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PittCouple - they IMed you to tell you that they only meet with attractive people???? That is fricking horrible! It would be nice if people were just courteous - for crying out loud, there is a ready-made no thank you response built right in here, not much more than 1 click......oh well...

We've had some unpleasant and creepy conversations/emails with folks as well, and sometime it takes a couple emails/IMs to get to that point, so for us it has actually really been helpful that we take a lot of time to get to know folks before we meet them and/or do anything else with them. Besides that, our lives are busy, like most people I imagine, and this is not our #1 priority. That being said, we have met some very nice people and have had some very nice times with people we've met through SLS and we expect that we will continue to find and meet with some fun folks here.

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Just a follow-up to our post last night. We got IM'd by a couple we had shared pics with this morning, and their main reason for contacting us seemed only to be so they could emphasize that they only meet "attractive" people (whatever that means...I mean, we're not Elvis and Priscilla, but we're like to think we're decent for our ages!) and then block us from their profile.

Thank goodness only the male half was online when this happened, as he found it an incredibly rude way of telling someone you weren't interested...I can only imagine what it would have been like to have met this couple in person (who have been members on SLS for a long time, but only have gotten one cert...gee, I wonder why?).

That said, we also heard from two very nice couples (you probably know who you are!) who seem "normal" and the kind we'd definitely like to find out more about.

We just wish uninterested couples would show a little more respect in the way they treat people. :)


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Emailing others on SLS can be very frustrating. Sometimes people seem offended that you're interested in them, sometimes they send you a "smart ass" remark, sometimes they seem interested and then you'll reply and never hear from them again, and sometimes you're left wondering if they ever read your email since you never heard back at all.

But there are some quality people on SLS...the trouble is finding each other. As far as our area goes, there seems to be roughly three types of couples (or singles): "ordinary" people seriously interested in finding others for longterm friendship and fun; the "clique" people who like meeting others, but only if you look like supermodels and want to have orgies (these, we find are generally the 18 to 35 age group for some reason) and usually just want sex and nothing more, and finally those who may or may not be real, but have no intention of actually meeting...they like flirting and trading pics, but when it comes to actually getting togther, something always comes up. :)


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For the people who do respond, thank you. I would much rather get a response than not. At least with a response, you are being acknowledged and that there really is a person in that profile. When you keep getting a no response, I start to wonder if the web site is for real or is there something wrong with me that people don't even want to speak with you. As for idiots that start becoming rude, they should be reported and kicked off the site. This web site is about fun people and if people have an attitude, kick them down the road. If you can't be an adult here you don't belong.

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The exact wording varies but my "Break the Ice" email goes something like: ...Hi, I read Ur profile and think we might be compatible fun. . .Please check out my profile. . .Some word back, Pro or Con, would be appreciated...

I DO read the profiles and avoid incompatible ages. . .Based on their profiles the people I contact are interested in solo males and I judge them to be mature and responsible.

I never get replies back. What's with that.

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SarahJPA........We have talked to someone that feels the way you do. We sent a nice email when she first joined, just said, welcome let us know if you would like to chat more. We have traded emails with her and talked on the phone, have not met her yet. She sent an email to us that she was deleting her profile because she was tired of being treated like a cheap whore by people online. All we can assume, some couples looking for just a single woman are really just a pathetic guy.

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Ok, Here's what's getting to me. I've been on here less than two days and have received alot of Email, I stopped counting at 75. I have tried to respond to each one, but now I am getting return emails from the folks whose messages were appreciated but their invitations were turned down. One guy was a smoker-- and I hate smokers! He didn't take the time to read my profile and he was mad at me for not giving him a chance. If people [single guys specifically] will not read my profile or cannot accept rejection with grace why would I want to stay at SLS? There are alot of options out there and having people throw words at me because what they look like or say doesn't appeal to me, then I'm out. I want to be on this site for meeting really neat people but if I have to dig through a bunch of temper tantrum emails to meet the really cool guys and gals out there, then it's just not worth it.

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We have one for you. This just happened a few days ago.

We received an e mail form a couple that read "do you want to f*** tonight?

our response was "no thank you"

We get back from them "we don't like the way you said that you must be a racist" etc

Funny thing is they didn't have any picture that we anyone could identify what race they were. We both couldn't catch our breath from laughing so hard.

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All of the comments about profiles and dishonesty make sense to me, but I also don't think it is that different than a lot of other social situations in life.

Profiles can be inaccurate for many reasons, but the profile is only the cover of the book. If there is something in it that is appealing, let them know. One of our short-list rules is about smokers, but we find some profiles with smokers where we're still interested in getting to know the couple. We'll say hi.

We like hearing back from people. Yes, no or maybe. If you say no, we'll move on. If you say your busy right now, we'll probably send something back so you don't forget us.

If we don't hear from you and we were really interested, we might follow up later. It's no guarantee.

We're interested in playing, but we have to be right for each other. Poor grammar, rudeness and a multitude of other sins won't help you get friends, jobs, spouse, or play dates. I say be an optimistic human being.

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JackDarlene...

Well said.

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