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We didn't think of it specifically as getting a mentor, but we do specify that we are new and might need patience or make mistakes... and when we selected our first playmate, two of the many reasons were his experience and his expressed willingness to deal with newbies.

Not only has our time with him been incredibly rewarding physically, but he's always willing to answer my questions, no matter how oddball or tedious. So, while he does not wear an official "mentor" badge (maybe I should get him one), he certainly fills the role well... and that has definitely given us a positive introduction to the lifestyle.

In short, getting a mentor (whether you call him/her/them that or not) is a terrific suggestion!

Mrs.DE

Federal Way WA
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Thank you for your input Kat and Fun. It's true - we have been at this a long time and remain optimistic. We believe there must be another sexy couple out there (not to far from home) that share our views. We are definitely not shy!! We'll keep searching. We appreciate the encouragement. :-)

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EnjoyingExpectations, welcome to the forums. I hope you find that mentor couple. You might want to look at some of the threads in the "soft swinger" section.

Richland MS
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Could we ever use a Mentor Couple!!! We want to keep it soft and very sexy.

Chesapeake VA
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We heartily agree with the mentor concept. We found a couple of couples on SLS who gave us good advice. The forums here were also generally helpful.

By fate or plain luck, we found a couple within a couple of months on sls. They had been looking for over a year but never found anyone they felt comfortable meeting. We got to know each other, then met. So, these four "virgins" are now mentoring each other. :) We think the world of them and we think we've found friends that will be around for a while.

But, taking time to seek out sound advice and do some research will pay off, in our opinion. --J&T

Charleston WV
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Any mentors in the Buffalo/Niagara area? I am totally lost in all of this, but totally turned on! :D

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I agree with you tantric, I was graced with the one of the best gifts of all, having my mentor also be my friends, and one that I get to see on a regular basis. We met this summer but he has been so helpful to me and James that I don't think we would've ever really "took the plunge" so to speak into meeting with our first couple if it wasn't for his advice. He's a really great guy, if anyone is looking for a mentor his username is Tomthumb8. Meeting him and having him look over my husband and I's travel into this new territory has definitely changed our lives and I'm thankful for him

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We just joined a few weeks ago right before having our first club experience. I don't know that we really have a mentor, per se, but we do have an experience couple that we've been talking with and their advice has been invaluable. My husband's had been saying that he wanted to talk to someone who both experienced in the lifestyle and also had been together for a long time. We were lucky to find that in one of the very first couples we contacted. And btw, we didn't specifically set out to find this couple, I just emailed them a question about a local club and we got lucky. Well, not LUCKY, but you know what I mean! ;)

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When we were first thinking of taking up the lifestyle we met a Wonderful couple from NJ on IRC (we're in IL). We talked with them on the phone for Hours, finally hanging up around 3AM. They were so helpful and kind, and they really tried hard to answer our concerns and questions. I wish we knew where they were now, but we lost touch with them after they moved.

I'm wondering if SLS would consider adding a Mentor Group or something like that for couples willing to talk with new people and act as mentors? Hmm...perhaps I'll just start a group like that on our own and see what happens? Regardless, we've been swinging for almost twenty years, just celebrated our 37th anniversary, and even more in Luv than the day we tied the knot! We'd be tickled to talk with any new people who were inclined to msg us here at SLS. Just returning the favor that our lost friends did for us.

Live Long and Prosper!

JnD

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Xtine it sounds like you had a good time, and found a perfect couple.

Mrs Voya

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