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Created by: NaperGLCPL Original Starting post for this thread:
Okay, as I write this I realize the potential onslaught of responses like "you and everyone else" etc. We have been dabbling in the ls for a short time, and would like some honest feedback from those who know better than us.... - We are really focused on finding females who play solo with or without their significant other present. ...."you and everyone else" we know. What suggestions can be provided when looking for a solo female who may be part of a couple? - We have visited a couple clubs and really like the open sexual vibe, and the exhibitionism / voyeur aspect. We are both friendly and like chatting with others at these events. In our heads although we will chat for a while it is not necessarily going to lead to swap. We would like to make friends, of like minds, even if we dont have interest in swapping. The idea of having friends, again of like minds, without the expectation of swapping at the end of the night is attractive to us at this stage. Is this type of relationship common in the ls? If so what recommendations can be made to seek out and establish friendships of this kind? We know this post may just be common beginner topics and would appreciate any real feedback possible. Thanks in advance!

Created by: NaperGLCPL
Original Starting post for this thread:

Okay, as I write this I realize the potential onslaught of responses like "you and everyone else" etc. 
We have been dabbling in the ls for a short time, and would like some honest feedback from those who know better than us....

- We are really focused on finding females who play solo with or without their significant other present. ...."you and everyone else" we know. What suggestions can be provided when looking for a solo female who may be part of a couple? 

- We have visited a couple clubs and really like the open sexual vibe, and the exhibitionism / voyeur aspect. We are both friendly and like chatting with others at these events. In our heads although we will chat for a while it is not necessarily going to lead to swap. We would like to make friends, of like minds, even if we dont have interest in swapping.  The idea of having friends, again of like minds, without the expectation of swapping at the end of the night is attractive to us at this stage.
       Is this type of relationship common in the ls? If so what recommendations  can be made to seek out and establish friendships of this kind?  

We know this post may just be common beginner topics and would appreciate any real feedback possible. 
Thanks in advance!

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User Details are only visible to members.	Happier than chupacabra dance party in Akron! ZZ
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User Details are only visible to members.	That happens more often than not at Zebu Tiki Hut, somewhere south of disorder. Our patrons are sexier than a headless, blogging boobie from Ohio. ZZ
Treasure Is FL			Username hidden (6109 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	your female half is very attractive. if she is seriously into girls, your best bet is to let her work on a "friendship" with a single female. the more comfortable they get, the easier it will be for the single to get comfortable with you. everyone knows what we're here for, but you usually need to let it start between the girls. they have guys trying to crawl on them everywhere they go. be patient, and you might end up where you want to be.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Thank you JK and Tyme for the responses. We rapidly realized that this site is not really designed for finding single females.... but we will still throw the line in the water. We do enjoy the exhibitionism side of this LS and have had quite a bit of fun at the clubs. Last sat we had a very nice experience which we will detail in our profile once we have time. The jist of it was meeting a hot couple where the she part of that couple played a bit with both of us, and the he part of the couple watched and let his hands feel what you cant see in our pics. The clubs seem to be a great place to do what we really love.... sit back, chat with people, have a couple drinks, talk and play naughty. It is pretty hot playing while people may...or realistically are watching. All that being said our main goal remains finding the girl who plays solo since that is what makes us most excited. :D
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User Details are only visible to members.	None of the single females we have played with were “lifestyle” people. Jk4 is right about what the few unicorns on this site want. You are really better off seeking them out at locations outside of this one like clubs on ladies night! We consider ourselves extremely lucky to have had more single females than couples. Best of luck to you! Chad
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User Details are only visible to members.	welcome to the forums Naper! yes, it's question that is asked often, and no it's not really a common problem. anyone who's been in the lifestyle very long as a couple, will tell you that trying to find four people willing to fuck each other is somewhere along the lines of hitting a 98 mile and hour fast ball, let's start here: "we are really focused on finding females who play solo or without their significant other present." why? why without her significant other? would you trust your significant other to go play with another couple? not. and do you know how i know this? because you don't even want to see your s.o. play with someone right in front of you. why is this not a common problem? 1. this may be one of the worst places to find a playmate, male or female 2. females do not need to look at the lifestyle for guys, they are everywhere 3. most of the single girls here are looking for two things, hotassed bi girls. and BIG dick, if hotassed bi girl has a husband, he may be lucky enough to grab sloppy seconds when his lady is done. unless husband plays the ace in the hole, (aka, a dick that belong on a quarter horse) and whips that coke can shaped beast out. you're now living the dream. so for the rest of us, the best bet you have of getting yourself a girlfriend, is to go to work, school, the bar, grocery store, church, house next door, and just start reading the signs. girls OUTSIDE the lifestyle may be more inclined to have a conversation that may lead to a discussion that may lead to one or both of you getting lucky. if you're lucky and smart, you will never bring your new friend around other swingers
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User Details are only visible to members.	Okay, as I write this I realize the potential onslaught of responses like "you and everyone else" etc. We have been dabbling in the ls for a short time, and would like some honest feedback from those who know better than us.... - We are really focused on finding females who play solo with or without their significant other present. ...."you and everyone else" we know. What suggestions can be provided when looking for a solo female who may be part of a couple? - We have visited a couple clubs and really like the open sexual vibe, and the exhibitionism / voyeur aspect. We are both friendly and like chatting with others at these events. In our heads although we will chat for a while it is not necessarily going to lead to swap. We would like to make friends, of like minds, even if we dont have interest in swapping. The idea of having friends, again of like minds, without the expectation of swapping at the end of the night is attractive to us at this stage. Is this type of relationship common in the ls? If so what recommendations can be made to seek out and establish friendships of this kind? We know this post may just be common beginner topics and would appreciate any real feedback possible. Thanks in advance!
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