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TOPIC: No Response to Emails
Created by: bruinscouple17
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Is it common practice for people to not respond to emails? I personally find it rude to not respond to another persons message, even if its just to say "thanks, but we aren't interested" but we can't even seem to get that out of 80% of our emails. Does anyone else have this same issue and if so, do you feel the same way? I wonder if there is something wrong with our profile, or our pics or if it really just is other people prefer to be rude.

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Now we will see if you allow him to "give" you "it".

:)

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he "got it."

now the interesting part begins.

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That will be interesting. It will all depend upon how well he interprets context through the written word.

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agree with MoT and Mr AA.

today's gem: (total content of the introductory message)

"Got a minute?"

(he opened his photos--so against my better judgement i wrote back saying i don't chat or IM here or via any app, so if he wishes to open a dialogue, lay it out in a message as i don't have patience for one-line messages and responses. the response was due to the fact he opened his pics--we'll see if there's follow up.)

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Well written Mo, and I agree completely. You get it.

It's very simple logic that if one party is initiating contact with another asking about interest, they should absolutely have their pics open first. Otherwise we are all just adding more mail to this already slow mail system.

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On AA's note, I have but one public photo. I have plenty of private/personal photos that allow anyone to gauge physical attraction.

I have on occasion had couples message me, with NO PVT photos open (only the limited public ones with no face and often limited "body shots"), and communicate that they are interested, and want me to open my pvt photos. I am happy to comply IF they have as a courtesy (since they are initiating) opened their photos at the time of the request.

I don't know if for those couples this is a "couples over SMs" thing or what. But I am by no means desperate so as to forgo common courtesy that the one who initiates ought to avail themselves via their photos to assessment for physical compatibility by the "pursuee," as it were.

I don't mean to sound overly militant about this, but I find myself chuckling when these requests come along.

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I/we will respond to any respectful email and send a variation of our standard reply if we are not interested. "We are not a match, but we sincerely wish you exciting times and great memories in the lifestyle."

HOWEVER, Most people do not respond if they are not interested, or if someone does not OPEN CLEAR PICS on FIRST Contact. Besides being a disrespectful hillbilly fucktard, the number one way to COCKBLOCK oneself is to ask if someone is interested yet NOT OPEN clear pics on FIRST Contact. How the fuck can someone gauge at least minimal attraction if they can't see someone's pics??!

That's my biggie. Mr

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First we read profiles thoroughly, we don't send to people if they state how much they work out, if they want people that are HWP because we realize we are not, also if we feel there might not be a good balance amongst the four of us....no one needs to "take one for the team". So what we send is thought out and not just random or on a whim. Yet so many do not have the decency to respond and the "no response is a response" is ridiculous. That is just out right rude and disrespectful. Be thankful you get so many e-mails, if your to busy why are you on here everyday, if you have no time to answer an e-mail how are you gonna have time to chat or play, if you are getting to many e-mails be more descriptive to who you are looking for, maybe your profile is to vague. We do agree that it is very frustrating receiving e-mails that are poorly written or you can tell that they blatantly didn't read your profile and what your looking for giving them the cold shoulder could be justified, but when someone sends an e-mail and you feel there just wouldn't be any chemistry at least respond back with a no thanks. Sorry....but this is one of our biggest complaints about the people on SLS specially those that claim that they are seeking friends.

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Oh wow. Ok, thanks for that. I am thick skinned and no worries on your candid (and kind) advice. I will see about tweaking. I do send "all around" body shots with messages (pvt photos), and unless the profile reads, "no face pics=no response", I have been currently leaving those out.

My thinking was that if someone weren't interested in the body shots or the profile, I'd rather hold back the face photo. The reason is (I agree w you that those I msg don't care) that I live in a VERY small-world community (SC) and whatever discrimination is elsewhere…here in the very buckle of the Bible belt…well you know the rest.

So I've held the face photos until interest in "all but that" is indicated. That way, I cut down on those shots being out there. I am sure it limits responses, as you indicate.

Thanks again for the advice. I will be tweaking.

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MoT, don't know if you got your "welcome" yet, but welcome.

A couple pieces of advice for you:

-as a single male you have a lot of competition. The odds are really in favor of those you are emailing, who have many, many single males to choose from. In order to be chosen, you need to stand out

-if you do not allow private - including face - pictures in your initial contact, most people will ignore you, broad shoulders be damned. You are probably knocking out 3/4 of your contactees by not including one.

- further to that point, they don't CARE as to WHY you "need to be discreet". If you are (seemingly) anything like the rest of us, we all need to be discreet. No pics = no response. If we set our profile to welcoming single males for even 48 hours, we will have 20 emails. Of those 20, probably 4 will be guys the Mrs finds attractive. If you have no open face pics, you're not considered.

- further even more to that point - your one pic is decent, but not even close to warranting further inquiry for some. I showed your pics to Mrs VA and she said "yeah that's good what else?". When I said "you need to ask if you want to see more" she said "OK so he's married or something forget it."

You seem like a decent guy so I'm being honest. Good luck.

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