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TOPIC: And THIS is why people don't respond to emails
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Emailing others on SLS can be very frustrating. Sometimes people seem offended that you're interested in them, sometimes they send you a "smart ass" remark, sometimes they seem interested and then you'll reply and never hear from them again, and sometimes you're left wondering if they ever read your email since you never heard back at all.

But there are some quality people on SLS...the trouble is finding each other. As far as our area goes, there seems to be roughly three types of couples (or singles): "ordinary" people seriously interested in finding others for longterm friendship and fun; the "clique" people who like meeting others, but only if you look like supermodels and want to have orgies (these, we find are generally the 18 to 35 age group for some reason) and usually just want sex and nothing more, and finally those who may or may not be real, but have no intention of actually meeting...they like flirting and trading pics, but when it comes to actually getting togther, something always comes up. :)


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For the people who do respond, thank you. I would much rather get a response than not. At least with a response, you are being acknowledged and that there really is a person in that profile. When you keep getting a no response, I start to wonder if the web site is for real or is there something wrong with me that people don't even want to speak with you. As for idiots that start becoming rude, they should be reported and kicked off the site. This web site is about fun people and if people have an attitude, kick them down the road. If you can't be an adult here you don't belong.

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The exact wording varies but my "Break the Ice" email goes something like: ...Hi, I read Ur profile and think we might be compatible fun. . .Please check out my profile. . .Some word back, Pro or Con, would be appreciated...

I DO read the profiles and avoid incompatible ages. . .Based on their profiles the people I contact are interested in solo males and I judge them to be mature and responsible.

I never get replies back. What's with that.

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SarahJPA........We have talked to someone that feels the way you do. We sent a nice email when she first joined, just said, welcome let us know if you would like to chat more. We have traded emails with her and talked on the phone, have not met her yet. She sent an email to us that she was deleting her profile because she was tired of being treated like a cheap whore by people online. All we can assume, some couples looking for just a single woman are really just a pathetic guy.

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Ok, Here's what's getting to me. I've been on here less than two days and have received alot of Email, I stopped counting at 75. I have tried to respond to each one, but now I am getting return emails from the folks whose messages were appreciated but their invitations were turned down. One guy was a smoker-- and I hate smokers! He didn't take the time to read my profile and he was mad at me for not giving him a chance. If people [single guys specifically] will not read my profile or cannot accept rejection with grace why would I want to stay at SLS? There are alot of options out there and having people throw words at me because what they look like or say doesn't appeal to me, then I'm out. I want to be on this site for meeting really neat people but if I have to dig through a bunch of temper tantrum emails to meet the really cool guys and gals out there, then it's just not worth it.

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We have one for you. This just happened a few days ago.

We received an e mail form a couple that read "do you want to f*** tonight?

our response was "no thank you"

We get back from them "we don't like the way you said that you must be a racist" etc

Funny thing is they didn't have any picture that we anyone could identify what race they were. We both couldn't catch our breath from laughing so hard.

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All of the comments about profiles and dishonesty make sense to me, but I also don't think it is that different than a lot of other social situations in life.

Profiles can be inaccurate for many reasons, but the profile is only the cover of the book. If there is something in it that is appealing, let them know. One of our short-list rules is about smokers, but we find some profiles with smokers where we're still interested in getting to know the couple. We'll say hi.

We like hearing back from people. Yes, no or maybe. If you say no, we'll move on. If you say your busy right now, we'll probably send something back so you don't forget us.

If we don't hear from you and we were really interested, we might follow up later. It's no guarantee.

We're interested in playing, but we have to be right for each other. Poor grammar, rudeness and a multitude of other sins won't help you get friends, jobs, spouse, or play dates. I say be an optimistic human being.

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JackDarlene...

Well said.

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Joey ... we'd vote for sending a 'no thanks' reply. At least that A) acknowledges your receipt of their missive, and B) tells the sender(s) that you're sociable enough to be polite even when you have no immediate interest in pursuing an acquaintance. You never know when you might run into them at a party and see the results of ignoring them. (That happens too)

When we're ignored (fairly often), we're never sure whether it's because something hiccuped in the mail delivery system and they never got it, or they're considering it, or they sent something that we never got (it happens), or they're not interested. I think that never knowing is the worse of the two alternatives. But that's just our opinion, of course, and subject to change without notice. :-)

Live Long and Prosper!

JnD


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If someone reads my profile they will not send an email or instant message me because I ask to allow me to contact. Now, if they send a nice "Hi, just wanted to say I like your pic" I am always polite and say thanks, party on. If someone emails or instant messages and have not read my profile its obvious and I do not feel I need to respond.

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