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TOPIC: Hey_Newbies,_getting_yourself_a_mentor_can_mean_all_the_world_to_happy_swinging
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If you are new to swinging let me give you some advice from a person who has done this for many years. Swinging is an amazing amount of fun if done the "right" way. But swinging also has its shares of pitfalls and problems. There are loads of creaps on swing sites. There are also lots of fantasy couples who never really intend on swinging. There are loads of head cases who use the lifestyle because they think its a dating service (check out AFF). Plus even when you find that first person or couple for your swing, so much can go wrong. So what do you do?

Its really prety simple. Get a mentor.

Everyone has problems with their first couple swing experiences. There are so many new feelings and new experiences it is most often overwhelming. The end result of whether you enjoy swinging ends up being how well you are prepared to deal with the bumps in the road as you make those first couple contacts.

A mentor can help you to anticipate and plan for problems. A mentor can help you identify boundaries that are real and workable. A mentor will help you plan for when you (or your partner) go beyond your planned boundaries. A mentor can help you to identify the issues you may have with your own sexuality. A mentor can even help you learn a few new techniques so you do not feel so awkward and clumsy when you first swing.

If you are a newbie, watch the profiles for comments about folks who are newbie friendly or people willing to be a mentor. A mentor should have at least 5 years experience in the lifestyle.

There are many choices we make in our lives. One of those choices might be for you to join this lifestyle. If you do it is within your grasp to make the choice into a positive aspect of your life that can enhance and even heal the love relationship of a couple. It is also in your graps to follow a path that might become unhappy and damage your relationship with your partner (the same holds true about damaging your ego if you are single). A mentor can help you bypass the bad and focus on the great things about swinging.

Godd swinging

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Great idea. We are very open to joining this adventure of swinging. We have discussed immensely and always try things once. An experienced couple with a female to talk to the Mrs about things would help ease beginners nerves.

Mesa AZ
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We would be up to having a mentor(s). Figured it probably couldn't hurt and has helped in other parts of my life so why not.

Hockley TX
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Recently jumped the fence and crushed the blue pill..Left the 'other world' behind me, good fucking riddens!

I've got knowledge for newbies in my area..

just contact me.

Mesa AZ
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MZ Snoopy, you have couples and probably SM blocked from seeing your profile, I presume that means you and Mr. Snoopy are one of the "unicorn hunter" couples.

Truthfully, on a local level we've always enjoyed fun playtime with newbie couples we've met at the local club In any pre-play conversation we'll talk about our experiences, ask about theirs, answer some questions....but in reality the best teacher is experience.

If you have 0 amount of swingers in your area, maybe you need to take a fuck-tation trip to a different venue to check out the scenery. I'm not sure where in KS you are...but there always seems to be travel options for Vegas, swinger cruises, Hedonism and Desire resorts, Naughti-in Nawlins in New Orleans {I know there's an Nola Asshat Krewe from the forum that likes to debaunch sexy strangers when they visit in Nola} --

Good luck...

Memphis TN
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How do you find someone mentor you we live in kansas and have questions about the lifestyle

Topeka KS
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Always willing to learn at the feet (or other parts) of master.

Richmond VA
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We would love to have few mentors.

Salisbury MD
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We would love to have few mentors.

Salisbury MD
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We would love to have few mentors.

Salisbury MD
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Definitely I'd love to have a mentor. I'm planning on going to a club soon to do a meet and greet and I will get someone there to show me around and introduce me. Anyone who wants to mentor me, let me know. Thanks.

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