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TOPIC: Nice way to say that you're too old
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I fundamentally disagree. I see no reason whatsoever to come up with a reason. Simply say "I don't think this is going to work out but Thank you very much and good luck to you'. No need to say anything more. We in this lifestyle should not ask for it nor should we volunteer it. Too fat, too skinny, too old, too young, no boobs, no dick...why go there? The best that you can hope for is hurt feelings. Rejection is bad enough...don't make it worse by saying it's because of something they have no control over.

Now if they smell like a dung heap....they deserve it, you gotta tell them.

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You people talking about "old coots" will be there someday, my friend......and when you're 50, I promise you, you won't feel, and in many cases, look like an "old coot."


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My answer would be from swinger evolution. We always look at the age range desired on profiles before making any contact. At sponsored mixers it has been a pleasant surprise how it hasn't been a deal breaker. ~being a old geezer ~ that is.

There isn't really a nice way to call out someones age if that is the only reason.

Butt a simple" thanks but no thanks" or { no reply} is better then a your a friggin fossil you fugly bastard jenny criag has a information with your name on it and Victoria called and suggest that your wife keep it a secret....LMAO


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We *generally* don't contact those whose age specification falls outside of our present ages, but there are occasions where another couple shares a particular kink with us or otherwise seems like such a perfect match, that we make an exception. And I'll often preface my comment with something like: "We realize that we're a bit out of your state age range, but...", and then I'll try to make a case.

Another thing that comes into play is THEIR ages. If they are near 50 and only go up to 55, we might initiate contact if we appear to be an exceptional match. On the other hand, if they're in their lower 40s, we would most likely not.

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Sorry, but I must be old fashioned. I wouldn't consider writing to someone whose criteria I didn't meet At best I'd open my picture for someone and hope if they were interested they would contact me. One of the reasons that single males have such a bad rap is that some think they are so exceptional they can ignore stated preferences. If I was part of a couple I might venture an exploratory e-mail if the age preference was fairly close but now that I'm a single, never.

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I have to agree with JackDarlene. Rules are sometimes made to be broken so just because someone says 18-30 or 45-60 does not mean that outside of those ranges is off limits .

Some of my best meetings have been with someone that either didn't fit the type I am usually interested in or I did not fit their mold. Either they or I was interested enough and took a chance at possible rejection and things worked out. In my case I always say I read that they were looking for someone older, younger, thinner,,,,but was interested enough in what else they have to say that I wanted to take the chance and say hello. If I am only interested in how they look rarely is there enough there to get beyond the physical preference.

One couple that had a pretty hard set rule against anyone under 30 was interested enough in my introduction we met and became good friends and were for several years.

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OlGeezer, I'd have to disagree with your "If you put your age preference in your profile and some old coot or couple don't honor your preferences then they are only asking to be rejected." While we generally honor age ranges in a profile, we also know that many use those ranges more as guidelines than as hard rules. It seems to be one of those damned if you do/damned if you don't things, as there's really no way of knowing in advance whether the stated range is etched in stone or is flexible 'for the right people'.


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I look better in person.

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That picture is priceless.

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If you put your age preference in your profile and some old coot or couple don't honor your preferences then they are only asking to be rejected. They shouldn't be, and probably won't be, insulted if you come straight out and tell them. Of course it works the other way as well. I would have a real problem clicking with anyone under 40. My preferences tend to run toward those who are experienced, worldly, and can carry on an intelligent conversation. Keep in mind that at our age, us old geezers can only go 3 or 4 times a night so the conversation and social interaction is just as, if not more, important than great sex.

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