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Two wrongs don't make it right. For those of you who actually reply to your mail; please , keep doing it regardless of people acting like asses. There are tons of people who apperciate getting a response. If your already answering your mail then your already better than a lot of people on here. Keep being a role model.

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We have never been able to decide which is worse.....Sending no reply or sending a "no thanks reply"

We have never had a problem sending a "not interested" reply to someone or a couple who is so far outside what our profile says we want.

But a couple or a guy who is a great "profile match" but for whatever reason we are not attracted......is tougher.

We've tried the simple "no thanks" before a few times and that usually doesnt end the conversation. They will reply about how great our profiles match and they cant see how we're not a perfect fit.

It just seems to harsh or rude to say "Sorry but we're not attracted to you"

"No thanks" replys have triggered nasty messages after also....

So most times, we just wont reply if we;re not interested. That seems like the nicest way to say "no thanks"

Hell....Even being experienced in this and not being short on people who are interested in us.........When we send an email and get a "not interested" back from a "perfect match" profile........ Its a slight....."Ouch" haha

We rather get no response ourselves

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I have been turned down politely a couple of times and had no problem with it.

I usually send them back an email labeled "Thanks for the courtesy of your reply" and tell them that I understand that I'm not what they are after, I am not offended by that and wish you good luck and happy swinging."

I appreciate people polite enough to say no thanks, as compared to people who don't even bother to reply. What is really funny is that some of the people who never reply, if you read their profiles will often go on and on about basicaly how picky they aren't. LOL... I think people should be honest. If you don't like BBWs, oriental dudes, heavy guys, rednecks, businessmen, etc.. just say so. If somebody is polite enought to say "no thanks" appreciate it. Its better than no reply at all.

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first off you try and be polite but most folks that get turned down ... some folks don't handle rejection well. We send emails sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't ... their loss ... being a photographer 1st as pro now as hobby I found that sometimes folks look pretty good on the outside but ugly stuff inside some folks don't photograph well or have better chemistry in person but most folks just happy to judge a book by its cover LOL so between the hate mailers and the judgers lol its a wonder anyone answers their email

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seduction4 two:

we are with you. we get enough bs emails that eventually you stop caring about being mr. and mrs. polite and trying to "let them down easily" and all that crap. i recently received and email from a couple with no descriptions, no pics and they were not paid and i said no thanks and (nothing more). he responded back by saying: too bad you're not bitter". what the heck did that mean? how stupid. i posted this in another thread and the folks there jumped me for being rude by not responding to all emails. the whole "downfall of manners" speech. i could care less if you respond to our emails. if you do it is icing on the cake but since we have no expectations of other human beings behavior we are rarely let down. we have often emailed people just to compliment them on pics or profile with no desire to meet, maybe due to distance or the like and we tell them there is no intention outside a simple one way compliment. sometimes they respond, sometimes not. no need to for sure. as stated earlier: focus on the positive responses and get busy.

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Like Ive said all along.

It would be so much easier on here if people were more honest in who they are and what they want.

if youre new and nervous......Say it! Nobody is going to jump down your throat.

If youre not sure about going through with an in-person meet.....Say it

If youre talking with a couple or another person and are not feeling an attraction.....SAY IT.

There is NO EXCUSE for a no-call no show. Unless youre in the newspaper the next day.

There is NO EXCUSE other than a legit emergency for a last minute cancel.

Just be honest.

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We were simply making a suggestion that a good percentage of ppl on SLS appear to have honesty issues in re the "flakes and fakes". I can't imagine any equitable way that one might (or even should) separate one from the other and I really don't want to go there...great way to start a fight! lol Suffice it to say that there are too many people with profiles that provide skewed representations, and that too many ppl on SLS are less than totally honest about themselves. IMHO, of course, and subject to change without notice. (grin)

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I used to use the word "fake" a lot.

Thats a broad word in this situation.

I think the problem is that people need to be more honest in their profile.

If they are just on here for dirty chat or to fantasize online.....They should make that clear.

If they are "just feeling things out" and are a little shy or unsure about proceeding.......They should say that too.

I think those 2 categories contribute most of the "fakes"

But they are only fakes because they represent themselves as real "ready to go" swingers when really theyre not.

If they would just be honest in conversation, it would be much easier.

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Well personally you have to expect that everyone doesn't always play by the rules, and in their case stupidity overrides everything else. Everyone in the group is not like them, so take it with a grain of salt, let let it go. Friends an playmates are forever, so have fun.

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I don't know that a follow-up is necessarily a bad idea... After all, some folks get inundated with e-mail around here and one could get lost in the shuffle. On the other hand, sending two or three follow-up messages is a bit excessive (again, that's just my opinion). I look in the sent file to see if they've read the earlier messages. If they have and still chosen not to reply, then I figure it's their loss, not ours.

I also have to agree with the theory about if they were to clear out the flakes and fakes there'd be damned nearly nobody left around here. Traffic and a user base are a web site's life blood, so doing that sort of thing would be pretty bad for business. ;)

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