how you do it.

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Mr. Nice here as Mrs. Naughty is sleeping and not feeling well tonight. Anyhow we used the clubs to so call break into swinging. We are both somewhat shy(she more than myself) but we always go to the clubs with the feeling of roll with the flow. We have had some sucess there with couples and SM's. It seems more single males than couples though as Naughty seems to attract a following as the night goes on. Since we are SM friendly it really isnt a problem just more of a dissapointment so far. But we have found as we venture into this new world(6 months now)that our confidence increases and we have made some wonderful friends. we always believe that establishing a friendly relationship will make the sex even better. i guess that may be the reason that we havent found a SM that naughty really has not clicked with. but when the mood to play hits sometimes you learn from your mistakes. Of course last weekend changed alot of that for us nad the future looks better for our swinging times lol.

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We are at the very beginning of our adventure in this lifestyle; therefore, we tend to be shy. Sophia and I are very sexual and friendly, but the truth is she tends to be shy and picky. So my horny ass has to hold back from approaching couples as to avoid wasting their time. But, i also find it harder than usual to read come-ons from swingers. I am sifting through the various scenarios that we want to avoid. Like an uneven couple where one partneis pushing the other into the LS. The couples that are piss-drunk just toget the courage to get their sloppy-drunk asses into the sack. So that adds a damper to our willingness to approach.

Fairfax VA
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It is always a bit nerve wracking to meet new people and see if you click. It makes it even harder if you think they are hot. I have no suggestions as to great lines as I never know what to say without coming off like a pervert.

(Sound of Record Scratching) Oh snap! We are perverts, in a whole place full of perverts. I cannot ever imagine being offended or anything other than flattered at the thought that someone wants to get in my knickers bad enough to say something about it.

We always remember that while everyone has their own proclivities but everyone is "like minded" so we have never felt judged by anyone. No thanks is as much a part of this life as yes please. We have always had a variety of experiences and yes some dissapointments, most recently a couple that we were definately clicking with but insisted on seperate room play when we only play same room. Sure we were dissapointed but we had a good time and made new friends.

Bottom line, be open minded, unafraid and understanding and you will have a great time.

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I love this thread, tbh. My husband and I have talked about going to a club, but I have personally been way too nervous, and afraid that my introverted nature would have me sitting at a table watching the goings ons ... in short, an expensive and uneventful night. I think a lot of the suggestions are good, though. When we work up the courage, I know we'll be a lot more informed now!

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My GF is very outgoing and usually knows everyone by the end of the night. She typically just starts with a "love your dress" "like your tie" or "nice boobs". On a recent triip to vegas she took to passing out our number to nearly everyone we even had a casual conversation with saying we will be here all week, give us a call if you want to go do something. No one was ever offended and we had people to hang out with nearly every night, made good freinds and even made really good friends with one couple.

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Shy or outgoing... It's your time and if you're like us with very limited time to meet and play with others, you need to make the most of your time! We used to frequent couples clubs until about 27 months ago when we learned there is little difference in meeting couples playing slots in a casino or meeting couples in a couples club. Everyone wants to have a good time. When you can find something you like about a person you're interested in meeting, introduce yourself and comment on what you like about them. We meet nice people who have become very close friends of ours in casino's, resteraunts, grocery stores, strip clubs, and airports! By finding something we like in a person or couple and then taking the time to comment on it, we have found this approach to be a great ice breaker. If they're not into the lifestyle and tell you so during your conversation, they usually tell you in a very polite way. We hope this helps!

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our club tries to have a few activities during the night where, as long as you participate, you will meet some new people in a non threatening way and no one has to make the first move. Some clubs use different colored straws to state how you play. That is always fun and we just take every color so not to miss anyone.

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I've been lucky to have visited a number of clubs over the years I've enjoyed the lifestyle (including several in Europe). A couple (of otherwise inferior quality, unfortunately) used to have a system similar to the "playing card" one described below - couple seeking sm, sw, other couple, etc. Seemed to work fairly well, I think -- certainly helped me when I was playing as a sm. On the other hand, a large number of folk in the lifestyle are up for a variety of action, depending on the moment, etc., so the candor afforded by the club atmosphere seems to be the best feature, ultimately.

FWIW ...

Peter

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thn this is a good idea. The thing is, it changes with your mood so its hard to set a label so to speak on yourself. We have gone to parties with the intention of playing and found no one we had chemistry so just chilled and mingled...and have gone with no intention of playing and ended up nekkid. I like the idea of soft, moderate and full better. A color perhaps. That way it doesn't say if they are playing or not, it just tells you when they do this is what they usually like to do. Shell


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We have talked about this qutie a bit and thought it might be cool if there were a sticker, temporary tattoo, or other thing we could wear that might hint that we were just looking to talk tonight or were definately looking to get nekid with a couple tonight- you know something that would make it easier once your're in a club.

Maybe it's something as simple as a playing card symbol- a heart might mean you just want to chat, a diamond might mean you're looking for another couple to get nekid with, a a club might mean you're looking for a threesome, and so on.

What do you think?

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