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TOPIC: No Response to Emails
Created by: bruinscouple17
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Is it common practice for people to not respond to emails? I personally find it rude to not respond to another persons message, even if its just to say "thanks, but we aren't interested" but we can't even seem to get that out of 80% of our emails. Does anyone else have this same issue and if so, do you feel the same way? I wonder if there is something wrong with our profile, or our pics or if it really just is other people prefer to be rude.

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Your e-mails can be read without opening them if the member clicks on the display detail tab or reads them if they have been forwarded to their outside e-mail address.

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Have to say I agree with the original poster,it is taken as rude when there is no reply. As a matter of fact your emails tell you f they have been read or not. Sadly most of ours have not even been read. I don't understand I thought commutation was key to this kind of thing. Guess I am off on that thought,we have sent out 4 times the amount of emails we have gotten back. I really don't understand how things are suppose to work. Some ppl act like they are to good to send an email back

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Now we will see if you allow him to "give" you "it".

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he "got it."

now the interesting part begins.

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That will be interesting. It will all depend upon how well he interprets context through the written word.

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agree with MoT and Mr AA.

today's gem: (total content of the introductory message)

"Got a minute?"

(he opened his photos--so against my better judgement i wrote back saying i don't chat or IM here or via any app, so if he wishes to open a dialogue, lay it out in a message as i don't have patience for one-line messages and responses. the response was due to the fact he opened his pics--we'll see if there's follow up.)

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Well written Mo, and I agree completely. You get it.

It's very simple logic that if one party is initiating contact with another asking about interest, they should absolutely have their pics open first. Otherwise we are all just adding more mail to this already slow mail system.

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On AA's note, I have but one public photo. I have plenty of private/personal photos that allow anyone to gauge physical attraction.

I have on occasion had couples message me, with NO PVT photos open (only the limited public ones with no face and often limited "body shots"), and communicate that they are interested, and want me to open my pvt photos. I am happy to comply IF they have as a courtesy (since they are initiating) opened their photos at the time of the request.

I don't know if for those couples this is a "couples over SMs" thing or what. But I am by no means desperate so as to forgo common courtesy that the one who initiates ought to avail themselves via their photos to assessment for physical compatibility by the "pursuee," as it were.

I don't mean to sound overly militant about this, but I find myself chuckling when these requests come along.

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I/we will respond to any respectful email and send a variation of our standard reply if we are not interested. "We are not a match, but we sincerely wish you exciting times and great memories in the lifestyle."

HOWEVER, Most people do not respond if they are not interested, or if someone does not OPEN CLEAR PICS on FIRST Contact. Besides being a disrespectful hillbilly fucktard, the number one way to COCKBLOCK oneself is to ask if someone is interested yet NOT OPEN clear pics on FIRST Contact. How the fuck can someone gauge at least minimal attraction if they can't see someone's pics??!

That's my biggie. Mr

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First we read profiles thoroughly, we don't send to people if they state how much they work out, if they want people that are HWP because we realize we are not, also if we feel there might not be a good balance amongst the four of us....no one needs to "take one for the team". So what we send is thought out and not just random or on a whim. Yet so many do not have the decency to respond and the "no response is a response" is ridiculous. That is just out right rude and disrespectful. Be thankful you get so many e-mails, if your to busy why are you on here everyday, if you have no time to answer an e-mail how are you gonna have time to chat or play, if you are getting to many e-mails be more descriptive to who you are looking for, maybe your profile is to vague. We do agree that it is very frustrating receiving e-mails that are poorly written or you can tell that they blatantly didn't read your profile and what your looking for giving them the cold shoulder could be justified, but when someone sends an e-mail and you feel there just wouldn't be any chemistry at least respond back with a no thanks. Sorry....but this is one of our biggest complaints about the people on SLS specially those that claim that they are seeking friends.

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TOPIC: No Response to Emails