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TOPIC: First contact from the single male

Created by: glendaleazcouple Original Starting post for this thread:
The Holy Grail of the swinging couple is the single bi female wanting to join them. Well, my wife and I are the Holy Grail of the a single male. Looking for single guy to help me give my wife a special occasion. You can imagine the volume of mail we get. A dozen or mail a day and plenty of people trying to chat. And yet, the vast majorty of guys have SUCH lame first contacts. The vast majority are just so lame. I'd love to join you, so check my profile and let me know. Then you look at the profile and it has the state. Age, ht, wgt. Looking to have wild sexual encounter with couple or female. So, you ping them back. Tell us more about you and what you're looking for. We get back the stats again, and "whatever you want". Come on guys! Then there is another type. The way too agressive. "I may be able to, but first I have to know if she does...." Dismissed. "Sounds great, but I have to do it in the next 3 days before my wife gets back into town." Dismissed. Then there is the guy that says he's single, but you start to get the vibe he's not so single. He's on for like an hour in the morning. Doesn't show up for chat at times he said he could talk. Try to arrange a meeting... "well, I can't do dinner or evenings, but could we meet at lunch hour near my work?" It got to the point that I had to update my profile with instructions to the guys because such a high % were getting tossed in the trash just based on the lame profile/first contact.

Created by: glendaleazcouple
Original Starting post for this thread:

The Holy Grail of the swinging couple is the single bi female wanting to join them.  

Well, my wife and I are the Holy Grail of the a single male.  Looking for single guy to help me give my wife a special occasion.  You can imagine the volume of mail we get.  A dozen or mail a day and plenty of people trying to chat.

And yet, the vast majorty of guys have SUCH lame first contacts.  

The vast majority are just so lame.  I'd love to join you, so check my profile and let me know.  Then you look at the profile and it has the state. Age, ht, wgt.  Looking to have wild sexual encounter with couple or female.

So, you ping them back.  Tell us more about you and what you're looking for.  We get back the stats again, and "whatever you want".

Come on guys!

Then there is another type.  The way too agressive.  

"I may be able to, but first I have to know if she does...."  Dismissed.

"Sounds great, but I have to do it in the next 3 days before my wife gets back into town."  Dismissed.

Then there is the guy that says he's single, but you start to get the vibe he's not so single.  He's on for like an hour in the morning.  Doesn't show up for chat at times he said he could talk.  Try to arrange a meeting... "well, I can't do dinner or evenings, but could we meet at lunch hour near my work?"

It got to the point that I had to update my profile with instructions to the guys because such a high % were getting tossed in the trash just based on the lame profile/first contact.

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User Details are only visible to members.	I see both side of this for sure. No doubt we men are labled pretty hard here, however, I cannot tell you how righteous many of the couples come off as well. In my opinion...Free Members in general contribute to this problem regardless of gender and make the site more troublesome and time consuming than it needs to be. As a guy...I get contacted by the same guy that is bothering you...wanting me to turn his wife into a slut...whom of course, has no idea she is being offered up as meat. They are almost always free members.
New London Township PA			Username hidden (2 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	ROFLMFAO "I think God made Eve cause Adam was just wandering around jerking off and some work had to get done! Hahaha...." Shelly, I love your sense of humor!!!
Northwood OH			Username hidden (46 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I thought you liked shoes...
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (5609 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	And you are forgiven for having been born male....not everyone can be born female you know. I'm teasing so don't throw a shoe at me.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23645 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hahaha I meant no harm Hyp......but men are something else. I gave birth to 2 of them, I KNOW. My 4 yr old was rolling in the dirt. For no particular reason mind you, he just felt like rolling in the dirt. A little girl around the same age walked up and stopped, watching my son roll in the dirt. She looked at him and then up at me; I said I don't know girl, he is a man. What can I say. She literally shook her head and kept walking. Hahaha. Men are men. I think God made Eve cause Adam was just wandering around jerking off and some work had to get done! Hahaha....I'm teasing but you know, we do like having you around so don't feel bad. Just don't disagree with us and its all good.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23645 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Its something that happens...when the brain above the neck shifts to the brain below the waist some kind of oxygen deprivation occurs and men do dumb shit lol.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23645 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Its something that happens...when the brain above the neck shifts to the brain below the waist some kind of oxygen deprivation occurs and men do dumb shit lol.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23645 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It really sucks hearing stuff like this and at the same time a very good reason why the "single male" seems to be typically frowned upon. Maybe it is all the baby batter on the brain that make so many single guys go off tilt. Its like kindness, respect, courtesy, humility, and just common sense go out the window. I think too many "single guys" try to come into the lifestyle expecting it to be the swinging 70's or what they watch in their porn movies, you know wham, bam, thanks maam. " Well you are right. My theory is this: They think we are giving away free ass to the first taker. LOL. Like you said, they think omg these women are giving it away. Then their brain takes over and its like the robot in that tv show from the 60s haha, they go kind of nuts. And then they do dumb shit like saying "yo baby, what do I need to do to hit that"...well after saying that you can pretty much hit the door partner lol. Thank goodness though there are men out here who just talk normally and are usually the ones "hitting" it.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23645 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It really sucks hearing stuff like this and at the same time a very good reason why the "single male" seems to be typically frowned upon. Maybe it is all the baby batter on the brain that make so many single guys go off tilt. Its like kindness, respect, courtesy, humility, and just common sense go out the window. I think too many "single guys" try to come into the lifestyle expecting it to be the swinging 70's or what they watch in their porn movies, you know wham, bam, thanks maam. Personally half the fun of the lifestyle to me is meeting people, chatting a bit, laughing, learning, and then being invited into their fantasies and desires completes the other half of the lifestyle fun. Hell I just wanted sex there are many massage parlours and ads on Craigslist for that.
Van Nuys CA			Username hidden (46 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Arg... what is wrong with these people????? So, I just got a chat ping from someone. I pull up the profile. Typical lame profile. age, height, weight straight, bi. Looking for safe descrete fun with another couple... must be d/d free. Same virtual boiler plate that so many have. So, I open the chat. "Male half here. I'd love to join you and wife for MFM. Interested?" My response is the very honest, I don't know. We get a dozen mails a day on a slow day. You're going to have to say something to make yourself stand out. Send an email with something that she'll find interesting. Mybe you'll stand out. Then he starts to get all pissy. Well, that is what the profile is for. Well, other than it not saying you're allowed to play alone, there is nothing in it to make you stand out good or bad. I tried to start over. So, are we interested? Don't know. You'll have to tell us more. Well, that isn't me, he says, and he leaves mad. Look guys, I'm not f'n with you just to f with you. We don't get cheap thrills watching you jump through hoops. Simple truth is we are getting dozens upon dozens of "are you interested in me?" responses. There better be something that makes you stand out. If you don't want to go through the effort, then you may as well jsut give it up. On the flip side, a couple guys are getting it. After I put in our profile that they need to do something to try to make themselves stand out, a few have done very well. Very few.
Glendale AZ			Username hidden (118 post)

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