its not easy to say no to any sitition be it buisness, family , money and especially playing, but the less is best policy; we recently emailed a couple who they are trying to protray themself as the rich and hottest couple on here came back with reply, we are not compatable at this time, does that mean tomorow we will be?

Honestly, I had forgotten about the ability to block them. Thanks for the reminder. It's time to do that.

Most of our hits from SMs on this site come from IMs. I turned that function off.

We can't speak for anyone else, but the blocking of single males works great for us. We didn't have it on for the first few months and must have gotten 100 emails from single men when our profile stated we weren't interested in them. Since then, we've had a couple single men sneak through disguised as couples. Usually, after the first few emails we figure out who they really are. If it's a truly single guy and we have the email(s) to prove so, we will report them to the moderators. Otherwise, we just block them individually as they come.

We would rather get a "not interested" then no response at all. But we'd rather receive no response at all than an impolite one. It's too bad people forget there are human beings behind screennames, but that is a problem online in general and in no way unique to lifestyle. As for this: "Sadly, most people, especially men, don't read profiles." Curious if this is based on some statistic or study presented on the site? Or just experience? Not trying to be critical in any way, just asking out of interest, BTW. We reads every profile and are trying if we send contact or reply that we point out specific things in the profile so it's clear that we read the profile.

Just had to chime in on a couple of points here:

Sadly, most people, especially men, don't read profiles. We get a LOT of mail from single men. Our profile clearly states that we're only interested in meeting couples. We just no longer feel compelled to respond to people who don't read the profile. People who show that kind of disrespect don't deserve a response.

If someone turns us down, we don't think we're entitled to a reason. That goes both ways. Just not interested in letting someone engage us in an argument. No good will be served by that.

If the answer is no, move on.

Thanks for the info = TFTI

Yes, weekend went very well. Enjoy the rest of your day!

Thanks Wanna.

DakiniGrrl... not familiar with that acronym? Thanks in advace for the clarification.

Agree G.

I would definitely point people to your profile, Wanna...it is one of the best I've read.

Gina