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Oh wow. Ok, thanks for that. I am thick skinned and no worries on your candid (and kind) advice. I will see about tweaking. I do send "all around" body shots with messages (pvt photos), and unless the profile reads, "no face pics=no response", I have been currently leaving those out.

My thinking was that if someone weren't interested in the body shots or the profile, I'd rather hold back the face photo. The reason is (I agree w you that those I msg don't care) that I live in a VERY small-world community (SC) and whatever discrimination is elsewhere…here in the very buckle of the Bible belt…well you know the rest.

So I've held the face photos until interest in "all but that" is indicated. That way, I cut down on those shots being out there. I am sure it limits responses, as you indicate.

Thanks again for the advice. I will be tweaking.

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MoT, don't know if you got your "welcome" yet, but welcome.

A couple pieces of advice for you:

-as a single male you have a lot of competition. The odds are really in favor of those you are emailing, who have many, many single males to choose from. In order to be chosen, you need to stand out

-if you do not allow private - including face - pictures in your initial contact, most people will ignore you, broad shoulders be damned. You are probably knocking out 3/4 of your contactees by not including one.

- further to that point, they don't CARE as to WHY you "need to be discreet". If you are (seemingly) anything like the rest of us, we all need to be discreet. No pics = no response. If we set our profile to welcoming single males for even 48 hours, we will have 20 emails. Of those 20, probably 4 will be guys the Mrs finds attractive. If you have no open face pics, you're not considered.

- further even more to that point - your one pic is decent, but not even close to warranting further inquiry for some. I showed your pics to Mrs VA and she said "yeah that's good what else?". When I said "you need to ask if you want to see more" she said "OK so he's married or something forget it."

You seem like a decent guy so I'm being honest. Good luck.

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Oh and I would add only that my messages are always personalized, gentlemanly yet and not rude or crass, while clearly expressing interest. (That is, I know that a crass or inappropriate message can rule out a person regardless of appearance.)

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This a a (probably common) topic but nonetheless good. I respond to all messages except the rare SM or male half of a couple that solicits non-hetero activity. My profile is very clear that I am solely straight. Otherwise I respond.

I am fairly new, and I was surprised when I don't get a response from a couple who didn't dissuade SMs in their profile (I read all before messaging), since my photo while discreet is not one many could outright rule out as appealing (except for not desiring a white SM). Furthermore, my profile has enough detail and is (I think) non-offensive and with "good content."

When someone responds with potential interest, then we'd exchange face ("PERSONAL" FOLDER) photos. I would typically with initial contact add front photo(s) that still obscured the face.

So unless a couple just didn't feel like the effort of responding, or was on a break without stating so in the profile, I never quite got the "no response." I do find it overall a bit rude, but don't sweat it in the end.

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We used to respond to all emails until we got the "I hope you get AIDS and die," reply. Now, we rarely respond to profiles we aren't interested in. We just don't want to deal with the headache.

We are more likely to respond if people put some effort into the email, but all too often they are one or two lines, with little effort.

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Sometimes, although I am not fond of this cliche', however, it seems appropriate in this case. So my thoughts are: "It is what it is". And not meant to be rude but I'm an xnavygal who loves her acronyms...my suggestion to you would be...QTIP=Quit Taking It Personal. People are people, and we are all the same yt different. xoxo

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ROFL @vabeach! Yeah, we've gotten a few of those as well. Usually a SM. Worse, any further communication with those guys is even less informative....

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We used to reply to all emails. But that can become too much of a full time job, so now reply only to those we think might be a match. If someone has read your email and hasn't replied in a reasonable time, they're not interested. Works both ways, too. If we email someone and don't get a response, we don't send a second message.

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some people are just rude

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You know what? About 3 minutes ago we got an email from someone 300 miles away that said "Hi".

What the fuck does anyone think that warrants any kind of reply. I might as well dial a random phone number and say "Hi".

We answer most emails, but ones that my cat could have written aren't getting one.

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