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If you're kinda shy around new people, like us, this can be difficult. We usually find it hard to go up and say hi, so we don't :-( but may have no trouble at all. What you SHOULD do is go over and say hi, introduce yourself, then give them some space so they can discuss you amongst themselves. If they like you, they'll come talk to you later, if they don't, you haven't pressured them and can say hi again next time, at least you may have a new friend rather than someone that avoids you, thinking you're pushy. We were at a club one time and a couple came over and said "Are you Paul?" I said no and they excused themselves saying, "hmmm, we're supposed to meet a hot couple named Paul and Sue. We'll let us know if you're interested in getting together some time." Then they left. I'm not sure if it was a pickup line or not, but it worked pretty well. Made a reason to come say hi, then left so we didn't feel pressured. It was then easy to go say hi to them later on. So, tell us how you do it.

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If you're kinda shy around new people, like us, this can be difficult.

We usually find it hard to go up and say hi, so we don't :-( but may have no trouble at all.

What you SHOULD do is go over and say hi, introduce yourself, then give them some space so they can discuss you amongst themselves.  If they like you, they'll come talk to you later, if they don't, you haven't pressured them and can say hi again next time, at least you may have a new friend rather than someone that avoids you, thinking you're pushy.

We were at a club one time and a couple came over and said "Are you Paul?"  I said no and they excused themselves saying, "hmmm, we're supposed to meet a hot couple named Paul and Sue.  We'll let us know if you're interested in getting together some time."  Then they left.
I'm not sure if it was a pickup line or not, but it worked pretty well.  Made a reason to come say hi, then left so we didn't feel pressured.  It was then easy to go say hi to them later on.

So, tell us how you do it.

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User Details are only visible to members.	"but the truth is she tends to be shy and picky. So my horny ass has to hold back from approaching couples as to avoid wasting their time." ----------- ...don't worry, you're not alone, my hubby has a horny ass too. LMAO! "we always believe that establishing a friendly relationship will make the sex even better. i guess that may be the reason that we havent found a SM that naughty really has not clicked with. " ----------- ...i've been wondering how often it is possible to find friendship with a SM. it seems like it would be much harder to achieve for many different reasons, than finding friendship with a couple. ? .
Brodheadsville PA			Username hidden (1787 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mr. Nice here as Mrs. Naughty is sleeping and not feeling well tonight. Anyhow we used the clubs to so call break into swinging. We are both somewhat shy(she more than myself) but we always go to the clubs with the feeling of roll with the flow. We have had some sucess there with couples and SM's. It seems more single males than couples though as Naughty seems to attract a following as the night goes on. Since we are SM friendly it really isnt a problem just more of a dissapointment so far. But we have found as we venture into this new world(6 months now)that our confidence increases and we have made some wonderful friends. we always believe that establishing a friendly relationship will make the sex even better. i guess that may be the reason that we havent found a SM that naughty really has not clicked with. but when the mood to play hits sometimes you learn from your mistakes. Of course last weekend changed alot of that for us nad the future looks better for our swinging times lol.
Delta PA			Username hidden (66 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	...great thread! :)
Brodheadsville PA			Username hidden (1787 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	After three club visits, we decided it was time to make something happen. The first step for us was deciding EXACTLY what we wanted to see happen. We then rehearsed the initial contact, and the action. When we arrived at the club on our fourth visit, she (although rather shy) just went into the script we had rehearsed with the first extremely (extremely) attractive guy she saw. Ten minutes later we were in bed with him and his wife. Although we are new to this, we came off like confident pros due to our preparation. To summarize: 1. Figure out what you want. 2. Practice the dialogue you will use to make it happen. 3. Go through the motions of what you want to do (rehearse it) 4. Execute your plan, and don't over think it when you do. Just do it. Hope this helps.
Oswego IL			Username hidden (4 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We are at the very beginning of our adventure in this lifestyle; therefore, we tend to be shy. Sophia and I are very sexual and friendly, but the truth is she tends to be shy and picky. So my horny ass has to hold back from approaching couples as to avoid wasting their time. But, i also find it harder than usual to read come-ons from swingers. I am sifting through the various scenarios that we want to avoid. Like an uneven couple where one partneis pushing the other into the LS. The couples that are piss-drunk just toget the courage to get their sloppy-drunk asses into the sack. So that adds a damper to our willingness to approach.
Fairfax VA			Username hidden (26 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It is always a bit nerve wracking to meet new people and see if you click. It makes it even harder if you think they are hot. I have no suggestions as to great lines as I never know what to say without coming off like a pervert. (Sound of Record Scratching) Oh snap! We are perverts, in a whole place full of perverts. I cannot ever imagine being offended or anything other than flattered at the thought that someone wants to get in my knickers bad enough to say something about it. We always remember that while everyone has their own proclivities but everyone is "like minded" so we have never felt judged by anyone. No thanks is as much a part of this life as yes please. We have always had a variety of experiences and yes some dissapointments, most recently a couple that we were definately clicking with but insisted on seperate room play when we only play same room. Sure we were dissapointed but we had a good time and made new friends. Bottom line, be open minded, unafraid and understanding and you will have a great time.
Round Rock TX			Username hidden (31 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I love this thread, tbh. My husband and I have talked about going to a club, but I have personally been way too nervous, and afraid that my introverted nature would have me sitting at a table watching the goings ons ... in short, an expensive and uneventful night. I think a lot of the suggestions are good, though. When we work up the courage, I know we'll be a lot more informed now!
Baltimore MD			Username hidden (161 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My GF is very outgoing and usually knows everyone by the end of the night. She typically just starts with a "love your dress" "like your tie" or "nice boobs". On a recent triip to vegas she took to passing out our number to nearly everyone we even had a casual conversation with saying we will be here all week, give us a call if you want to go do something. No one was ever offended and we had people to hang out with nearly every night, made good freinds and even made really good friends with one couple.
Round Rock TX			Username hidden (31 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Shy or outgoing... It's your time and if you're like us with very limited time to meet and play with others, you need to make the most of your time! We used to frequent couples clubs until about 27 months ago when we learned there is little difference in meeting couples playing slots in a casino or meeting couples in a couples club. Everyone wants to have a good time. When you can find something you like about a person you're interested in meeting, introduce yourself and comment on what you like about them. We meet nice people who have become very close friends of ours in casino's, resteraunts, grocery stores, strip clubs, and airports! By finding something we like in a person or couple and then taking the time to comment on it, we have found this approach to be a great ice breaker. If they're not into the lifestyle and tell you so during your conversation, they usually tell you in a very polite way. We hope this helps!
Las Vegas NV			Username hidden (6 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	our club tries to have a few activities during the night where, as long as you participate, you will meet some new people in a non threatening way and no one has to make the first move. Some clubs use different colored straws to state how you play. That is always fun and we just take every color so not to miss anyone.
Fort Collins CO			Username hidden (173 post)

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