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TOPIC: Hey Newbies, getting yourself a mentor can mean all the world to happy swinging
Created by: tantric_explorer
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If you are new to swinging let me give you some advice from a person who has done this for many years. Swinging is an amazing amount of fun if done the "right" way. But swinging also has its shares of pitfalls and problems. There are loads of creaps on swing sites. There are also lots of fantasy couples who never really intend on swinging. There are loads of head cases who use the lifestyle because they think its a dating service (check out AFF). Plus even when you find that first person or couple for your swing, so much can go wrong. So what do you do?

Its really prety simple. Get a mentor.

Everyone has problems with their first couple swing experiences. There are so many new feelings and new experiences it is most often overwhelming. The end result of whether you enjoy swinging ends up being how well you are prepared to deal with the bumps in the road as you make those first couple contacts.

A mentor can help you to anticipate and plan for problems. A mentor can help you identify boundaries that are real and workable. A mentor will help you plan for when you (or your partner) go beyond your planned boundaries. A mentor can help you to identify the issues you may have with your own sexuality. A mentor can even help you learn a few new techniques so you do not feel so awkward and clumsy when you first swing.

If you are a newbie, watch the profiles for comments about folks who are newbie friendly or people willing to be a mentor. A mentor should have at least 5 years experience in the lifestyle.

There are many choices we make in our lives. One of those choices might be for you to join this lifestyle. If you do it is within your grasp to make the choice into a positive aspect of your life that can enhance and even heal the love relationship of a couple. It is also in your graps to follow a path that might become unhappy and damage your relationship with your partner (the same holds true about damaging your ego if you are single). A mentor can help you bypass the bad and focus on the great things about swinging.

Godd swinging

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I/we Mentor people all the time and it definitely makes a difference in the community. Anyone should feel free to ask us anything.

MR AA

Phoenix AZ
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Well us being very new, we don't have much perspective, but we did find a couple that has been answering questions and letting us know how the real scene works, with out being pushy or having expectations. It has helped us greatly over the last few days and we are getting more and more excited

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Well us being very new, we don't have much perspective, but we did find a couple that has been answering questions and letting us know how the real scene works, with out being pushy or having expectations. It has helped us greatly over the last few days and we are getting more and more excited

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Well us being very new, we don't have much perspective, but we did find a couple that has been answering questions and letting us know how the real scene works, with out being pushy or having expectations. It has helped us greatly over the last few days and we are getting more and more excited

Traverse City MI
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Well us being very new, we don't have much perspective, but we did find a couple that has been answering questions and letting us know how the real scene works, with out being pushy or having expectations. It has helped us greatly over the last few days and we are getting more and more excited

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Just a thought for last two posts - not every mentor need be someone physically in your area. You might reach out to some you have met online. Additionally, reading several of the forum threads might give you a good idea of what some members went through when they were new. Take a look-see through the threads, there's some good and some funny stuff in here.

Best of luck & Enjoy

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It's hard enough just finding people, period. How do you find a mentor? Especially up here in Alaska!

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We're a new couple living in the Portland, Oregon metro are (Vancouver, Wa) and have some limited LS experience and belong to both adult clubs in town. No major pitfalls so far. We would love having the guidance of an experienced mentor. Thanks.

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We're a new couple living in the Portland, Oregon metro are (Vancouver, Wa) and have some limited LS experience and belong to both adult clubs in town. No major pitfalls so far. We would love having the guidance of an experienced mentor. Thanks.

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So I came to this conclusion before I found this thread. Problem is, finding a mentor ain't easy. If anyone reading this thread is in the SE MI area and willing to do such mentoring, please contact us.

Romulus MI
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TOPIC: Hey Newbies, getting yourself a mentor can mean all the world to happy swinging