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TOPIC: First Contact: A Couple that one is a Co-Worker!
Created by: Adultstyles
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What is the best way to handle a First contact with another couple that one of them turns out to be a Co-Worker of one of us? For my wife and I we don't find it a problem and feel that it could work out great if the 4 of us hit it off personally like any other couple to couple in the lifestyle. The work relationship is not a type of supervisor/subordinate, there is a good deal of separation. Just looking for Opinions
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One main concern I would have is jealous issues. For some this wouldn't be a problem, but on the other hand working so close to someone you have played with might make the other two jealous. Plus you said that there is separation between were you work and they do, would that separation stay that way. To many questions to be answered for me to go there.

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"unless you're pretty sure there's a mutual interest."

In this context, mutual interest isn't enough. Seldom does mutual interest last in the swinging arena, and when it fades, I don't want to work with the party who suddenly turns spiteful or awkward, or God forbid, changes their tune altogether and throws the whole thing in my face. Just too close for comfort. I'm not opposed to making friends from swinging, but I don't swing with vanilla friends. That includes coworkers.

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We've had a similar situation happen with THREE (yes THREE!) different people already...one a co-worker, one an ex-coworker, and one just a friend one of us knew, and in all situations it's come out as pretty much the same result: no interest in "playing", but your secret is safe with us. Actually there are certain people we know that we would LOVE to find out they were in the lifestyle, but it's not exactly something you can bring up in casual conversation, is it? And it's pretty much the same situation as when you were single and wanted to ask a friend out...too much risk of ruining a friendship unless you're pretty sure there's a mutual interest.

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Mixing work with pleasure is courting disaster. Only in the rarest circumstances do playmates become semi regular with all 4 on the same page. If just one of you turns the page you've opened a whole new chapter of drama. Bad bad idea but like many people you will have to learn from your mistakes. One bad seed spoils the fun, one bad comment ruins your reputation and your career. Be very aware you can be outed in such a clever passive way that the exposer gets off scott free. Don't fool yourself for one minute that to expose someone you need to expose yourself. Not a piece of ass worth risking the paycheck .

Mrs Sav

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Nope. Don't care. Too close for comfort and too much potential for disaster. Pick your direction- anything can happen. Nope, nope and a solid NOPE. :-) Too many fish to bed the office.

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Little more info.. Both couples are on this site: Them and Us. They emailed us first as they liked our profile.

The guys have talked and feel that there is a good trust factor.

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True. The lesson is not to mix vanilla people (neighbors, friends, co-workers) with the LS.

Kat

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Arkon.......In that case I'm waiting lol

Mrs Sav

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I strongly agree with CB and Mrs. Sav. Too many unknowns, and has the makings for a perfect storm!

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We would never consider mixing our sex live with our careers. The potential for drama, trouble or gossip is far too high. Think this one through very carefully and take the time to imagine every possible bad scenario ; if you are truly comfortable with the worst possible outcome forge ahead and enjoy. Maybe it will turn out well but as I said just in case ......... unless you are completely ok with a bad result it isn't worth the risk.

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