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TOPIC: And THIS is why people don't respond to emails
Created by: columbiacouple27
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Got an email from a couple recently that quite frankly hadn't really read our profile and were clearly not what we are looking for. We sent them a pretty standard reply basically saying thanks for the email but we're not interested. Got a nastygram back from them basically telling us what losers we are and how after looking at our profile again they're not really interested in us either. We try to reply to every email we get, but this kind of thing is SUCH a turn off that I really can understand why people take the position that no response is really it's own form of response.

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this morning's gem from a SM who has two lines of text in his profile, no open pics, and no open pic attached to his "message"

subject: hi

message: fre today?

my response: no.

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AA: seriously well written, and also seriously well written profile. kudos.

not many take the time to read or look beyond the photos; your profile and approach most definitely will weed out incompatible folks.

good luck during your revisit to the playzones.

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Mr AA here. I wrote this in another thread as well.

When we are not interested, I simply answer our mail with variations of this response; "Thank you for the respectful and polite mail. We like to give a respectful response one way or the other. It's not a match, but we sincerely wish you exciting times and great memories in the lifestyle."

Surprisingly, the high majority answer with a thank you for at least giving an answer. Sometimes we get an even warmer response, and only a few here and there simply leave it alone. Of course on a rare occasion, we get the lifestyle no-no question of 'why?'.

We simply reply with, "Even though it's not lifestyle etiquette to ask why, we like helping people to understand lifestyle nuances and help promote a better environment for all, so we will leave you with some information. Attraction is mostly a subconscious desire and cannot be definitively explained. For instance; 40 stunningly beautiful men and women could be in a room, yet not everyone would be attracted to everyone else of the opposite sex. Some of us know we need physical attraction first, others do not. In addition, a personality, intelligence and humor can go a long way to help OR detract from the overall attraction, so therefore the question is far too complex to truly define."

In around 8 years and hundreds of initial emails, there have only been maybe 7 negative responses to either our first or second replies.

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Even after a rejection we respond back with this: Thank you very much for the reply. We know it is hard enough to meet your soulmate so to get four people to have the right sexual chemistry is even tougher. Just for a future thought we always enjoy a quick night out for a drink or even a coffee with some open sexual conversation if things should change keep us in mind.

If our paths should cross lets say Hi

Be Healthy, Be Happy, Be Horny

Nancy & Rich

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about 20 messages in the past couple days.

most of 'em, first time contact.

what they all have in common?

*not a match for various reasons clearly mentioned in my profile *"Hi" (or Hey) as the subject *messages are all about three words long. "How r u?"

~delete~

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two messages from the same guy, first contact. he smokes, states in his profile that he's sort of bicurious and is interested in exploring that, and both of his opening messages say "let's chat to meet"

(a read of my profile says he obviously *didn't* read it before messaging me.)

time for the "really, dude?" button again.

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mrno: mostly everyone receives a polite response from me, even yesterday's message received a thanks but no thanks.

when the writer of a message to me shows so little effort in engaging my interest at the outset...it fosters a belief in my mind that as little (possibly less) effort will be put forth elsewhere. i could be wrong of course, but the little free time that i have for pursuing further acquaintance is too precious to expend only to find out my first impression was accurate. so i politely decline.

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njnybiwfemme, I would be happy to get an e-mail like that.<g>

Some people who are not interested in me send a polite "no thank you". Good to know there are nice people on SLS. For those who do not respond, I tell myself they are busy with little time to respond to a single male. It makes my life easier not to get angry about such things.

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this morning's message of the day:

"if u wanna relax 1 day let me know"

gee...thanks?

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thanks BT, i knew somehow you'd pick up on that.

nice to...disturb the...force.

;)

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TOPIC: And THIS is why people don't respond to emails