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TOPIC: And THIS is why people don't respond to emails

Created by: columbiacouple27 Original Starting post for this thread:
Got an email from a couple recently that quite frankly hadn't really read our profile and were clearly not what we are looking for. We sent them a pretty standard reply basically saying thanks for the email but we're not interested. Got a nastygram back from them basically telling us what losers we are and how after looking at our profile again they're not really interested in us either. We try to reply to every email we get, but this kind of thing is SUCH a turn off that I really can understand why people take the position that no response is really it's own form of response. C&C

Created by: columbiacouple27
Original Starting post for this thread:

Got an email from a couple recently that quite frankly hadn't really read our profile and were clearly not what we are looking for. We sent them a pretty standard reply basically saying thanks for the email but we're not interested. Got a nastygram back from them basically telling us what losers we are and how after looking at our profile again they're not really interested in us either. We try to reply to every email we get, but this kind of thing is SUCH a turn off that I really can understand why people take the position that no response is really it's own form of response.

C&C

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User Details are only visible to members.	Rude is not acceptable at all and should be handled. We recently had someone interested in meeting us and we declined politely. They responded in kind and the sun came out the next day!
Fairburn GA			Username hidden (54 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think it is too Much hype put on this profile business, bottom line is everyone is here for the same thing at the end of the day, just in a different way, and with rules. If you get lots of emails in a day, and it is not what the doctor order, then , may be the profile is given the wrong message, and maybe you could send out a auto response. Nevertheless, rude is uneceptable, and disrespectful. If it is not what I wanted, kindly tell them, your great but were looking for ??. Because remember no one is perfect and you do have some crazies around, if they get rud then you move on. Kindness will kill the them.
Baldwin NY			Username hidden (25 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It is rude to some extent to not reply, but you also have to understand that if you send a message with something so generic as "hey sexy I wanna hit that" or similar, thats just a very unattractive way of starting up a comversation. Also if a single man sends a message to a couple with out reading their profile which clearly states no single men, do you really ecpect a reply? i know the day I signed up here I got 300 messages within the time I was at work. It is not easy to respond to300 messages in a timely manner. Just my take on it all.
Sarasota FL			Username hidden (1 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	If we sent an email to a couple who had the following. NO BI MEN WE ARE ONLY INTERESTED IN BLACK SINGLE BBW WOMEN. As a white couple with a bi man and a non BBW woman.........Wouldnt we be the dumb asses? Are they really jerks if they dont respond to us?
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think when this topic comes up we argue 2 different points. The majority of our emails come from people who are not even remotely close to what we are looking for. Well outside our age range, way too far away, or straight. And they include nothing that we ask for such as pics or more than one line. So those, we personally think when it comes to being rude "they started it" I think the other point being argued is people who do email, and are generally looking for the same thing, but there is a lack of personal interest on the part of the receiver. Such as if we had another couple who was bi, around our age, and local who sent us a nice email with pics. They are a "match". But for whatever reason, we arent attracted to them lets say. Then YES YES YES I agree it would be rude for us not to respond to them. When someone takes the time to read your profile, write you a personal email, include what you ask for.....They do deserve the courtesy of a response good or bad.
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	There is no excuse for not responding or being nasty, a simple how are you or some tasteful and respectful response is good enought, because the same way people want there profile read is the same thought you should take in giving someone a response back.
Baldwin NY			Username hidden (25 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	To say no response is really a reponse is disrespectful to the sender in our opinion. We all want respectable members here and to ignore, or not reponse, to a message isn't right. I agree that a response might bring on a nastygram but by responding you did not disrespect the sender. If you get a nastygram following a reply, then you can ignore them because retaliation is just stooping to their level of inmaturity. We have sent many messages that get read but remain unreplied. Have a good night
West Des Moines IA			Username hidden (1 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Snug. i just noticed some profiles do that and probably going to try that here
Mount Juliet TN			Username hidden (662 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	How about this for members getting lots of emails that they want to filter (solo males don't have this problem) AND wanting to ENSURE the emails come from people who read their profile (which is understandable & only polite). Seems like I've seen this idea in a Profile or two -- Somewhere deep, but certainly NOT hidden, in the Profile tell emailers that the email "Subject" line must start with or contain some word in order for the email to be read rather than deleted. ...maybe even add a heart-felt explanation for the requirement. It's like a Bouncer at the door that speaks volumes about those who do and don't comply.
Foley AL			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I believe people don't respond.is for a lot of reasons other than being rude ,like The way you look, location, age, boldness, the unknown, My husband and I are always polite, we have tried several email attemp, from let get to know you to let meet for fun at a event, but on several occasions , we get no response, or the old brush off. Now I can't go into every detail which we tried, but I know that we are a lovely black gentle couple who are not afraid to make the first move. Nevertheless, 9 out of 10 we have read the profile, and everyone want to meet they claim. Can somebody tell me something cause we are baffled, From ellease always kind.
Baldwin NY			Username hidden (25 post)

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