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It's that Virtue of Selfishness meets War and Peace that gets me in trouble.

Greg, I'm traveling this week and have been sending a few intro emails with very few responses, even of the canned variety. One thing I have noticed is that in this area, many folks have free accounts; Well developed with photos, etc, but still free. So, they're limited to 5 emails a day and I'd bet money they won't waste those on regrets. No matter how strictly they adhere to the teachings of Emily Post, The Swingers Version.

Check out some of the other threads here around SM success and heed the advice given by both couples and singles...and be patient.

Good luck,

BT

NJ...ad infinitum?...You've caused a rather nice disturbance in the force with that one ;-)

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@ greg: welcome (back) to the forums.

something more substantive than "hey" but less than "atlas shrugged" is a good middle ground.

"hello" and one line e mails, per the text in my profile: automatic deletes.

if a person reaching out can't have the respect to try to at least string together a decent introduction, i am not interested in finding out in what other ways they will show a lack of respect for me/my preferences. period.

and as has been discussed ad infinitum, a no response is in itself a response. it may not be polite, but it is a response. when someone takes the time to put together a halfway decent introduction, if i am not interested, i respond with thank you but sorry type note.

there are many reasons many folks don't do that, starting with the "but why" and (my least favorite) slightly abusive rejoinders.

YMMV, JMHO

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I understand that you would like a longer more articulate first contact, but i've Lost count of the number of times that I've sent fairly detailed and articulate first contacts that have received no reply. Pretty soon sending a simple hi or good morning message just to see if there's a response before you take the time to send a longer and more interesting communication simply makes more sense. In the end I don't think I get any less responses then I would with longer first contacts.

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you're welcome!

OT. oh. em. gee.

first e mail from SM. younger than my age range. two--that's all!--two lines of profile. no photos. smoker. joined very recently.

subject: Hey

body of message:Hey

(**delete**)

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Message well received. Thank you!

Abilene TX
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abtx: welcome to the forums!

you will receive more feedback in the "better profiles" section so might want to post there.

more pics .= always a good thing when done "right"

might want to remove repetetive language (referring to drama multiple times, for example) and focus more on positivity/what you *are* seeking rather than what you're "not" interested in/looking for. i "get" what you're saying in your profile unfortunately it comes off overall a bit negative rather than flirty and seeking.

YMMV, JMHO.

again, welcome--and good luck!

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New Member here. First Post and we'd like it to be constructive. How about an option to mandate a quiz of sorts that members initiating contact but first complete? It would take additional work by the members by all, but could be a useful tool.

In the spirit of being constructive, feel free to review and politely criticize our profile. I get the impression it's easy to come off as jerks and we don't want that. However, we don't want to be dishonest either. If pictures are a suggestion, we know. We're getting to that. Just waiting till the mood strikes us so it'll be fun and That will make it more enjoyable for other members.

Bye for now!

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first contact from a couple, obviously did not read my profile--or, if they did, ignored what i said.

"hi we are interested in seeing if you are available to play on saturday night."

gee.

i sent the standard thank you sorry not interested.

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new e mail from free members/over 7 months, zero photos. not a lot of text in the profile, seem nice enough but...new.

"we like your profile. let us know what you think."

enticing.

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FrF: Why don't you replay with a Nigerian scammer email? I found this nice sample:

I will introduce myself I am Mr.Wong du a Banker working in a bank in south Korea Until now I am the account officer to most of the south Korea government accounts and I have since discovered that most of the account are dormant account with a lot of money in the account on further investigation I found out that one particular account belong to the former president of south Korean MR PARK CHUNG HEE,who ruled south Korean from 1963-1979 and this particular account has a deposit of $48m with no next of kin.

My proposal is that since I am the account officer and the money or the account is dormant and there is no next of kin obviously the account owner the former president of South Korea has died long time ago, that you should provide an account for the money to be transferred.

The money that is floating in the bank right now is $48m and this is what I want to transfer to your account for our mutual benefit.

Please if this is okay by you I will advice that you contact me through my direct email address.

Please this transaction should be kept confidential. For your assistance as the account owner we shall share the money on equal basis.

Your reply will be appreciated,

Thank you.

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