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Created by: bellasera Original Starting post for this thread:
I've been chatting with three couples located somewhat close to my area. We would exchange emails / photos and communicate afterwards that we are looking forward to meeting. This is after a week or two of emailing. Then nothing. I have a rule to send 2 messages after the last email (spread out over a 2-3 day period) if I don't hear from them for a few days. If I don't get a response, I move on. No harm no foul I guess. One thing is that I do communicate much more with the male half and I do ask if I can communicate with the female half also but this has yet to happen. It's usually small talk and some inquiries and answers about what we like to do physically. I'm pretty mainstream - not into BDSM/pain/humiliation etc. I mention I do like 3sums and really love MMF. Question - would it be more likely that 1.) the female half is not interested 2.) other reason. What are your thoughts? I'm trying to figure out what I wrote that offended people and nothing comes to mind.

Created by: bellasera
Original Starting post for this thread:

I've been chatting with three couples located somewhat close to my area.  We would exchange emails / photos and communicate afterwards that we are looking forward to meeting.  This is after a week or two of emailing.  Then nothing.  I have a rule to send 2 messages after the last email (spread out over a 2-3 day period) if I don't hear from them for a few days.  If I don't get a response, I move on.  No harm no foul I guess.  

One thing is that I do communicate much more with the male half and I do ask if I can communicate with the female half also but this has yet to happen.  It's usually small talk and some inquiries and answers about what we like to do physically.  I'm pretty mainstream - not into BDSM/pain/humiliation etc.  I mention I do like 3sums and really love MMF.  Question - would it be more likely that 1.) the female half is not interested 2.) other reason.  What are your thoughts?  I'm trying to figure out what I wrote that offended people and nothing comes to mind.

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User Details are only visible to members.	Good advice from all the respondents here, a good reminder to be cautious & use common sense. Bellasera, if you have been behaving w/integrity and the other party/ies flake, remember, it's not YOU who is doing something "wrong," but THEM!
New York NY			Username hidden (19 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'd bet you that your disappearing people are (pick any combination) cheaters, pretenders, or SM's with fake profiles. We WON'T discuss things like cup sizes, cock sizes, positional preferences, or any sexual activities until we've met with both halves at a public place. It's just safer that way. Call them. If they're serious, they'll have no real issue with giving you a ph #. If she's always out shopping or in the shower, or at her mother's place, and never available to chat on the phone, you can bet that you're being played.
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (627 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	we make it quite plain that if writers claim to be a couple, we will need soon to talk to the female. We have a Google voice # that enables us to selectively block callers
New York NY			Username hidden (149 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sounds like you've been tricked into chatting with pervs not just once, but three times. The solution is not to chat, text or have excessive email contact until you've met them in person.
Virginia Beach VA			Username hidden (268 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We've seen the same thing happen over and over. People that would never behave like that in their 'normal' life seem to think that in the swing world it's ok to just not follow through or communicate what's up. We don't mind being told 'No Thanks, you aren't for us', but let us know that, rather than just going poof.
Baton Rouge LA			Username hidden (1 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I've found there are a lot of flakes here. Then again, I'm a single guy. For a single woman, I would not imagine it being hard to find people. You just have to chalk it up to people being flaky and immature.
Hoover AL			Username hidden (10 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I've been chatting with three couples located somewhat close to my area. We would exchange emails / photos and communicate afterwards that we are looking forward to meeting. This is after a week or two of emailing. Then nothing. I have a rule to send 2 messages after the last email (spread out over a 2-3 day period) if I don't hear from them for a few days. If I don't get a response, I move on. No harm no foul I guess. One thing is that I do communicate much more with the male half and I do ask if I can communicate with the female half also but this has yet to happen. It's usually small talk and some inquiries and answers about what we like to do physically. I'm pretty mainstream - not into BDSM/pain/humiliation etc. I mention I do like 3sums and really love MMF. Question - would it be more likely that 1.) the female half is not interested 2.) other reason. What are your thoughts? I'm trying to figure out what I wrote that offended people and nothing comes to mind.
Albany OR			Username hidden (36 post)

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