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TOPIC: People who don't certify back
Created by: smlsml
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Here's a new one. We met a couple for a drink. Drinks were nice, but we weren't a good match for anything more. But, here's the thing....

We went back and certified them. They were real and nice (we just didn't hit it off) and we figured that was the right thing to do....they are certified real people that didn't flake out :). But, they won't certify us back. Given we are newer on this site, we'd like people to know that we are also a real couple.

Oh well. Does that happen to others out there?

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we don't accept or give ,,,,,,,,,

Spring TX
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We only certify a couple before we play with them. We meet with them to see if we like them and if we do and they are what their profile said they were then we give them a cert. In turn we tell them we don't accept certs once there's something to "brag" about. So, our certs are strictly from friends. This avoids kiss n tell situations.

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we've met with a bi couple last year, and we certified them and they accepted it, they never wrote one for us but we didn't mind. we never met them again because of distance between us.

since then he changed his bi status to straight and then deleted our certification we gave them.

Philadelphia PA
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BLT, You hit the nail on the head. It supposed to be about FUN! :D

Emeryville CA
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I think certification is optional and not a "quid pro quo." Some think it's kissing and telling....it's not, only that the person exists. Frankly, if someone went into a whole bunch of details about our time together I would just decline the cert. I think we should lighten up. This is supposed to be fun.....are we having fun yet (lol)!

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We've never asked for a cert and won't.

We did have someone ask us for a cert once. Quite frankly, we were shocked. We'd met him when he was single, but just had drinks and had never met her. They just wanted a cert to be credible. HOW were we supposed to do that? **boggles the mind** Had we spent some time w/ both of them and thought that they were cool, we wouldn't have minded at all. Most people agree that being certed is important or at least a factor and a lot of couples want to get that first one posted and that's reasonable.

Jackson MS
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We tend to only certify people we have played with. The reason in our mind is b/c we're on a swing site looking for swingers. Not pic collectors, people that email a thousand emails with no intention of ever meeting, etc... Rarely will we certify someone we haven't played with but sometimes have b/c as some of you have pointed out just b/c you're not compatible with them doesn't mean the next couple will be. This does let people know they are real and will meet.

The tricky certs are the ones you meet and they're great the first time. Then the second meet they really show you thier true colors or they become clingy or have different agendas.

Good luck and happy swinging.

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Reminds me of "I gave YOU a gift NOW where's mine???" If the Cert isn't given from the heart it's worthless and if you've only given one to expect one in return it wasn't from the heart.

Mrs Sav

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I've never "asked" anyone from a cert. If I met them and had a good time and certed them...if there was no response after a couple weeks...I've tried to discretely drop the hint by mentioning people and their certs. As far as asking people about certs...if they have been on the site for a while, I try to judge it by whether they have other certs or not.

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Here's our question...is it wrong to ask a couple you've met (and gotten along with, regardless of if you played or not) for a cert? Or is that considered "bad form".

Subsequently, is it wrong to cert another couple without asking them first if they'd like one?


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