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TOPIC: Hey Newbies, getting yourself a mentor can mean all the world to happy swinging
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I would try to answer any questions or concerns they may have. Even share some they probably didnt think of at the beginning stage. But one thing I have learned, NEVER, NEVER "help" them personally if your friendship with them is important to keep. I have seen so many friendships end in animosity over situations, so would never get involved until they gained understanding and felt comfortable in the lifestyle.

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Anyone care to share any thoughts on vanilla friends who are interested in swinging? Leave them to it on their own, or help them out with their questions and concerns? Mrs

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Thats a great idea! Id start it, but as a single girl, I couldnt handle the private emails that would follow! LOL

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There has been one or two I have seen, but they were escorted out due to that behavior. Seems that wherever I am ~ They are there as well! Must have a perv magnet on my ass! LOL

anytime you wanna join me ~ Let me know!

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Im only 3 yrs in ~ cant be a mentor ~ But really willing to be!!! Is there a training course so I can get my certificate early? LOL

Im always looking for a good, reliable, single respectful man to take to the clubs with me. I dont like feeling like a sheep in a field of wolves and he wont feel like the perv jerking off over in the corner.

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If you are new to swinging let me give you some advice from a person who has done this for many years. Swinging is an amazing amount of fun if done the "right" way. But swinging also has its shares of pitfalls and problems. There are loads of creaps on swing sites. There are also lots of fantasy couples who never really intend on swinging. There are loads of head cases who use the lifestyle because they think its a dating service (check out AFF). Plus even when you find that first person or couple for your swing, so much can go wrong. So what do you do?

Its really prety simple. Get a mentor.

Everyone has problems with their first couple swing experiences. There are so many new feelings and new experiences it is most often overwhelming. The end result of whether you enjoy swinging ends up being how well you are prepared to deal with the bumps in the road as you make those first couple contacts.

A mentor can help you to anticipate and plan for problems. A mentor can help you identify boundaries that are real and workable. A mentor will help you plan for when you (or your partner) go beyond your planned boundaries. A mentor can help you to identify the issues you may have with your own sexuality. A mentor can even help you learn a few new techniques so you do not feel so awkward and clumsy when you first swing.

If you are a newbie, watch the profiles for comments about folks who are newbie friendly or people willing to be a mentor. A mentor should have at least 5 years experience in the lifestyle.

There are many choices we make in our lives. One of those choices might be for you to join this lifestyle. If you do it is within your grasp to make the choice into a positive aspect of your life that can enhance and even heal the love relationship of a couple. It is also in your graps to follow a path that might become unhappy and damage your relationship with your partner (the same holds true about damaging your ego if you are single). A mentor can help you bypass the bad and focus on the great things about swinging.

Godd swinging

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