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TOPIC: And_THIS_is_why_people_don't_respond_to_emails
Created by: columbiacouple27
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Got an email from a couple recently that quite frankly hadn't really read our profile and were clearly not what we are looking for. We sent them a pretty standard reply basically saying thanks for the email but we're not interested. Got a nastygram back from them basically telling us what losers we are and how after looking at our profile again they're not really interested in us either. We try to reply to every email we get, but this kind of thing is SUCH a turn off that I really can understand why people take the position that no response is really it's own form of response.

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@Zerokini

Hopefully a little help for you here. First and foremost your profile is hidden to couples, otherwise I would have put this in an email. If that is intentional then that will be part of the challenge to meet people. Second. An easy way to get some certs is to attend a meet and greet in your area. (might take a couple of times) Go to the events page and/or hot date and look at events. Many regular meet and greets allow single guys. Go with no expectations other than meeting people and being yourself. Engage couples together, don't wait until the guy goes to the bathroom and engage his better half. (Sadly that happens quite often)

Good luck out there!

Farts

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I have to say, I have three responses to emails:

1) rude emails: the sender gets blocked immediately. I don't email back. I don't feel obliged to respond to assholes. I don't feel that he (it's always a *he*) deserves to read my profile again. I just block him.

2) email inquiries from people I'm not interested in: A polite "no thank you" response. Two lines. I have literally never gotten a nastygram in reply, but if I did, see 1). Often as not, I get a "thank you for your response." People *appreciate* that you've taken the time to reply, even if you say "no."

3) inquiry for someone I'm interested in: It's always easy to say yes.

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I've found, however, that I get FAR better results, myself, if I close my emails with the following call to action:

Please feel free to ping me on Kik at (my Kik ID) if you'd like to chat, or email a polite reply here.

That way if they just want to say "no thanks" politely, they email back. The interested Kik me right away. The disinterested often DO email back politely having been reminded that they shouldn't be assholes.

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The most amusing profile of all was the single guy who wrote a whole paragraph at the end of his profile about how women and couples should be polite and respond to his emails, but he was rude and didn't respond to mine. Not even a "no thank you, not interested."

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As a single male who has sent out several polite emails and received zero responses -- which is okay, I understand and do not think there is ever an excuse for rudeness -- I would not be so quick to reject a single male, as several here have, simply for being members for four years and not having a single cert. You can't get certs until you get to meet someone. (This is not MY problem, btw, I haven't been here long enough to get frustrated, but I can see how a single male could be here for a long time and not get any certs.)

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Oh yes indeed ... it can be amusing.

A guy whose avatar is a shot of his crotch in jeans obviously, or at least apparently, packing a monster, contacted me wanting to connect.

I replied that he should read my profile ... the only email I am interested in is the one that says, "I've got what you're looking for and here's the proof pic you described to prove it. So what does this knucklehead do ... he prints the avatar picture, writes "4 Tam" on it, scans it and sends it to me.

Another guy going by Bradley Dalton on FaceBook sent me some REALLY HOT pics wanting to hook up. Google lets you find images on the Net ... these were of a pro body builder named Denis Sergovsky. Being the curious sort, I just had to know how miserably pathetic this guy's life had to be for him to be trying to scam women with another man's pics ... he Un Friended me ... Imagine That!

Still and all, once you figure out the games, you can meet some fun guys on here. I've found that the real guys, who are who they say, and seriously do want to meet will take the pic I asked for and send it to me straight away. No use wasting time with anyone who doesn't.

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sheplays: indeed! it continues to amaze and, yes, amuse me.

just gotta shake it off. there are good folks out there.

Bridgewater NJ
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Oh Lord can I relate to that!

Not five minutes ago, I got an email from a guy telling me how the mind is the most erotic organ (the mind is an organ?}, and all the tender, loving, romantic things he envisions if we are to meet, including dinner, drinks, dancing and intellectual conversation. While that may be appropriate on match dot com, or even here if the profile expresses an interest in that, it makes no sense to send that to a woman who specifically tells you they are not.

Then there are the couples ... if they really are couples ... who say THEY have an interest in US. "Hello, Earth to the utterly confused ... what part of, 'She Plays But He Does Not,' was less than clear? I get the feeling that there are a lot of poseur single men here masquerading as couples.

Some do read my profile carefully, and then contact me with something like, "I know I don't have what you want, but I promise that you wouldn't be disappointed." REALLY ... if you haven't got what I want, how could I be anything BUT disappointed?

There seem to be no end of guys who open up with a request for a text message ... as if we are not smart enough to understand that sending a text message gives the recipient your phone number.

Nutty world out there!

Knoxville TN
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Thank you Velvet, I will go ahead and change my location to Philadelphia until I head back home. That is a very good idea.

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Incorrigible, I found your last sentence to be very interesting. You are so right, there is no need to be rude at all. That is what separates the men from the boys. BTW I see in your profile you are traveling. You might want to show you are in Philly on your profile before coming home to see if you may find a SF or Couple up there during your visit.

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There is no reason for rudeness. I have been lucky and I am running at about an 80% reply rate to my messages and I think that is because I am respectful and never insulting. I actually read profiles and if I am not a match I do not send a message. Angelmica you have a nice profile with killer pictures and I mean they are fabulous. I think that charming lad (keeping it clean) was jealous of something he wanted but will not have.

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Angelmica, what NiceGuy said.

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