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Thank you, curiousity, I feel the exact same way.

If I meet someone and have a good time (whether we have sex or not) and they are a real genuine person, I try to cert them. I know that free members can't return certs, and that's fine. What gets me is the paid and lifetime members who I cert, they accept the cert and put it on their profile, but they never return the cert. Don't get me wrong...I'm not trying to collect certs as notches or something...but I believe that you should be curtieous to one another.

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Certifications were intended to just Certify someone is real, their profile accurate, and they actually met. Thus the definition of certifying a profile. This profile is accurate and the people who wrote it are real. Just like so many other areas nowadays, so many have to rewrite the definition of something to suit themselves and weight it all down with BS. All the folks that only certify cause they played, turned it into the kiss and tell list. The idea that if you can't say something nice don't say anything is crazy, just cause you didn't hit it off doesn't change whether they are real or not and actually showed up. Instead of certifications being worded by the certifier, it should be a simple check list. Such as but not limited to: Profile accurate___ Couple was on time___ Communicates well___ etc etc You either check it off or you don't, that way there is no kiss and tell aspect, compliments, and personal stuff don't need to be there anyway. Also for those that want to use it as a play list that could be something to check off as well. However, IF THAT WERE ADDED, I would think that should be a required to answer. yes or no. Just some thoughts

Rio Rancho NM
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Is it true that only paid members can give certs?

Tyler TX
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Although we do understand the true meaning of posting Cert's but, we chose not to write or accept Cert's as a result of a rather embarassing situation three years ago where a couple we became very close and lasting friends with decided they didn't care for the sexual preference of a couple we met, played with, and did a Cert for. The couple who read our Cert and the couples profile very childishly sent the couple an e-mail belittling them for their choices. Right or wrong, we view Cert's as "kissing and telling" since that incident. We are upfront with everyone about not doing Cert's and most see our point. We really enjoy our lifestyle experiences and never want violate our close friends confidence in us.

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We tend to not certify just b/c we have run into people who pull them if they are not interested anymore but don't let you know, or have run into people that certify everyone as long as they meet face to face. However, if a couple that we get along well with wants us to certify them we will.

Lansing MI
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There are a ton of reasons why people don't certify people:

1) People want to under-represent their sexual experience. 2) People don't want to be linked to people engaged in high risk behavior. 3) People only want to post certifications of especially hot couples they have played with to attract more... 4) Some people as stated below are Free Members... OR simply haven't learned that feature yet... 5) Some people delete certifications to be rude or indirectly say they no longer are interested...

We erased many certifications and only left ones that weren't repetitive but were unique and added something new...

We had one couple certify us and they were fantastic and we met and/or played several times... We didn't certify them back because their profile mis-stated their ages by about 20 years... They did look younger and we enjoyed them but we didn't feel comfortable certifying "their profile." Didn't have anything to do with them...

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We usually only certify those with whom we've had sexual contact. One exception was a nice couple who attended our house party...only got to be a bit feely with them, but as they were such a gracious couple, we wanted to make sure others knew that this couple was real, sexy, generous and "together."

As for others, just because we know them and socialize, or even if we've only had the pleasure of being flirty and sexual with one half of the couple, we usually wait about certifying them until we can play sexually with both of them. Then, we feel, that's a genuine cert.

I'd love a way to update our certifications more easily rather than to just delete them and redo them, as we've had some fun experiences with our "repeat" couples that bear mentioning.

Gina

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OK number 1 free members can not certify other members , 2 my momma always told me that if you cant say something nice then don't say anything at all , 3 certification shows that you are real that you actually show up and that you are fun , if you certify someone then they don't or cant then dont worry about it , it will show on their profile and people in that area will find them and see that you were genuine on your end and that those who you certified were either so cheap they didnt pay for the service or that they were so shallow they can not simply say something nice .

most profile only show about 1 out of 6 will certify you , we have been very lucky in that 1 out of ever 2 will do that for us so were pretty happy about that. hope this helps , take care , be safe , and have fun

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I certify only when I feel the urge. I don't always accept certs, nor do I always cert. Being staff with a swing club, I feel some expect to be certed just cause they've attended events. When I do cert someone, I usually send an e-mail stating I'll have no hard feelings if they do not accept, and no cert is expected back. Some accept and some don't. No big deal. I'm thankful that not all try to give certs back. I try to make the member's certs friendly and say they are real, and leave it at that. From time to time I tend to delete certs off my profile too. It's not personal.

For those who are special playmates, my certs can get a bit more suggestive (:~

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You smart ass. Shell LOL


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